I am a very inexperienced (sexually) Freshmen in college. I have never had a boyfriend, been kissed, and although I want to wait for aguy who means something to me, I am going to 18 in a week and I can;t but feel like I am missing out on something. So, I met this guy who is a Junior and a genuinly funny and sweet guy. And I think there is a potential for a Friends with Benefits relationship, and I was wondering if I should go there, to the next level.
2006-08-30 09:43:51 · 13 answers · asked by jesslovestheatre 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nay
2006-08-30 09:52:15 · answer #1 · answered by bolandalbaby@verizon.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You should wait.
You may be missing out on casual sex, that may be true.
But, I think you're missing out on a whole lot more if you have sex for the first time, and you don't love the guy. As a girl, you will likely become more attached to this guy than you plan on, simply because you've had sex. Women sort of equate sex with love a bit more than guys do, I think.
Friends with benefits only works if you are experienced. Have had a few relationships, know a lot about yourself, and are seriously capable of not attaching emotion to sex.
Fool around if you gotta, but save sex for somebody you really love.
2006-08-30 09:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
courting your chum's ex is a nay... usually. What in the journey that your chum dated your ex and now they're your chum's ex as well? And a yay could be familiar if the ex and also you're both very a lot in love. even with the undeniable fact that, your chum is surely not all yay about it, they'll be nay. So, in end, nay yet yay, yet almost continuously nay, except you stay in a contented international, then almost continuously yay. This is smart, yay or nay?
2016-12-06 00:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the deal.
You will do things with him and at some point you will become attached. All girls do to some degree.(It would take an extremely callous girl not to) He, however, may like things the way they are. He may date other women, sleep with other women, really not care about your feelings. I did the same thing.
So you will have feelings and he will end up disappointing you in one way or another. I would seriously consider random hookups before a friend/benefit situation.
2006-08-30 09:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Morty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful; emotional attachments can come out of nowhere are leave you wanting more when he doesn't and vice versa. If you are sure you won't fall and he won't either and you trust him, I'd say sure, experiment and like it. Also watch out for getting addicted to being physically loved- when it is good it is hard to stop wanting it all the time, at least thats been my experience. Good luck.
2006-08-30 09:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already waited this long, why not wait till your married. You've already done the hard teenage part. However, if you are going to I would say at least let him be your boyfriend, don't start college being a hooch. Have respect for the both of you.
2006-08-30 09:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i was going to write this large paragraph on the advantages and disadvantages of FWB... but after reading kelloggs_undertoe's post, i have to say she nailed it on the head in only a few words.
go to the next level if you trust the guy, but be wary of the things kelloggs_undertoe warns you about.
2006-08-30 09:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by kiss my wookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. since you're a v you should wait for someone who is worth it. don't just settle down for FWB. you can do better than this. what is that friend of yours end up breaking your heart, you wouldn't want that now do you. you just might end up regretting losing it to him. love yourself more! appreciate your body.
2006-08-30 10:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by swtcocoa231 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want some strings-free sex, go for it. As long as you make it very clear that you are friends that have sex, not boyfriend and girlfriend having sex. Never introduce him as your boyfriend. If you want him as your boyfriend, go for it.
2006-08-30 09:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by Brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..... i used to be friends with benifets with someone i would consider my best friend. First we started as friends and then went out and then friends with benifets. At first i was okay with it but near the end i started liking him alot. Then i started having thoughts that he was only using me. So i broke it off with him. And then........ we went out. So go for it.
2006-08-30 09:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Sexy thang 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋