Or would you run for the hills when he/she didn't give it up after the first few dates? Or would you give that person a certain time frame to be intimate with you before you bolted? Or would you respect that person's decision and be faithful to that person and allow the relationship to grow?
2006-08-30 09:21:35 · 30 answers · asked by intentionalmasterpiece 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I say celibate, I mean that the person has not had sex in over 2 years and has no plans on rushing into it in the immediate future.
2006-08-30 09:25:11 · update #1
I think most people who are around our age, who have honest intentions, would be perfectly understanding. I prefer to take things slow myself these days, because then you really find out if you are compatible in other ways. Any two people can have a good time in the bedroom for awhile, but it's the other things that really keep that going over time. Overall compatibility and commitment is what will make a couple happy in the long run. If a woman told me what you said in your question. Right away I would think that she was smart, respectable and very realistic about her future. Which is awesome! For me it would be an extra reason to take her more seriously and want to know her more.
2006-08-31 20:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Star_Zero 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is such a good question! I honestly dont know. I mean, nowadays, it seems almost no one is celibate!!
I think if I had sexual experience and I began dating someone who was a virgin and didnt want to have sex for awhile, I would try and respect that. I would give my 110 percent in the relationship. As usual though, you dont know if the relationship will work out, so you hope for the best and love with all your heart!
2006-08-30 09:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by rachael b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one it depends on how much I liked that person and what kind of a future I thought we might have a shot at. I wouldn't really have a timeframe, but if the girl didn't even show me affection I would wonder what exactly she was in it for. Quite frankly, my lifestyle kinda keeps me from meeting girls that sound like this. I think a good man would respect her decisions and try to make it work, but there's something to be said about making him comfortable in the relationship also.
2006-08-30 09:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can say what they want: Sex does not make a relationship. When two people decide that they are going to be in a serious relationship together (i.e. marriage), then sex is something that can bring you closer together. In no way does sex make a relationship "complete". If someone chooses to not have sex until they are sure they are going to be with this person, I applaud them. That's practically unheard of nowadays, and it's the wisest decision anyone could ever make.
2006-08-30 09:29:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would respect the persons decision. Relationships shouldn't be based on sex, but on love, and if you want a relationship then you need to learn to love the person first.
2006-08-30 09:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would respect that person and their stand on sex. There are other ways to be intimate and sex is just the one most people "assume" is the ultimate definition of being intimate.
My boyfriend and I are waiting until we are sure we love each other. makes love not lust the factor in the relationship.
2006-08-30 09:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YES!
It sounds like this person has it right and wants to respect you and value you for you and not just the sex.
Always remember, treat a person with respect and dignity and the love will come in ways you never thought of. Its refreshing when you find a person that will put respect and honor in front of self pleasure and sex.
2006-08-30 09:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by elie_cruz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going to allow you to realize from own journey that both virginity and sex are surrounded through undeserved hype. Celibacy is in ordinary words ordinary once you've little or no sexual impulse. there is an excellent type of daylight hours between celibacy (rejection of sexuality usually) and chastity (rejection of certain sexual activities and milestones). you could technically proceed to be a virgin, have relaxing sexual reviews, and in no way be celibate. it really is a extremely ordinary direction, even with the undeniable fact that peer stress utilized almost continuously to men at that age makes even that no walk contained in the park. in case you choose to develop into romantically in contact with men (or women), and your courting seems trending in the direction of the inclusion of sex, you could be ahead about what activities you're cool and in no way cool with, and also you could be particular to rigidity that purely because you're cool with the conception of any interest does not mean you're or will unavoidably be waiting for that interest with any certain individual at any certain time.
2016-12-06 00:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i really liked the person i would respect their decision - it's not the worst thing in the world - too many times people sleep together too soon and then realize they don't really know or care for each other - waiting until you were 100% sure and 100% commited could be a really intense and fulfilling sexual experience.
2006-08-30 09:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on your intentions first. if you know you want sex then leave them alone, or get it somewhere else until they give in. if you can wait and they seem worth it than stay. it will be a good story to tell others later on and make you seem like an angel for waiting. however, be prepared for the sex to be bad just in case all that waiting turns out to be a waste of time.
2006-08-30 09:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋