he need to get a praternity test asap.. then go from there, he can take his daugter away from her. my husband has a daughter and he is with me not the mother.
2006-08-30 08:55:45
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answered by ~Saratini~ 4
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9 months pregnant + 11 months old= 20 months.
It's August now. 2006= 8 months. 2005= 12 months. November 2004= 2 months. All together= 22 months. You've been with dude for 22 months, and he made baby 20 months ago?
Somebody is lying about what they did and when.
Baby Mama may be a jerk, but your guy should absolutely force a paternity test, then he'll know the deal, he'll know where he stands and what he needs to do.
If the baby is his, he can visit with the child, and not be in a relationship with the mother, if he pays his child support. So if due is trying to tell you he has no choice, and he has to be with her, he's lying. If he goes with her, he's chosen her. Who gives a rat's behind whether she's gonna act all dramatic or not. If their is a court order in place, then she'll have to abide by that, or face legal consequences. If she's violent to you or your guy, call the cops.
Yup, guys do not have to choose to be with the mother and yes they can absolutely still be a Dad to their children. Happens all the time. I date a guy right now who is divorced, has two kids. They split their time pretty much in half. y'know half with Mom, half with Dad. He pays his $1000 in child support every month, and he is a great Dad. It's not ideal, but it's better than not having Dad at all.
I'd ask your guy, if I were you, why he didn't tell you about all of this before he did, he obviously knew that Baby Mama was pregnant and calling him the daday before all this blew down. If baby Mama is such an extremely crazy dram hound, she started running her mouth well before he told you, I'm sure. Why did he hide it from you? If he really hooked up with her before, heck maybe my math is wrong, then he should have tyold you when he found out.
You may not have picked a winner here.
Hope that helps.
2006-08-30 09:13:29
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answered by niffer's mom 4
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This is what I think; you are giving him way too much credit. Whether he was 16 or 55, he chose to hook up with this woman. While I do find it acceptable behavior on her part, I would say he is just as responsible for that baby as her mother is. If I were him, I would have a test court ordered to prove him as the father, then go from there. If he really loved you, I mean really, he would not let this woman keep him from you. Sounds like he has his priorities and you are not on the top of the list. Maybe he is telling you these things to keep you in the picture. And that's controlling. Get out girl!
2006-08-30 08:59:40
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answered by Anonymous
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Girl he cheated on you, and the only reason he has told you is because he got caught. And by that I mean she had his child. I would suggest you leave now, before things get worse! There is a big difference between dealing with a crazy ex and dealing with a crazy baby mama. I would leave him alone, maybe this wasn't his first time cheating. Get out while you still can! You're still young and don't need to be tied down with drama, from a liar and cheater. If you stay then, you are asking for whatever drama comes your way. This is 2006 and baby mamas are crazy as HELL! Get out or stay fight it out with Satan and the liar!
2006-08-30 09:02:35
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answered by Ty 2
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Boy this is some Jerry Springer crap ! What are you doing messing your life with a boy who is all so messed up himself. Proven to be the dad or not he still was messing around with a 24-30 year old. Aren't there any decent guys left in your high school or neighborhood?
Please move on, you're too young for crap like this.
2006-08-30 08:57:38
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answered by stranger's wife 1
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He's not a victim because he gets to control where his seed goes, but a paternity test is in order the sooner, the better. As to telling her about you, I can see no reason why he can't tell her about you, because if they're not pursuing a relationship, who he sees is none of her concern. That she might "go crazy" is, in my view, a personal problem and not worthy of consideration. If he wants to blame her for his inability to be forthcoming with information and other calamities he's facing, maybe he's not ready to be a "man" yet. That's news you might find useful before you wind up pregnant with his child. Good luck.
2006-08-30 09:03:21
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answered by Captain S 7
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i no htis probably isnt te brilliant advice yet with me im the type of individual who HATES conflict and fights.... so every time my boyfriend begins to get mad or i am going to tell is annoyed sick replace the concern right now away or make him snort... it cools down the precedence and avoids a "not something" wrestle. i tell him for all time being mad is a waste of an emotion haha so i attempt extremely not ordinary to easily dodge it. now if its something extremely serious then you truthfully could search for advice from with him, yet pay interest to him too listen what he has to say in the different case like i discussed dodge the "not something" fights they flow no the position and purely upload rigidity to the courting
2016-12-06 00:05:52
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answered by bianka 3
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I think you need to find a boyfriend that don't come with a bunch of mixed up drama. If he had some balls he would be with you no matter what she says. He ain't afraid of her, he wants his cake and eat it too. Kick this crap scene to the curd and find someone that will respect you and make you number one in his life.
2006-08-30 08:59:43
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answered by freddie m 1
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blood test! suga, you need to get a blod test then you handle it from there.
2006-08-30 08:59:43
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answered by Anonymous
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Run far and run fast.
2006-08-30 09:02:01
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answered by Sarah J 2
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