Respect your brothers wishes. It may mean the difference between peace and a fight with his wife. Poor fellow has enough problems with aggravating an existing issue. I feel sorry for you though because you obviously care for him. Send him a card and maybe he will be able to read it.
2006-08-30 10:41:24
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answered by Proud to be an American 4
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I think "they" is the wife of your brother and not actually your brother. My advice, just show up and see him, I bet he really wants to see you and your other siblings that his wife has cut out of his life before he passes away. Why not get the other siblings that have been cut out to go with you as well. Standing up as a group can often be more intimidating than standing alone.
My guess is that this is the wife's way of sticking it to you. She feels she can keep you out of his life, and perhaps later throw some sort of guilt trip on you or say hurtful things that you won't be able to resolve after your brother passes away. She sounds like a real witch to me.
2006-08-30 10:42:41
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answered by snl 3
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Look that is YOUR brother and if he is sick you will never get this chance again. How could his wife be so cruel? How can he allow it ? You said he was told to choose by her, well if he is gonna die than there is no more choosing to choose. Pick up your phone and call her and try to be nice and just say look, my brother is about to die, we never got time to spend together before reguardless of the reason, now he is deathly sick, please alow me to just be here and spend time with him now........ also let her know that God does not like ugly and what goes around comes around, what she is doing to your brother will be done to her... Good luck, I wish you the best. Not to be rude but he should have never had to make a decission between you and his wife, that is crazy.
2006-08-30 11:09:43
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answered by Robyn D 2
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You should insist to talk to him. Do you want your brother to die without you saying goodbye? I would call the house, and keep calling if the evil wife hangs up on you. If that does not work, I would have your younger sister or someone else to talk to him, then while they are on the phone, you take the phone and start talking to him.
2006-08-30 10:43:27
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answered by Anonymous
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I'm so sorry. I hope that your brother will come around and choose to see the people in the family. I must say that if i were going to lose my brother I would insist on seeing him. But I am not in the situation you are in. But ask yourself, if he passes without you seeing him how will you feel? Try to get the chance to say goodbye, everyone needs closure.
Blessed Be!
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
2006-08-30 10:40:44
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answered by Anonymous
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I am very sorry about your situation, all I can suggest is for you to pray and pray for him and even his wife. To let your brother know how much you care about him, just send him a postcard every now and then. He'll appreciate that. At the same time you are showing his wife respect for her feelings. Always be a lady about it. Don't go low. OK.
God Bless you.
2006-08-30 10:45:44
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answered by Mother of three 4
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I think you should do whatever is in your heart. W/O worry of
your family members. I would personally go visit my brother. I
would need to see the whites of his eyes when or if he refused
to see me. I'd need to let him know I've always loved him. I've
never resented nor harbored ill feelings towards him or his wife.
I'd need to attempt to make peace.
If he insisted he didn't want to see me, I'd put him into the Lord's
hands. I would leave him alone & pray for him.
I would not hold grudges. I'd feel fine. I would take comfort in
the fact, I tried.
Good Lucl!
2006-08-30 10:46:14
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answered by anitababy.brainwash 6
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Respecting his wishes as you say is important and that part I understand, but since you emphasize that his initial reasoning behind distancing himself from you was solely based on having to choose, I would much rather pray that you would care to share that with him in person. I mean if he really doesn't want to see you that's one thing, but think about it really. He's dying, he's not going to be around, this is it. Give yourself some closure and give him the peace to be able to see you and make closure with you ~ my opinion. Prayers =)
2006-08-30 10:38:44
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answered by Anonymous
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It sounds like your younger sister has made some progress by being able to speak to your brother by phone. Why not have her call him and then put you on the phone?
2006-08-30 10:49:10
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answered by Nefertiti 5
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This IS your brother's choice. While it hurts you, it IS his right. I suggest you try writing him a letter. Tell him what you wish to say to him. Perhaps he will ask you to visit, or perhaps his wife will never show him the letter. But, it IS his decision. My brother died about a year ago, and I never spoke to him. That's how I wanted it, and that's how it was. Things that happen, sometimes NEVER are forgotten.
2006-08-30 10:43:00
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answered by Anonymous
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