Dear all, I cannot change my behaviour, I have tried...but still, if i continue this way, i will destroy everyone around me. I take small things too much too heart and i make big problems out of small problems. i lose my mind, cannot concentrate and get heavy palpitations if someone i care about "hurts" me. what i really hate is when that person considers the issue minor while in my perception, it is something worth crying for, or running to my doc's to check my blood pressure because i get scared with my reaction although i know that my brain shouldn't allow these to happen. in the end, i look silly. and everyone's response is: you act impulsively and take everything to heart. still, i don't think my reactions are always like that of a crazy person. what happens to me most often is that i cry while other people(e.g.my boyfriend) laughs at me saying that it is silly. i hate the laughing part.He is a sadist then?!Ugh....
2006-08-30 10:16:37 · 6 answers · asked by LadyPandora 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's not a matter of changing your behavior, but of changing your perspective. You're a sensitive person. That you can't change. You perceive the world in an emotional way. You need to find a perspective of life that allows you to be a little more philosophical and less emotionally attached to situations.
As for the b/f's reaction.... He is limited by how he sees the world which is obviously not as emotionally sensitive as you. So, he has no frame of reference to understand why you feel as you do.
Sounds like you also need to learn a few techniques to calming yourself down. Check out a meditation or yoga class.
2006-08-30 10:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Shaman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if you need some counseling on how to cope with everyday issues. At least you acknowledge that your reactions are over the top. That's probably a good starting point. From there, I think a good therapist should be able to help you to learn appropriate coping skills for when you are feeling overwhelmed. I don't think your boyfriends laughing at you is because he's a sadist. It's probably because he doesn't know what else to do anymore because he's seen these reactions from you so many times. I wish you luck!
2006-08-30 10:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by faithfilled1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Apparently you have a sensitive nature. That's not a bad thing in and of itself, however, you over emphasize everything, which is worsened by the anxiety you feel. Have you spoken to a counselor about it? There's nothing wrong with having feelings, but you need to learn control and a counselor could help you with that. I'd be interested in hearing how things go for you. Email me anytime at sassybree1979@yahoo.com. Good luck.
2006-08-30 10:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I sometimes over react for minor things as well and I don't think anything is wrong with me. However, after talking to my girlfriend about my concerns she advised me I needed to get Zoloft - she said she did the same thing until she got on this medication
2006-08-30 10:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by LaDonna J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! you need to seek professional help which we here can't give you. I could give you all kinds of advise, but believe me you need to see someone who can professionally handle your problem. The boy friend should support you more and not make fun of you -
2006-08-30 10:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by Dale 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask your doctor...make sure that what happens to you is not a mediacal problem...if there is nothing wrong she a counsiler because maybe there is a phyological thing behind the behavior
2006-08-30 10:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by foreverspoiledprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋