I've been with my BF for 3 1/2 years and lately, I have been so CURIOUS about a co-worker. I'm not even sure if this co-worker is attracted to me, but we do flirt fairly consistent. My BF is a great guy and I hope to get married to him someday (and he feels the same way for me), but I feel that I can not shove away this curiosity. I've only been with one other guy, and I'm afraid that when I do get married, this curiosity for other men would even get bigger! And I am not one for cheating. I'm afraid to lose him because we are so right together, but at the same time, I feel I need to experience being with other guys. What should I do?
2006-08-30 10:03:24 · 9 answers · asked by Lanica J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no its not even worth it
2006-08-30 10:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by imHereAskMe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to start really thinking about if your current BF is really what you want for the rest of your life. You might just be really happy with your current circumstances, but you are young and you still want to experience life. Your best bet if you really want to stay with your BF, is to keep it friendly at work and nothing else. Just having the flirting and maybe even a little fantasy can go a lot further then having a relationship with this guy at work. You could cross the line and make work harder then it needs too. Don't ruin a good friendship, and don't do anything without talking things over with your bf.
2006-08-30 10:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i think you still have curiosity and only been with one guy before your boyfriend,,you should let your boyfriend know how you are feeling and tell him the truth. why risk something with a great guy you say you love for curiosity? there are not too many good guys out there,,thats what i dont understand about some women,,,,if you have someone good why screw it up for a what if,or curiosity??? if you are wanting to check out other men ,,tell your boyfriend the truth and he he says its ok and he might just do the same thing as you( and dont get mad at him) then see how things work out for the two of you. personally i just wouldnt risk a good relationship.
2006-08-30 10:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have such a great guy then keep him, there are not so many of them going about, is it really worth it losing him for a satisfactions of curiosity, if you have chosen to be with your b/f and want to marry him then be content, other wise let him go and satisfy your curiosity, probably only to regret it in the end when you realise the grass isnt greener, and your mate has gone
2006-08-30 10:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by purplepatty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I REALLY DON'T UNDERSTAND YOU. YOU SAID YOUR BOYFRIEND IS A GREAT GUY AND YOU HOPE TO GET MARRY TO HIM, SO WHY THE CURIOSITY. I THINK YOU SHOULD FORGET ABOUT THIS ,IF YOU CAN'T YOU SHOULD TRY TALKING TO YOUR BOYFRIEND ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE FEELING. I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD RISK YOUR RELATIONSHIP OF 31/2 YEARS FOR SOME CURIOSITY. YOU ARE ALSO NOT SURE IF YOUR CO-WORKER IS ATTRACTED TO YOU,PLEASE DON'T RISK RELATIONSHIP. GOOD LUCK ON WHATEVER YOU DO.
2006-08-30 10:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by ZANA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The arguing could have been hurting to him. i'm particular there became call calling occurring too. He possibly has geared up a wall around him whilst it comprises you(the single that hurts him) therefor, he's, in a manner, in a numb point. i'm no longer asserting you probably did no longer have a stunning to be indignant. you probably did have a stunning. He could on no account have cheated on you. the ingredient is, the two you forgive him for what he did, and as quickly as I say forgive him, meaning, on no account carry it up back. in case you nonetheless carry it up, you haven't any longer forgiven him., or the two enable him circulate. you will on no account forget approximately what befell, yet you could stay with it. it could take counseling. Relationships are perplexing. somewhat piece of advice: continuously placed him until now you and he could continuously placed you until now himself. you be certain his desires are met and vice-versa. sturdy luck. communique is significant.
2016-09-30 04:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by marceau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is an amusement park. Some people are rollercoasters, some are merry-go-rounds. What do I mean? If you want to play it safe stick to the BF (Merry-go-round) or take the chance (Rollercoaster). Me personally, I am a tilt-a-whirl, I don't know what the f*#@ I am doing.
2006-08-30 10:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that feeling...its the thrill...i know its hard but keep on pushing. think about it. can u see a future w/your co-worker? do you love your bf? how much do you love your bf? believe me, im in the same shoes and i have cheated on the love of my life b/c of the thrill it gave me. personally, i regret it, but theres nothing i could do about it-its already been done. whatever you do follow your heart. i wish you the best of luck w/whatever you decide to do
2006-08-30 10:12:10 · answer #8 · answered by soul.searcher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're committed then you're committed. if you aren't then you aren't. you can't have both. if you want to find out about other men then you need to break this off. you just have to decide what you want most.
other men are usually a disappointment. i'd stick with what works.
2006-08-30 10:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by lucky c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋