I have a 1bdrm apartment. My sister decided to move in with me from out of town after she graduated. At first I rarely stayed the night because I would stay at my bf's apt. But now he's been staying with me until my lease is up and we find a 2 bdrm to have an extra room for family/friends. I allow my sister to stay in the room while we are in the living room. She basically claimed the bedroom since she's the oldest. I really don't care. My problem is that when her male friend comes over and they are all up in the room and have their privacy but every night me and my bf are in the living room.
She said that her friend is coming over tonight. I said that they can stay in the living room tonight because I'm not going to let no dude I don't even **** with come up in my home and do whatever while I don't get the same privacy in my own damn place. To myself I'm like, "I pay the damn rent, yall take yall *** in the living room!"
Am I right or wrong?
2006-08-30 09:26:33 · 11 answers · asked by To be or not to be 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't pay the rent. Let them see what happens next!
2006-08-30 10:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jerry T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new place and ask your sister to take over the lease since she's been taking in new people in the place all the time.
A one bedroom place is not big enough for three people, or more for that matter. Since you brought in your bf to live with you, maybe she thought bringing in her guy was OK, and a few others as well too. My point being--there is no right or wrong person here, you can't do much except complain. I would just leave the place and let her pay for it.
2006-08-30 09:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right.
But you should probably discuss tonights sleeping arrangements calmly. Otherwise, I think you're just asking for an argument.
The established arrangement has been that you stay in the living room. I think at this point, it is reasonable for sis to expect first dibs on the bedroom. Tell her that you'd really like to sleep in your room tonight, and that you hope she isn't too inconvenienced by this. Don't ask it like a question, and don't offer up any reasons. Just lay it out. If she balks, tell her that you think you've been very accomodating, and that you think it's necessary for you to sleep in your room tonight, and that you appreciate her compliance with your arrangements. If she still argues then you can resort to the I pay the damn rent route! If you can't get your way, heck, the lease is up soon, invite her to look for her own apartment before you all need to move out, cause this just isn't going to fly like this forever. Second bedroom or not, if she ain't putting any dough in for rent, she don't get to come to the big house, if she can't play nice here.
2006-08-30 09:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are neither right or wrong. Most young people living on there own have been in situations similar to this one. No need to cause fights since there is a lot of you in a small space. Just wait it out and look forward to getting that bigger place. You can't really do much except complain right now... this is what happens when as many as 3-4 people live in a 1 bedroom apartment
2006-08-30 09:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by gregthedesigner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else about the fact that you're not wrong. She's asking way too much and being way too selfish. That said, blood being thicker than water and all that, sort something out. Tell her she's being unfair and try to reach an agreement with her.
Hate to say it, but all the sisters that I know who live together hate each other, so you're not alone!
2006-08-30 09:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by blowski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you pay the rent you have all the right to start an eviction on her.
small claims Court.
Good luck.
2006-08-30 09:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong at all.
It is your place and if you do pay all the rent you need to tell her your taking back your bedroom.
You need to explain to here that it is your apartment and you let her move in with you.
2006-08-30 09:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by bree30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally right! Who cares if she is the oldest, you should have never let her have your room to begin with! It is YOUR place, not hers, SHE is the guest and should be grateful that you took her in!
2006-08-30 09:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick her out. I know she's family but she's not respecting your wishes much. Perhaps then she'll crawl and beg and accept your rules.
2006-08-30 09:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry, but your sister needs to get a job and a place of her own. boot the freeloader out !!!!!!!
2006-08-30 09:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋