I have recently started a new job, and theres this boy who i really like and he really likes me. We was going to get to know each other and maybe be more than just friends but i told him i dont want a work relationship. I have got to be carefull because i am on a 3 month trial thing and work is quite strict. I didnt want a relationship with someone who i work with becuase i would see them all day everyday and outside of work and i think it would be to much, i also think i wouldnt be able to do my job properly knowing what ive done with that person. I feel really bad and i still have feelings for him. Do you think i should go for it or is it for the best?
2006-08-30 09:51:57 · 27 answers · asked by Em 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also thought about that if we did become more than just friends but then split.. work would become hard and i would find it hard working there seeing him everyday. maybe it is for the best. Thankyou for all your comments its put my mind a ease.
2006-08-30 10:00:01 · update #1
You made the right decision. What if things don't work out? Then your work relationship would become awkward and the bosses would notice something lacking in your work. You will have the chance to meet someone outside of work.
2006-08-30 09:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by Miss J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well... I'm not sure what you're comfortable with, but I don't think I'd have a problem working with someone that I was 'with' outside of work as well. If you like him I think you should go for it. Good people are hard to come by and it'd be a shame to pass up on someone who could potentially be a great guy just because you two work with one another. Size him up as best you can and make sure you think he's capable of being more than friends with you outside of work but keeping the work relationship just that, a work relationship. Hopefully you can do the same.
2006-08-30 09:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends whether or not you are 16 and this is some high school job or you are 26 and this is your career you are starting. If it is just a starter job than who cares....go for the relationship. However, if it is a job you care about it is worth spending 2 seconds thinking about or at least long enough to pose the question on yahoo answers. Jobs come and go.
2006-08-30 09:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by fb2kool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure there is no company policy prohibiting romantic relationships between co-workers. Regardless, your intuition is correct, that getting involved with a co-worker can be a bad idea if it doesn't work out in the end. But, on the other side, you'll never know if it could be something really special. Just make sure your job doesn't prohibit it.
2006-08-30 09:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since the company is giving you the usual 3 month trial, so why don't you try to give that child a after 3 month trial to begin with. as for the time you can sow and wait for the time to harvest for who'll know what fruit maybe ripped, eventhough there are some company out there may forbid of such choice to be of making, but is your life is of their or is it of your own. and if they're trully a wise company like other they should know that couple that have their bond within the company are loyal to company than those who are single.
2006-08-30 10:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by marxice21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are smart by not getting into a relationship with him. Once he quits or if you get a new job, then you both can get married or do whatever. But while at the same work, it's too dangerous.
2006-08-30 09:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Tones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work and relationship is hard. That would eventually cause some kind of drama. Maybe not now, but down the road. Just be careful whatever you do.
2006-08-30 09:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Susa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Considering the ninty day probational period on the job, you did the right thing. Workplace romances normally involves someone getting burn. I think its best for right now for you and this gentleman to be just friends.
2006-08-30 09:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by Maria Gallercia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me from experience that you don't want a work relationship!! I was in one and it ended up being one of the worst things that ever happened to me. I even had to quit my job! It was horrible.
2006-08-30 09:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by smilestoomuch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are smart in not having a relationship with people you work with. These types of relationship usually mean trouble for one or both of you. In fact most companies now prohibit relationships between coworkers.
2006-08-30 09:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋