that i have to repeat what i say. the second time is usually louder. she may think that i'm yelling at her and feel bad about it. i need your help. what should i do?
2006-08-30 08:13:08 · 19 answers · asked by di_ako_guapo 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Just sit her down or write her a letter, explaining how you feel estranged from her, and that you want to feel closer to her, and you feel that her not being able to hear you causes a barrier that you don't want there. Ask her if she would want to go get it checked out... Sometimes the hearing loss is due to impacted wax that the elderly can't get out... Ask her to see a doc about her hearing.
2006-08-30 08:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by PreviouslyChap 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She would rather have you yell, because she wants to hear you. She probably does not realize you are yelling. I have been in the same situations and have learned this:
1) Sit close to your mom and look directly at her. She will learn to lip read.
2) Speak slowly, it is as important as loudly
3) Never turn your head while speaking, you must always speak while facing her.
4) Keep the pitch low, especially if you happen to be a woman.
5) If she can't hear you and feels embarrassed, tell her its not her fault. Explain that you need to speak more clearly.
6) Ask her to repeat as many times as she wants to if she doesn't hear something. Assure her that you want good communication and that you won't give up until you can make it work. Often older people feel left out because they just give up after a couple attempts to hear.
7) Avoid background noises, like a restaurant or party. The best place for a serious talk is in a quiet room.
8) There are great telephones now that allow people who are almost deaf to hear because of the volume control.
In my case, I learned to be very patient. It is worth it.
I admire you for taking the time to want to improve your communication with her!
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PS I noticed many people answered that it is obvious that your mom needs a hearing aid. Most people resist this, and I don't blame them. They are often awkward to use! It depends on your mom's wishes.
As younger people, we assume that we know what is best for older people...but we really don't know. Maybe some improved communication can be achieved without a hearing aid. . I am not anti-hearing aid, but a person really has to want one before using it.
2006-09-06 14:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by lynnemaria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom is in her 70s and shes having trouble with her hearing also. Im trying to get her to look into a hearing aid. Maybe this is what your mom should do too. Dont feel bad for talking louder at her....you know why youre doing it....so she can hear you.
2006-09-06 10:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously she needs a hearing aide. If her insurance or medicare doesn't cover it there are ways for those that can't afford to get them. She needs to see a doctor and get fitted for a hearing aide. Explain to her that not only will it make it easier for others to communicate with her - it's going to sound wonderful and be wonderful for HER..she will be surprised at how much she's missed...and will improve her own life by leaps and bounds. The newer ones today barely even show.
Good luck to you - I understand as I went through this with my 76 yr old dad..and he is so happy now that he has it.
2006-08-30 08:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well instead of saying it louder the second time and raise you voice a tad the first time. then you dont look like your yelling at her. if she has poor hearing then she may appreciate you shouting so she can hear you. Tell your mum when you are talking louder your not actually yelling at her as such and shes your mum she will understand i promise you!
2006-09-07 05:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is elderly too. I know how you feel. Both my parents are hard of hearing. Tell her your'e not yelling at her but you want to be sure she hears it when you tell her you love her. There's a lot of medical reasons for this problem..some not serious and some are. She really should be checked. Mine were and now they hear me when I say I love you! We all feel so much better. Good Luck and know you aren't alone.
2006-08-30 08:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by 77 snoodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to get her hearing checked maybe she's a good candidate for a hearing aide. If not just keep telling her u love her and be patient and long-suffering.
2006-09-07 04:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some hearing clinics will give free hearing screening and evaluaction. Check out your phone book, or do a web search from local hearing clinics.
2006-08-30 08:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by tdenisem01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her a hearing aide it may just be that the background noise is drowning you out. I'm sure she feels frustrated by the situation as well just let her know how you feel
2006-09-05 02:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by frogbfound 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not something that has to be told it is just expressed as a reflex action. Go sit beside her and use more of sign language as you talk to her. If you ever think you are being impolite just look at her and remember that she is all what you can have!
2006-09-03 07:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by Kiran urf msa sis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋