Ok, I tried this question once and I got the stupidest anwsers, so Ill try it over again.
I have a friend. He has a problem. He likes a girl who is a grade younger than him. He is in 11th, she is in 10th. Because of this hes afraid to date her, even though theyre both 16. Ive given him my opinion, but naturally, he never listens to me. So I want to see what other people have to say about this. Does grade level matter? Or does age matter more? Do they matter the same? What would his other friends think?
Someone out there giving me a fu*king decent anwser, the last ones were all crap and he still doent believe me.
2006-08-30 08:38:55 · 41 answers · asked by prophetoftruth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know, those of us over 30 ask questions about whether or not an age difference of 10 years is too much. One year is nothing, no matter how young you are.
2006-08-30 08:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by Blueghost73 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask your friend to look forward to five years if both were 21 and one was a senior in college and the other a junior what would it matter. How far apart in age is the persons parents. Age is only significant when there is a gap at a young age like 17 and 12 would be significant, but 28 and 23 would not be. Seems to me there may be some issues with dating someone who is seen as an underclassmen. Sounds like if your friend likes the person they should just get over it or do they really like the person. In the end seems to me neither should matter in this case.
2006-08-30 08:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by sappergary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grade level and age DO NOT matter. The only thing that will matter is when he turns 18 and she's still 17 or vise versa. Then you have to be careful for the time that one is considered under age. Otherwise, I say GO FOR IT!!! Take her on a date and see what develops. Oh- and if age mattered I never would have been born. My dad was 8 years older than my mom when they met (actually he still is).
Have a great day!!!
2006-08-30 08:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I think he should go for it. I really don't understand what the big deal is about a grade, if shes 16 and hes 16, it doesn't really matter. Now if he liked a girl in like 5th grade, then he should be worried, but seriously its a no brainer. If his friends won't back him up and make fun of him, they aren't good friends and he should get new ones. I'm 16 and in tenth grade and if some guy liked me in 11th grade why they hell would it be bad for him to ask me out? Hope that was a good enough answer for you.
2006-08-30 08:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by PeachyFixation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So long as they are both in the same age range it doesn't really matter. As far as the grade thing no cause they're both in high school. I he really likes her then yes he should ask her out. I think as my own opinion his other friends would think that he is cool, but others might not think of it that way. The only way to really know for sure is if he asks her out and then they just take it step by step. I know this because of my brother and his girlfriend. Except she is in 11th and he is in 10th also they have different ages.
2006-08-30 08:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by cougar8706 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, especially when it comes to guys (and considering the fact that it's ONLY a year difference) there is nothing wrong with dating someone a grade younger - It's not like he's going after a 6th grader or anything. Sorry this isn't a hugely profound answer or anything, but it's really not that big of a deal to be honest with you. It's a fairly simple solution, but if he doesn't feel comfortable dating someone in a grade younger then that is his choice. Let him make up his own mind.
2006-08-30 08:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, neither age or grade matter. What matters most is that they both like each other. In reality, it doesn't matter what his friends think either. If they are his friends they should accept whomever he chooses to date or just don't hang out with him when she's around.
When I was in high school it was not uncommon to date outside your grade. Especially only one grade apart. Anymore than that and it might seem a little weird or even be illegal depending on the people's age.
2006-08-30 08:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by treasures320 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, grade level doesn't matter. I'm sure you know plenty of people who date someone in a different grade. Even a year or two of age difference is no big deal once you are 16 or so.
Are you sure he doesn't have some other reason to be so hesitant?
2006-08-30 08:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok here's what I think. I'm 27 and I don't believe that age matters. It depends are the maturity of that person and how well the both of you get along. I recently started a friendship with a younger guy and I always though age mattered but as I've gotten older things you once liked change. It doesn't matter to me as long as I get along with them. Your friend shouldn't take into account the age but should take account of whether this is something HE really wants. Life is to short to always worry about what people don't like for you to do.. If it makes him hapopy then he needs to go for it. Don't make the mistake of trying to please others only to be unhappy you're self. If he's frineds make fun of him he needs to stand up for what HE feels, thinks and believes.
2006-08-30 08:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by favoritecolorsblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter. As a matter of fact, I dated a girl in high school who was a grade below me and 1 year younger and we ended up married with two kids. I found out that by hanging out with her peers was a lot of fun because I had been stuck all through school with the same kids and all of them doing the same things was boring. Your friend needs to stop wasting time and buck up! You never know until you ask.
2006-08-30 08:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by laa_dee_fukin_daa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋