how can I change my moms' mind about my bras?

Question

I'm 13, my mom worries a lot about my breats health and don't want boys staring at them. I'm a C cup, so, she makes me wear bras that give much support and no see-through. But she goes overboard, I don't like those bras, they are confining and hot, especially in the summer. I complained and complained, but she says it's for my best. I don't want to rebel, I know she's sure it's for my best, she's a nice mom, but kinda strict on her bra rules. The bras I gotta wear are at http://www.anita.com/de/en/0,1,104,1478,39236__products-detail.htm They have 4 row of hooks in the back. Not OK for a 13 yo. 1 hour ago I talked to mom again. She said she already told me a lot of times why I need such bras, it's her mother decision, won't back off and doesn't want to hear any more complaints. I Got a bit mad, said I'd take it off at school. She said she'll get to know and I'll have to spend a whole afternoon writing lines like I should keep my bra on. Actually I dont lie to my mom. Am I stuck?

Answer 1

Go bra shopping together. Pick out some you would like to wear. (there are plenty out there that are comfortable but not see through) Go to the fitting room and try them on then wear your clothing on top and show her that you are still covered up just as well. Hopefully this proof will put her more at ease.

Good Luck. I know how moms can be..

Answer 2

Yikes, those are a bit extreme. Those are like granny bras for when you got watermelons hanging down to your lap.
I feel your pain, I went from a training bra to a D cup and after ten years finally evened out to a C.
Your mother makes a few good points, but she is going overboard. Yes, especially with that cup size, you should wear a bra everyday (to prevent your back from hurting and to keep your breasts flopping around and hanging low all the time). Yes, boys will stare at you and think about sex if you don't wear a bra, but they are teenage boys and if you are a C-cup they are going to stare and think about sex no matter what. Seeing you braless will send their lust over the edge into thinking you want sex too, and they will hassle you.
Start off by telling your mom, in a calm and loving way, that you don't want to fight with her or lie to her, and that you appreciate her concern for your well-being. However, you feel that a healthy self-image depends upon you having some rights over your body and the clothing that goes on it. You feel these bras are extreme, and would like to go shopping together for something that you can both agree on.
Macy's and JC Penny's both have a wide selection, and you can make an appointment with a fitter who can measure you and suggest an assortment of bras.
I personally suggest the Vanity Fair Illumination Microstrech bra - It gives a smooth line under any garment, is very comfortable, and your nipples will never show.

Answer 3

You poor thing! That looks like something a marm would wear. Can't your mom come to a compromise with you? The important thing is that you need support, but you can find nice looking bras with support. You don't need the kind of support that those bras have yet. I think as long as you wear an underwire with a little bit thinker strap, that should be enough support. I'm a mom and would never make my child wear a bra like that.
When you are home and on the weekends, if you need the support maybe you should buy a sports bra. It would give you support without having to wear that bra. Good luck!

Answer 4

oh baby girl I feel your pain but no matter how much you might not like it is for your best if you are only 13 and your a size c cup this is going to be very stressful on your body and this bra will give you the support that you need today. If you don't support today tomorrow they'll be scrapping the floor.
You seem like a very respectful child therefore I know that you do not want to disobey your mother but at 13 the only one that is suppose to see your bra is yourself and if anything your mother. I know from personal experience that those types of bras can be very difficult to breath in sometimes but let me tell the back pains are so much more worse.

Answer 5

The worst thing you can do is give your mom attitude. I have a 14 year old daughter and we went through the same thing!

I understand your mothers' concern; you do need a supportive bra! Calmly explain to your mother what you do not like about the bra....ask her if you can find a bra that offers good support but a little more "teenage friendly" would she consider purchasing one or two. Then contact local department store lingerie departments and ask if they offer bra fittings..if they do give the info to your mom and the two of you spend the day together shopping and or looking at bras. After the two of you have mutually agreed on a bra have her contact your pediatrician and ask her advice about the bra you have selected.

(My daughter's doctor did not charge for the visit it was a 5 minute office visit)

Good Luck

Answer 6

I'm sorry,I have to side with mom.Mother know what best.You just 13 yrs. When you come of age when you can pick and buy your bra then you can where the bras you want to wear.Right now mom is paying for your bras and it her hard earn working money.She get to chose. She paid the cost to be the boss of her household.My daughter is entering into 8th grade.As I look at the young girl in school.I find our young girl who is heavy on top at an early age.One thing I wish mother be concern about there daughter wearing support bra,so they want flop all over the place.It a good thing what your mom is doing.Don't get made at her.Your mom is raising a respectable young lady,not a hooker.Your day will come when you get to pick your bras.

Answer 7

When you are 30 and have a bigger cup size you will thank your mother. If you do not support your breast be it early in life or later, gravity will take a bad effect on your body. In previous answers people have stated back problems, also sholder problems you can have many bad effects on your body when you get older. I would go up to my mom and say, hey I understand that you want me to have a supportive bra and so do I but since I am the one wearing the bras maybe we can go shopping I pick ou the bra and u say yay or nay. Dont whine at her or complain because then she wont listen, just talk to her plann out waht your going to say.

Answer 8

I think that you should try listening to your mother at first, but if it is not working out with the bras that she wants you to wear try explaining that there are new bra styles that are just as supportive and will also help with your size. I'm sure your mother would rather you wear another type of bra than no bra at all.

Answer 9

Okay the bra is a bit much. I'm a DD and can get support from something considerable less cumbersome. I think your mom is concerned with modesty. Maybe, when you and your mom are shopping, you can steer her to the bra section and show her some very, lightly padded bras. They provide complete coverage without adding bulk. You can get them in colors. The underwire type will give you lots of support.

Answer 10

Look online and find some bras that give enough support and are't revealing. Show them to your mom and fully explain what you've found. If they're uncomfortable, you shouldn't have to wear it. Also, don't take your bra off at shcool. When you get into gym class, well, it ain't nor is it pretty. Kids at school would start calling you Jiggly as a new nickname.