Baby or no baby?

Question

I'm 22 and just got married last month. My hubby and I both want to start a family quickly. It is logical for us to wait until next August because we will have year to adjust to being married, also we are both graduating from school in April, and if we wait it will give me time to get a good job and be able to go on maternity leave. However, I really want to get pregnant now, he is okay with this, and we'll both be graduated by the time the baby is born, the down side to this option is that I won't be able to get maternity leave (so less income), and I will be pregnant while finishing University, (and I hear pregnacy makes you dumber). I just don't know if I could deal with that while at school. What do you think?

Answer 1

Wait honey. No matter how anxious you both are, It will come out good in the long run.

Answer 2

WAIT! You have SO MUCH going on right now. Having babies changes everything in your life. Get settled in your marriage, get school done, get yourself working and let life settle down a little. Your only 22, there's plenty of time. When I got pregnant with my first child I was put on bed rest for the last 4 months of my pregnancy. It was an unforseen complication that couldn't be avoided. Because I had just started a new job right before I found out I was pregnant, I didn't have enough hours to qualify for Maternity leave. The baby came early and our lives were turned upsidedown.

Things like this don't happen all the time but what if you couldn't finish school because of your pregnancy? Oh and in regards to making you dumber... you tend to trip over your own feet and can't remember some of the simplist things. It also seriously screws up your horemones and emotions. You wouldn't believe how many pregnant girls I have known that told me "I'm not bi*chy at all!". Then they start screaming at their husbands because they think the shirt their wearing makes them look fat and somehow it's all their husbands fault. Wait awile and enjoy being married to the man you love. And go out lots while you still can. Go to romantic dinners and movies. Go on dates with your husband and enjoy your time. Finding a babysitter on a Saturday night is very hard and very expensive, so you don't get to do these things very often once you have kids. Best of luck to you both!

Answer 3

Depending on how long you have been together, it might be nice to wait and live alone for a while. Take this year to do fun things that will be harder to do once you have a baby, like traveling or just having nights out together.
Being financially secure will make things a lot easier. With two incomes things will move along smoother. And since your husband is just graduating as well, he'd still have to find a good job, and what if one doesn't come right away?
Also... I wouldn't want to play it so close. The first trimester tends to suck... you are completely drained, your appetite and digestion may be screwed up and you'll just overall feel like crap. Not the best thing when you're trying to get up for class and focus, let alone study for tests.
You don't want to mess up your grades during your last year.
So i think that the best thing to do is wait. Even if you get pregnant before finding a job, I think it would be better to finish school first since you're so close.

Answer 4

Please wait til you graduate. Quoting you, you said, "it'slogical for us to wait' so why not wait then?" Your pros on waiting outweigh the cons and there's no rush since you will be with your husband for the rest of your life, and it's not a do or die situation if you get pregnant now or later.

Also just to correct you, pregnancy does NOT make you dumber. That's a very ignorant and offensive thing to say. It does, however, make you clumsy and extremely tired. Every woman goes through it differently. I have encountered coworkers who work all throughout their 9mos, while from personal experience, I was very sick for the first 3mos and could barely get out of bed. A friend of mine even knew someone who was nauseous for 9mos, so you never really know what to expect.

It's really best to get pregnant when you are in less stressful environment and have something to fall back on--why take the risk of getting pregnant and then possibly putting school on hold because you are too sick during the pregnancy to go to school? Also, once pregnant, you will see your doctor a lot and an extra income would really help in case of any emergencies.

Answer 5

Because you are still young, I would wait until after you have graduated and work so that you will be able to collect money when you are on maternity leave. Babies are expensive! Not only that, you need to enjoy being married first before you have kids.

Answer 6

I think that you should wait till you both adjust to being married you don't want to start a family to soon it could come between you all and make the marriage a Heartache. Just take your time it will all work out in the end. Good Luck

Answer 7

I would wait until after you're done with college. College is stressful and you don't want to be pregnant and stressed at the same time. This will complicate your pregnancy, also there is the lack of money issue that could add to the stress. I suggest you guys wait a little while.

Answer 8

Wait. There is no reason to hurry, and every reason not to. Bring your baby into the world when you can give him/her the most attention and financial benefit. Also, "morning sickness" is not just in the morning. Some women are too ill to work for months. Don't take the chance in compromising your schoolwork. Being mature includes having self-control and the ability to delay gratification. Don't be too romantic and rush it. You'll undermine your ability to do the most important job on Earth.

Answer 9

I say you wait until you graduate.. you're so close to doing so .. nothing wrong with waiting a bit .. you'll be able to take care of urself better..not having to deal with so much at one time... it'll be healthier for the baby 2...

Answer 10

Definitely wait for several reasons you already listed. A baby changes everything. It is well worth it, but there's no need to rush before being financially settled and enjoying your relationship with your husband.