I have a two year old little girl that is high spirited. She is high energy, yells a lot, and nothing makes her happy, and everything has to be her way. I can't even take her anywhere because it becomes a big production with her temperment. This is overwhelming and I am pregnant!
2006-08-30 08:45:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
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2006-08-30 08:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by crystalfaria11306 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. I feel for you. Yes, it's completely normal, especially with you being pregnant. If you've told her there's another baby coming into the house, she might really be feeling overwhelmed.
My daughter was 2 when I got pregnant with my youngest. I kept her completely involved in the pregnancy. She went to every doctor's appt. with me, she went to all the ultrasounds, we sang songs about the baby, asked her input on things like what color sheets we should buy for the baby - by making her a real part of the event, she was already bonded to my 2nd child when she got here. She to this day adores her and has never fought with her. She's never had a moment of insecurity with regard to her place being "taken" by a new baby.
What you're dealing with now is very common. It will pass. Be very proactive in dealing with your child. Assume she will be a good girl the moment you wake up. Treat her a bit more gently than you might usually.
Fortunately, this temperament won't last forever - it's not an indication of what her future personality is. It's just a reminder that, as moms, we really are just "winging it." This too shall pass. Good luck and congratulations!
2006-08-30 09:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! She sounds a lot like my oldest. {{Hugs}} Now that she's older I found the book The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene a great resource (not sure how much would apply this young and it might not be the case for your daughter). Also, How to Raise an Emotionally Healthy Child by John Gottman.
Good luck! None of the regular behavior modification techniques have worked for my oldest, but she's getting better with age (well, for the most part; she still is a tweener).
2006-08-30 10:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by MorningG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it certainly can, make one cry. However, try this, from my experience it's best to just not give into your child's demands, this will reinforce and teach your daughter that you are the one that makes decisions. If you have a husband available (or the father/whoever can help) get him to manage her. Also make it clear to the child that you are having alot of trouble, calmly by the way--yelling can easily escalate the already bad situation. Clearly establish rules with your daughter prior to taking her places such as the mall... tell her what you want her to do, have her promise prior to leaving, and have her REPEAT THE INSTRUCTIONS BACK TO YOU!!! this will make the proper impression and signal to her that she has submitted to your conditions. If she is unwilling ot agree with your rules, do not taker her. Or if she already is at the location (mall...) when she disagrees , follow up with disciplinary action--remember it doesn't have to be corporal punishment (punishment wiht physical force), you can just send her to her room,and this will teach her cause and effect; this would be good especially for her because she is at a young age and it's a great time for her to learn things like this. ALWAYS FOLLOW THROUGH!!! If she misbehaves don't let her get away with it, and don't make empty threats, make sure she believes your credible and takes you seriously. Finally, remember that at 2 years old, this is not at all unusual, and chances are she will grow out of this stage, BUT don't just rely on it to go away, play a role and teach her that she can't continue to act like this; this will teach her to act properly in this world. I hope this helps, and good luck!!!
p.s. these are the easiest methods and cost efficient, going to counseling as one of the answerers suggested is unnecessary, and can cost a lot. Be creative, you don't always need to rely on expensive programs!
2006-08-30 09:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by nightraptor8000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of the stress you are feeling may be due to the fact that you are pregnant. However, let me tell you that no matter if you are pregnant or not - and you have a strong willed child... You get emotional when they are 3 or 4 or 5 or 6... You get my point. Hang in there.
2006-08-31 08:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sweety! I know exactly what you mean. I have a 3 yrs. old,she is very energetic. literally bounces off walls. but, now she is starting to calm alittle. and she is an only child. but,if you have one on the way perhaps she will calm down and help you with the baby. it will give her a new outlook on things as she is growing. being big sister will be good for her.
also, as I have learned with toddlers is ; they go through phases. so, there will be a time when you can go out. try kid friendly places. I like Chic-fi-la, they usually have playgrounds inside. or most malls have play areas too.
just don't deprive yourself of being & feeling like an adult human.
if you know what I mean.
2006-08-30 09:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by malak 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 is a tough age. You have to start now; use the phrase 'we're not going to do that any more'. Don't yell, or otherwise sink to a 2-year old level. Also, you have to be consistent. You don't have an easy job here, but you will get results if you are 100% consistent. Aways try to say things like "no, because..." or "yes, because..."
2006-08-30 08:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by l_quicksilver 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Omg yes that and the miss behaving 9 year old and the very whiny 10 month old!!! i feel you pain Hun! I have found that alot of his was because he is speak delayed so i started to teach him sign with signing time! it has cut his temperament and fits down and also found having snacks in his reach all day has helped that way he is snacking when he is hungry at his convenience! I hope some of this helps and god bless Hun!
2006-08-30 08:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by loriaburton 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I taught preschool, parents would use "high energy, high spirited" instead of saying what their kids were - hellions.
The kid is 2. You're the adult. Everything has to be her way because you've always let everything be her way. Stop giving in. Lay down some stucture. Be consistent. Realize you are the authority.
2006-08-30 17:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son can be that way sometimes...when I give in to it he just gets worse and worse...I try to always think..what am I teaching him when I give in..or yell at him..or whatever...they learn how to react by how we react...i'm in no! way saying that you are a bad mom or something...I'm just saying that's what I try to remember when I'm ready to kill my 2 year old..hehe..i'm not saying calmly sit your 2 year old down and talk to them because I know that's insane but just remember to be firm and CONSISTENT!!! it will take a lot of work but in my experience when we are consistent with my son he gets better and when we slip he goes right back to his evil ways...it's not foolproof and 2 year olds will be 2 year olds..but I just try to keep my son busy and try to divert his energy into positive things..I'm sorry that I can't be more helpful.
2006-08-30 09:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋