My boyfriend and I had a discussion last weekend about our relationship and where we stand together. He said that he is not the kind of guy who will just say that we will be together forever without thinking about everything carefully. He says he prefers to think about things before making such decisions. Also he added he is still building his career so he has enough stress with that. He said that we had some difficult situations together before like arguments and this makes him hesitate to be sure about us. He said that he feels under pressure as I told him I wanted to know where this relationship is going. He said that we need to spend some time apart to see where we stand together. He has pulled away since and I haven't heard from him since Monday. He has gone from being so sweet to me a month ago to being silent and distant? I am feeling a little worried not sure what is going on and what should I do now? I am not even sure when am I going to see him next as he has not said so?
2006-08-30 10:48:30 · 17 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just get away from him, and find a new man
2006-08-30 10:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Big D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so he's a thinker, but you too have been thinking about where your relationship is going and needed some reassurance. I was in a similar situ. not so long ago and was advised if i ask a direct question and my b/f answered straight away and with confidence i could belive him, but if he hesitates and goes quiet and evasive that should be an real indication that he's not into you as much as you would like perhaps. Sure a career build can be stressful but for him to say you both need to spend time apart to see where you stand sounds to me like he's not worth waiting around for. I'd suggest you don't contact him and then see if he calls, i would bet you don't hear from him again, it may be quite painfull but you will move on - wishing you good luck! ps men are confused 24/7 !
2006-08-30 18:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by phildon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys do not like to talk about where thier relationships are going. They are usually concerned with the here and now if everything is going good in thier eyes. Im sure he felt very pressured by you. That is the reason he pulled away,,he dont want to feel like you are giving him an ultimatum. If i were you i wouldnt call him,,give him his space that hes looking for. If he really loves you and wants to be with you then he will get in contact with you when hes ready. For future references dont be to demanding to a man because as you see they will pull away. good luck
2006-08-30 17:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go. yea if he comes back, if its not too late, then cosider taking him back but basically to have a good relationship neither of the persons involved need to back out like he is doing not matter what is going on. That should mark him as unstable in your eyes and thats obviously not what you want. This kind of instability will not give you the secure relationship you want and need. Granted he has other priorities but that doesn't mean you guys have to stop seeing one another or take breaks. You want to be with some one who is sure they want to be with you and this guy isn't.
2006-08-30 17:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by josh/julie m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man seriously believes that people in successful relationships never argue then he is obviously too immature for a proper, adult relationship.
You will be better off forgetting about this man & moving on with your life.
Some men just aren't as ready for adult relationships as women of the same age I'd move on
2006-08-30 17:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him time and space to think it over, maybe you had chosen not so right time to discuss such things to him, specially as you said, he was under pressure about his career. So just give him some time. And remember, sometimes when we have something, we just forget how valuable is that to us. Maybe not seeing you for sometime, will remind her your values! I wish you luck.
2006-08-30 18:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by Masoud J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lucky for you, i have the EXACT same situation going on for me. i kinda asked the guy where we stand. and that was the last time i spoke to him. that was two weeks ago. we haven't spoken or seen each other since. i, honestly, think that if you feel like this is a guy worth pursuing then do it. if you feel like you can move on and live without him, then do that. just go with your gut feeling.
2006-08-30 17:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by sweeternity2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
typical man they make me angry good on you for asking where you stand he's probably got a little scared but if he cant handle the relationship he shouldnt be in one,also you need to now get in touch with him and ask whats going on he dont need time to think he knows exactly what he wants and you got a life to be getting in with
2006-08-30 18:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, unless you really love this guy, forget him, if he really cared he wouldnt want to spend time apart. dont waste time on a guy who doesnt wanna be with you, sounds like hes met someone else in the past month for him to change so dramatically. hope you get it sorted.
2006-08-30 17:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by The Way 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance to think but if u didn't see any response just leave him alone he already get someone that he love more than u.
2006-09-03 12:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by tomapepe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋