It is in mine. It's just me and my 2 daughters, 11 & 14...I'm divorced. My oldest daughter is in high school & my youngest is in middle school. We each have very busy lives and the days just seem to whiz by. So at least 4 or 5 times a week, we sit at the dining room table and eat together. We talk about how our day went, the happenings at school and work, upcoming events, share funny stories or express concerns about things of importance to us. Sometimes it's all jibberish and a bunch of high school and middle school drama but sometimes things come up that we wouldn't have normally been discussing. During this time, the TV must be off and only emergency phone calls are accepted. My girls get irritated with this sometimes and complain but I tell them to zip it and get ready for dinner. Is this notion outdated & a hindrance or is it a good tradition to put in place? What do you think about this?
2006-08-30 07:57:09 · 9 answers · asked by intentionalmasterpiece 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well. im 15 and kinda wish we all ate dinner together... me and my family only have dinner together about liek 1-2 times a week and uasually it ends up in a yellin and screamin fight cus no one knows wats goin on in each other lives.. and trust me if my family did talk and have dinner more often i wouldnt be soo mesed up.. so i suggest u keep this dinner thign going for ur family, it will save u in the long run
2006-08-30 08:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family dinner is not outdated, it is important and even if it can be a hindrance at times you'll miss it when it's gone. When I was about 13 or so my family and I had dinner at the table all the time, even when my father was out of town... we'd all catch up on goings on and occasionally we'd be able to discuss serious topics, I knew I could tell them everything because dinner wasn't an 'inconvenient time'. Yet, when our dining room and kitchen were renovated we had to move into the family room which has a tv... we have never moved back into the dining room. A family dinner is something I miss so terribly. I'm 17 now and for the past couple years I've noticed how my parents and I aren't always on the same wavelength... we don't even get the chance to know where we really stand at all. It hurts because I have changed so much in these years and I don't really have an easy way to bring it up. Keep your family dinners. Allow your kids to once in a while eat out with friends, but make sure you have dinner together about 3 times a week at least. It makes you more accessible as a mother which is incredibly important when your kids are at that age. Good luck! Bon apetite.
2006-08-30 15:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by ScarletMoon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your a wonderful mom for doing it.I use to do that to when my kids were younger now 21,20 and 18 it just doesnt work.they all still live at home but with different jobs and schedules there is no way possible it would work anymore,but i wish we could.Your right about life being to busy in ths day and age we have to have a time and place where we can enjoy each other and find how the day went.Sometime when we are so busy we forget what is important to us which is family if you dont have family you dont have s***.Let your daughters know that one day they will appreciate the time you all had at dinner she might not see it now but she will when she is on her own and has her own children.your doing the right thing mom keep up the good work.
2006-08-30 15:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by queen4clewis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We did that all the time. Dinner and lunch were eaten in the kitchen, no TV there. That's quality time, and the kids, especially the younger ones eat slower and better. It's also a good time to teach them table manners. My children never knew it any differently, so they never complained.
Now they do it the same way with their own kids...so it must have been right for them .
In this day and age of hectic lives, we can combine the dinner time with quality family time so well.
2006-08-30 15:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by bluebyou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great. Honestly, everyone should be doing this. You are so right, it is not outdated at all. Family should have "dinner time" as family night, to talk, and catch up. Don't stop. I'm jealous. God Bless your family and please don't stop. Your girls will one day appreciate and thank you for that special time.
2006-08-30 15:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it used to be until my 16yr old son decided he was too good to associate with the family. we have tried everything except starving him to get him to eat with the family. if you can find a way to fix this, plz let me know.
2006-08-30 15:08:14 · answer #6 · answered by no1shthead66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think as long as you spend time together with ur kids it doesn't matter if its dinner or not , i think it certainly doesn't hurt to get everyone together for a meal if u can
2006-08-30 15:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every night, unless kids are at sleepovers. My sister was a single mom too, and she did it everyday with her kids.
2006-08-30 15:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a week we all sit down & have dinner.we sit there & talk its our way as parents to catch with our & there lives
2006-08-30 15:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋