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Ok, if you read this please tell me what the next part means:

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Ok so after all that right, I saw my ex on Monday, since we are trying to do the friend thing, he came over so we could watch a movie. The movie was boring so we turned it off and we just talked about whatever. Well to me it seemed like he was flirting a little bit, not in a really obvious way, but said somethings that were things he's say before we split up nonetheless.

He asked about how I was and this new guy that likes me, (I told him about this other guy who likes me that I hung out with a couple of times) and he didn't really say anything, just got quiet and then was like just wear a condom. I told him he knew where I stand on that issue (I have only been with 2 people and don't plan on being with too many more) and then I changed the subject.

So then he started being a smarta$$ like always and out of habit, I pinched his nipple like I used to when he was like that. Then he said I can't do that b/c it does stuff. I know what he means by that.

Then he was like "I was gonna smack your *** when I came in out of habit", and "I wasn't gonna tell you that, but it was funny."

now I told a guy friend about it and he said that he was testing the waters to see if we could maybe become friends with benefits. He said that he just wants to get laid and he doesn't want to hurt you but he wants some anyway and he came to you first.

Now would guys really do that to someone they still love and knows that the girl still wants to be with them? I mean intentionally mess with their emotions? And if so why?

I love him a lot, but I know htat I wouldn't be able to handle that. How can you tell if that's what he is doing?

Answer 1

He probably wants to get laid, but that doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. If it's true that he doesn't have time to be with you but can make time for a little sex, that can make you feel like crap, but that doesn't mean he doesn't love you, he just might not be able to fully let you go, and he doesn't want to be with anyone else, but doesn't want to hurt you either.

He is probably confused too, since he knows he can't just come out and ask for it b/c you'll think of it as getting back together. Ask him about it. Guys live in the moment, they don't live in the past. That's why they can forget stuff and act like it never happened. I would just see what happens, but don't sleep with him unless you get back together, it will only hurt that much more when he gets up and goes home that night...

Answer 2

It seems he is trying to get into the friend mode, but hasn't made it yet.
Sure he wants you to be happy with your new guy, but is still unsure about letting go of you, totally.
It's one thing, knowing your ex is dating, but knowing she may be having sex too, can throw you for a loop. Emotions, are not that easily changed or controlled, so he may be having trouble with that.
Being a friend, after being intimate, is very difficult, there is so much baggage hanging around.
It's going to take a lot of time and work, to settle things down.
It's not an easy situation to handle, and often just doesn't work.
I hope it works for you, but don't be surprised, if you see a lot less of him in the future.

Answer 3

Okay so I'm not a guy BUT: I suggest you read a book called "He's just not that into you". It was written by one of the writers for "Sex In The City". He probably likes you and a lot of things about you... he's just not into you enough to carry it further.... other then casual sex if you'll give it to him.

Answer 4

It sounds like he wants sex, but doesn't want the responsibility of being in a relationship.

Answer 5

geezzz...... he's just not that into you
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