do you think it has anything to with the fact that she has 2 mommies??

Question

lately she has been ignoring anything and everything my girlfriend says to her. we've been together for almost 2 years and i am wondering if that might be part of her problem...she only see's her dad once a week and every other wekend...i don't know what to think and what to do.

Answer 1

first of all how old is she. she might be going through the i dont care and dont wanna listen to anybody stage. or not! because thats pretty much all their lives. im sure its nothing. kids are weird just give her time she'll come around

Answer 2

I don't think it has anything to do with the fact that she has 2 mommies. Your daughter is old enough to be rebellious now, so that's what she's going to do! If you didn't have a girlfriend she'd be rebelling against something else. That's just what kids do.

You might want to talk to her father, however, to make sure that he isn't planting any seeds in her mind about who she should and shouldn't listen to. All three of you (you, your girlfriend, and your daughter's father) need to be in agreement on the basics of parenting.

You should also sit down with your daughter, just the two of you. Talk to her about why it's important to listen to the adults who love her (because they all want the best for her).


ps - you might find www.rainbowconceptions.com helpful. it's a great resource for queer parents and includes a friendly message board.

pps - Iman J, I'm sure all the parents who have adopted would disagree with you. Love is what makes a family, and there's no need for your snark.

Answer 3

Some children don't listen to their parents, in a traditional family environment, however, if you feel this is getting out of hand, may I suggest some parenting classes for you? Not insulting in any way, but parenting classes help, also somehting to keep in mind, you also have to consider your daughters age, and how her relationship with her father is....

Answer 4

maybe, as it is so obvious that your partner is not her biological parent, she feels she doesn't have to listen to her? that happens to a lot of adopted children, they go through this "you're not my real parent(s) anyway, so i don't have to listen to you!" it'll probably sort itself out, if it doesn't you might benefit from family counselling. just read your other question, which i guess refers to this one, regarding her age - all children in the world go through a spiteful phase at some point between the ages of two and four. that your partner is not her biological parent probably doesn't help (see above) but i doubt it has to do anything with her gender. you definitely have nothing to blame yourself for! good luck! :-)

Answer 5

How old is she? That has a lot to do with it. If she was raised with your partner I'm sure it has nothing to do with it. But if this is a newer relationship that could be part of the problem. You should ask her.

Answer 6

I reckon she,s just been a child seeing how far she can push her look. See how she goes don,t make an issue of her ignoring then when she see,s there is no response she may come around

Answer 7

My kids never listen, so I don;t think being gay is the problem. It is probably just her age and she is testing her boundries to see what she can get away with.

Answer 8

Yes and no. Maybe it does and maybe it doesn't. Talk to her once she is "of an age to understand" so she knows what's going on and that it's not normal.

Answer 9

My kids have one mommy one daddy and they still dont listen so I doubt thats the problem.

Answer 10

Your girlfriend is not her mother. She really doesn't have to do anything your gf says.
-Iman J.