Me and my ex (we dated for 3 years) broke up almost 2 years ago, and he cheated on me once during those 2 years. He ended up dating the girl he cheated on me with after we broke up. I'm now happily with someone else and he just ended it with that girl. He wants to hang out and has said leaving me was the worst mistake ever, but he wants me as a friend...is this healthy?
2006-08-30 08:03:27 · 11 answers · asked by PreciousLaur 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'M LIKE THE GUY IN THIS SITUATION EXCEPT I DIDN'T CHEAT ON HER, AND WE ARE BOTH SINGLE (ME AND MY EX) I WANT TO GET BACK WITH HER BUT FOR THE TIME BEING WE ARE GOOD FRIENDS.
2006-08-30 08:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by kurtball2004 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My ex and I were married for 7 years - we've been divorced for two and a half. Both of us have moved on but we still maintain a good healthy friendship. We shared a lot of life together and it makes no sense to just throw all of that away. We still love each other as friends and we plan to keep it this way - we get along better now because we don't live together and don't have to be together. I think it will depend on the strength of your current relationship. How does your bf feel about you being friends with your ex? Most importantly, how do YOU feel about it?
2006-08-30 08:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by chrisadrian45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to be friends with an ex depending on how the relationship was, and how it ended. In your case I'd say no, he cheated on you. Strike one. He wound up dating the one he cheated on you with, proving that it wasn't a momentary indescretion, he just wanted to have his cake and eat it too without having the testicular fortitude to break it off with you first. Strike two. Now that relationship didn't work out and he's trying to fall back on to you for support since you're safe and familiar. I'd think it best to call that strike three and make a clean seperation, doesn't seem like it's be beneficial for either of you to renew contanct.
2006-08-30 08:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by ravenofchrist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope it's not.. cause eventually he'll ruin ur relationship from lil things he says, his presence, and it'll bring up memories.. he wasn't thinking of u when he cheated on u, or while he was w/the other girl so why is he thinking of u now and want to be ur friend.. he should've been ur friend then not now that u've moved on and now that he's lonely and need a female friend in his life..
if u can't talk to ur man about this question then their's ur answer.. dont' cause problems w/ur current relationship that u claim ur happy in just to entertain ur ex..
i say keep it as hi and bye.. what could u and possibly have to talk about now...
2006-08-30 08:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first read the question I thought yet... then I read the explaination of it,, and now it is no.
He wants to hang out as friends to get back in your good graces and steal you from your current boyfriend... If you are happy with your current boyfriend, then I wouldn't open myself up for looking somewhere else.
Some of my very best friends are guys I have dated in the past... but neither of us wants to be with the other(* for more than just friends) and neither of us regrets breaking up.
If he stated leaving you was the worst mistake of his life - he is just trying to get you back... and I think you should avoid it.
2006-08-30 08:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by Night Train 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it will be kind of difficult to be friends with someone that u were going out with and SPECIALLY if he cheated on you. Me, i just told my b/f that if he ever cheats on me, that its done and that he can forget about us ever being friends. I guess that it depends on the person u know? Good luck.
2006-08-30 08:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! I can't.....
How could you possibly go from a passionate all-consuming love-affair to cassual friends? It just wouldn't work , to difficult to adjust to being friends instead of lovers!
2006-08-30 08:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by stevei777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i am good friends with my ex!
2006-08-30 08:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by emma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no it's not i say don't be friends with him and if you want to don't think you'll still be with your bf
2006-08-30 08:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't think so he/she might be just trying to get into your pants again.
2006-08-30 08:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by Eric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋