My girlfriend is afraid to discipline her child, what should I do?

Question

He's 4 years old, he talks to adults like they are children, and you have to tell him the same thing 10000000 times.

Answer 1

You are better off leaving this up to your girlfriend, Mothers tend not to like others butting in or scolding there child.

Answer 2

I have a 4 year and its not like I am afraid to discipline her, its that it is sometimes impossible..At 4 they want what they want and sometimes NO just does not sink in. If she is doing the best she can with the situation I think that your emotional support would be the best thing. My childs father is not in the household and there are times when doing it on your own with a toddler is really hard. Hopefully this child, and mine lol will learn to listen better one day.

Answer 3

I hate to say it but it's not up to you to do anything. You can only reprimand him for how he treats you. The rest is up to mom. Why is she afraid to discipline? If she is afraid she will lose his love by disciplining, she is off the mark. She has already lost his respect. Kids like being disciplined. They don't like getting in trouble but they are a lot less frustrated when they know what to do. At 4, they are not old enough or mature enough to make their own decisions, They get frustrated with too many choices. If they know the rules or in your case have rules, its one less thing to be frustrated about.

The best you can do is find out why your girlfriend is afraid to discipline and help her get through it.

Answer 4

Just because you are not his parent does not mean you can't teach him right from wrong.You have to tell four yr olds things over and over again even if they are being disciplined for it.That's just part of being 4.You don't need to spank him to discipline him.Let him know the correct way of doing things and if he does'nt listen to u put him in time out.You r an adult and should be treated like one by any kid.Good Luck!!

Answer 5

Sounds like this is something you will have to deal with until that child grows up! The child is part of the package , so you will have to deal with this problem at the tender age of 4, 9, 13, 15, and so on and on

Answer 6

He doesn't do what he's told since there are no ramifications to his actions. He needs a swift reaction to show him that his parents mean business. That reaction can be sitting in the corner for 4 minutes if she doesn't want to hurt him. After just a few days, the kid gets better. However, it's the full 4 minutes.

If mom doesn't mind his behavior the way it is now, then it's your problem.

Answer 7

my sister is just like that, and I end up being the one to discipline my neice. My boyfriends 10 year old doesn't get enough discipline at home and she tries to talk down to me and I do not take that... when you are at my house, I will teach you how not to be a rude little brat~ reguardless of how I make you feel. Just know that when you have kids of your own... you need to discipline them good because that is what gives a kid boundarys and thats what makes them feel like they are in a home. Trust me, by the time I count to 2... my 3 year old daughter is right where I want her cus she knows I do not play... You need to tell your girl that! Or... you need to get out~ trust me, youll thank me later for this one later!

Answer 8

I know children can be frustrating but if you think that the child is that bad,you need to speak with your girlfriend about it...Even a child at 2 and 3 years old know how to behave and respectful,be patient with him.he's testing her and if she continues to let him walk all over everyone your gonna end up with more than a bratt...children need discipline, that dosnt mean to beat them or anything but they have to have rules. They have to know whos running the show....

Answer 9

explain to her that if he continues this behavior and it goes on without any discipline, the child is gonna think that his behavior is just fine and he will grow into a defiant young boy that will become harder to discipline because he doesn't even know what it is!! my 3 and a half year old pulls stunts like this and he has things taken away from him as a result i.e. no bedtime stories, his favorite toys are put away, no going to playground, etc. it usually works.

Answer 10

First, are you the father? It is going to be hard, esp if not the father. She is probably afraid her son will hate her if she disciplines him. I would just suggest talking to her or talk to her mother and then talk to her about this issue.