Perplexed with girlfriend. She enjoys spending time with me and doing things, but never seems to 'care' about me. Never asks me personal questions like 'how my day went' or anything really about me.
Does she really care about me or is it because I'm the one asking all the questions she feels fine just answering things about herself and not me.
It may be selfish, but it annoys me. All give and no take.
2006-08-30 07:48:47 · 23 answers · asked by extr3333mely_handsome 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You seem like a very conscientious person who understands the intricate nature of loving someone. It is about give and take. If you are doing all the giving and getting nothing in return, then love is not there.
The reciprocal nature of love is what makes it so special and so hard to find. You are obviously existing on a deeper level than she is with this relationship, and you should be pissed. In fact, you should kick her to the curb.
Do you really want to spend the rest of your days chatting away with someone who is not on your level?? Makes no sense to torture yourself, man. I have had these types of women, and they are no good.
Being a caring and effective communicator is essential in any relationship whether it is BF/GF, Father/Son, Buddy/Buddy, etc...
and if you don't have it, I don't see how it can possibly work out to your satisfaction.
Tell her point blank what is irking you. I PROMISE that her answer will tell you everything you need to know.
Peace
2006-08-30 07:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since I don't know her, she possibly could be shy...But with what you wrote...that's seems pretty unusual because friends ask about each other and listen. Have you discussed this issue with her in a positive, kind way?
She could be just interested in what she gets out of the relationship.
It sound like you need to be with somone who exchanges meaningful conversation that help both to know each other better.
2006-08-30 08:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I think she does care about you if she didn't she would not spend as much time with you as she does. Girls are more of a talk about themselfs type.
Have you tried talking to her about how you feel. We girls usually do not mean to make you feel as if we dont care. You should really try talking it over it might help!!
2006-08-30 07:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your point of view. But just keep in mind that just because she is female, does not automatically make her sentimental. Maybe she's just not that type of person.
You could also mention this to her and say something like : What's up with you never asking ME any questions. Don't say it rudely, jokingly would be better.
2006-08-30 07:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask your girlfriend this question. It could be she is clueless about what kind of attention you need. Maybe she is doing what she knows how to do in the relationship, and once she knows better...she will respond to you better. Sharing intimate feelings is important, and a learned skill. If she likes you, she will learn how to communicate better. If she doesn't express much interest in learning how to please you, you're better off knowing this sooner than later.
2006-08-30 07:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by gardenpartygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are more selfish than others. You need to consider whether you enjoy spending time with her as she is - people don't change.
2006-08-30 07:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hang out with guys who I have a great time with but that I dont love. I ask them nothing about themselves because I really dont care to know. But they weren't my bf's just friends with benefits.
2006-08-30 07:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Discussing "how your day went" is for old married couples. Not being subjected to the third-degree enables you to control the relationship.
2006-08-30 07:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by Serginho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking her questions like How her day was. Stop (visibally) caring.. of course you will still care, but dont show it... that might modivate her to ask you whats wrong, so then you can tell her.
2006-08-30 07:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by thankgodformaryjane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a chance to awnser some of your questions but also sometime to think and ask you some things. if it bothers you so much you should tell her. maybe she doesn't realize it is such a big deal to you. :) she cares about you i am sure
2006-08-30 07:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by abbey356 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋