I am 25 and my girlfriend is 19. She was a virgin when we met and we took things really really slow. she is no longer a virgin and we have been making love for about 3 months now.... but it is like starting from scratch everytime we are together sexually. Its not that she does not enjoy sex... she loves it but every time there is that initial pain.... I fel kind of bad that she has to have pain before pleasure. she does not complain but i still feel a little bad. ONLY MATURE RESPONCES PLEASE
2006-08-30 09:22:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may want to ask her to read this article and see if any of it applies to her. It not an uncommon condition and is treatable.
http://www.emedicinehealth.com/pain_during_intercourse/article_em.htm
2006-08-30 09:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay is a very big part in making love. Not only does it show ur feelings for this person is also stimulates the natural juices which in turn makes sex more pleasurable. I never go straight in. Spend about an hour or more if you like exploring her body and telling her how lovely she is. Stimulate her clit by rubbing it with ya fingers and kissing her and all the loveley stuff that you wanna do, but hold off untill she is ready. If it hurts her then dont push too hard.
2006-08-30 09:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by best_ass_kicker_going 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...All those answers are good. I second the motion on the doctor, the lube, but also just one thought...
Are you spending enough time arousing her? Foreplay is really important you know. You could be rushing her along there, you big cowboy. Take longer before you go for it. Even if i'm totally wrong, the sex'll be better anyway. :)
2006-08-30 09:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't just stick it in. I hate that. Have you tried foreplay or lube. Pain can happen if she isn't lubricated enough, that's what my doc told me. Maybe take a break from sex and wait till she's ready.
2006-08-30 09:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by GIngin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should seek medical attention to guarantee shes ok, but it could also have to do with your size. If your well endowed it might always cause her a little bit of pain. You'll just have to make sure shes really ready...and be careful.
2006-08-30 09:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by t_matczak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is ask a doctor. There might me a medical reason.
Second best is use some lubricant. That might help.
But I would go for option one. That's the safes for her health.
2006-08-30 09:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by ak2005ok 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something may be wrong with her physically. She should try to see a doctor. Try to hold your horses til then.
2006-08-30 09:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by farley1787 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't delay. She should go and see a gynocologist immediately. No more fun time until she does.
2006-08-30 09:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I would really want to help you. But I'm so sry, I can't. I'm a virgin...
2006-08-30 09:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u got 2 deal wit it women always have pain but most dont..maybe u need to get some lube....yupp...........
2006-08-30 09:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋