How many parents operate and tell kids 'under our roof is prefered and ok' with teen couples 4 safety?

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How many parents operate and tell kids 'under our roof is prefered and ok' with teen couples 4 safety?

Ie going the oposite of don't ever briang anyone over to this house for sex or making out. The complete opposite pretty much on the basis you are happy they aint the lonley nurdy one no body wants to date or be freind with.


but more so as under your own roof is far safer then going off into the woods or wherever.

As a controlled environment maybe with hidden panic button, condoms, hidden weapon say cs spray behind bed board.

Or just folks in the house with only a light bolt on the door for privacy that breaks easy...


Maybe with fake photos around the house of dad in army, winning martial arts prizes, with biker gang buddies etc.


Subtlely saying u can date my duaghter, even bone her but hurt her you are history...


Likewise sons

Why fnatsy?

You kids ARE going to have sex. You daughter IS GOING TO SUCK A BOYFRIENDS WILLY like the rest of the human race, get fingered etc etc

Most likely mid teens onwards... Its nature, always has happend, always will wheter you like it or not.

Its nature and the drive to do it due to hormones will be higher then at any other time in their lives.


Morality has naff all to do with it...


its more natures way of trying to see babies get born before you get eaten by a predator... Only now we live in houses and have unis. Nature evolves slower

Its not a limitation its saying you can do it in the house. Mum and dad whilst maybe wanting you to wait want you to at sometime fall in love and would rather you do it in the house where we know you will be safe.

As we dont want you hurt by nasty guys or say the guy could be nice but if you do it in some woods some psycho may get both of you.

THE ENGLISH IS OK... IF YOU ARE HAVING DIFFICULTY ITS YOU. NOT THE WRITTING HERE AS OTHERS HAVE UNDERSTOOD JUST FINE...

SO HOW COMES YOU HAVE NOT? YT THEY HAVE?

IF ITS THAT HARD FOR YOU MAYBE YOU SHOULD STICK TO KINDERGARDEN BOOKS.

Answer 1

My parents had this policy as it related to drinking and drugs. If any of my sibblings and I wanted to experiment with drugs or alcohol we were permitted to just as long as we did it at home and not out in the street. At least if you engaged in that kind of thing under my parents roof you knew what you were using and you could be rushed to the hospital in the event that something catastrophic happened. If you did that stuff at a house party or in the street somewhere you were more likely to get some bad substances in the drugs or you were likely to drink some alcohol laced with some other dangerous drug.

Come to think of it, when I was little I recall times when I would go into my cousin's room early Saturday morning to watch cartoons only to find his girlfriend in the bed. My uncle must have had a similar policy.

Answer 2

Yes, my son's girlfriend's mum was like that. I didn't know about it. My son thought she was the most wonderful mother in the world. He was a father at 19. "I forgot to take the pill!" All their lives have been ruined. My grandson is being brought up in a council flat. His father is bored and frustrated life because he never finished his education, nor did my grandson's mother. BTW she also introduced my son to drugs - also, what you do in my house is okay, rather here than out on the streets.

Answer 3

I don't know how many operate that way.

It all depends on how much you think something will hurt your kids, the extent to which you will go to convince them that it is dangerous.

There are doubtless parents somewhere that say if you are going to use heroin, use it in our house. Don't go into the woods to use heroin, that is less safe.

At our house we tell our minor children that we will do everything possible to stop them from using heroin at all.

I feel that pre-marital sexual relations are approximately as dangerous to a person as heroin, so, I do everything I can to protect my children from that.

However, I can still encourage them socially, I provide soft drinks and pizzas when they have friends over. They can play music loud as long as the neighbors don't complain. We don't have to worry about a "light" bolt because we have the door open, and we don't believe teen-age couples should have privacy.

Answer 4

I have a teenage son and I talk to him about just about everything and we are very close! We have a large amount of respect for EACH OTHER and I dont think he would ever even THINK of having sex in his room when Im here at home! Its just common courtesy as well as complete privacy! NO I would NOT prefer it be in his room or anywhere! lol

Answer 5

I used to say that I would be that way. They could do what they want in the safety of our home. Now that I have kids, I'll just have to see. I hope that I will still be as easy going when my kids are older.

Answer 6

calm down i dont think its wise to have panic button and weapons in your teens room nor is it wise to say hey i dont want you to have sex but if you do go ahead and have it in your room while dad and i are watching tv. it makes it to easy it makes them think you are ok with the idea of sex and that will make them a 100 times more likely to do it. teens will have sex if they want to and they will find a place to do it but you dont have to provide that place make it a little difficult for them.

Answer 7

I don't want to even think about it. My kids are too young but I am already worrying about it now!!!

Under your roof, then you are more aware if they are sleeping with too many different partners, but no-one wants to think that their little angels are acting like adults.

If they are going to sleep with people behind your back, they could still be sleeping with people other than who you know of under your roof..

Aaarrggghhh - too scary!

Answer 8

What language are you talking! You want to spend more time on your english instead of the twaddle you are coming out with!

Answer 9

my girlfriends mom is kind of like that, were talking about me moving two states away to be with her and thats the attitude shes having about it....i know what theyre saying, i know what i need to do...

Answer 10

I'll be happy to tell you what parents like that are called. Grandparents!