how can i make my 5 year old more attentive to studies?

Question

my son has started kg1 and he is not doing well in class.he is brilliant meaning he can speak english fluently(bengoli is our mother tongue.eng is second language)but he is reluctant to write or do homework. when ever i tell him to study he sharpens his pencilsor breaks his erasers or doses off or writes poorly intentionally. then after hours of patience i get angry and shout or scream. i hate to do this. he is a brilliant boy but he wouldnot study. in class the 'silly' students are getting ahead of him .but he can download games, draw in the computer, cut and make cards, sclupter and also read some . but at school he just stares and doesnot talk. the teacher probably thinks that he is stupid. what will i do? shall i hire a private teacher ?

Answer 1

I doubt the teacher thinks he is stupid!

It sounds like he is either bored or frustrated or both. make homework FUN for him.... do it with him, or do your work at the same table with him.
dont throw it all on his shoulders...its up to you to show him proper behavior. if you act like school is boring/uninteresting/choir he is going to feel the same way. On the other hand, if you act like school is fun and exciting... he will feel the same (monkey see, monkey do)

definately talk with his teacher. the teacher is with him more hours than you are, she has probably noticed a pattern in his behavior. Teachers are full of great ideas, and always willing to work with parents (it makes their job easier).

You said he is an english learner. its very common when learning a new language to go through a "silent period". He could be shy about being different than the other kids.

just remain positive, and talk with his teacher. involve him, and yourself, in other social activites to help break him out of his shell!

Answer 2

Well, to make the five year old more attentive, here's what you should do, you shouldn't think the teacher thinks he stupid; chances are the teacher has dealt iwth many students like your son. You should remember to monitor what your chid does, do not let him watch too much T.V. as this will serve as a major distraction. Don't let him download too many games when he should be studying.

You should also talk to your son, about the importance of studying and doing well academically; you mentioned that your native tongue is bengali, well use it to your advantage. Tell him how u had to study well to come to the U.S., or how well your parents or grandparents had to study to come ot the U.S., make it clear to your son that a lot of struggles were endured for you to be providing him with such a nice house, and leisures. Also make studying and school work fun for him if you can.

It may also help to sit with your sona dn go throught eh work wiht him for the first few times until a routine is established. This will be very useful for him, he won't need to be told when he's older to stop playing video games and go and study.

ihope this helps!!!

Answer 3

Many children that are very intelligent find it difficult to put onto paper what they think and say. Their minds are working so fast that they just miss loads out, their handwriting is also usually very poor.

Being clever and bright is not just about written studies etc. it is about having initiative and being ready to sit and learn. Boys develop slower than girls and his teacher will know this, she will also know how clever and bright he is so do not worry about that.

Studies can given in various ways from digging in the garden counting worms to making cakes and using the scales. When he is ready to learn within the classroom he will, but it is not quite his time yet. Rather than loosing it with him, support him by doing something fun together that he can learn from like making cakes. That way you will not loose it with him and upset him and it will take the pressure of him, he is only 5.

Chill a bit about him, he will start learning at school when he is ready, if you are doing studies at home too it will make him hate learning and associate it with Mommy getting mad.

take a step back and think what is better a happy and loved child or a 5 year old with anxiety and feeling failed.

Good luck with this!

Answer 4

At 5, kids learn at much faster speed than any other time. Motivate your son, praise him when he does right. Reward him with whatever he likes most.
As kids, our greatest reward was our weekly day out to the cinema. A reason to study all week long. Our parents always stayed with us every evening on the dinning table till we completed our homework, then off to bed. We got used to our daily study until my university days. My clever father used to read my books before I do, so he knew what I was doing.
I forgot to mention, both my parents were Lecturers.!

Answer 5

We kept my daughter out of school on more year so she could get the focus she needed to succeed. It seems that they don't have the focusing skills needed when they are five. Ask the teacher what you can do to help him. Never scream at him, it will make him hate school. If he doesn't do it, oh well, it's only kindergarten.

Answer 6

You should get him a physical at the Dr. check hearing, vision and maybe for his attention. Maybe you should hire a tutor for a short time every day. Maybe they will be able to find a way to get through to him. Children learn differently and they will respond to different teaching types. You should not get upset with him maybe there is something wrong with him.

Answer 7

I was having the same problem with my son at that age. As it turned out he was having a vision problem and didn't know how to deal with it so he acted out.

I also know of another child who was having problems. The other children teased him and made fun of him in class. This made him angry so he refused to study. It eventually was resolved by placing him in a private school.

Maybe this will help you.

Answer 8

The thing about children....if you want to keep their attention is make it fun for them. For example, if he has a favorite game he likes to play, make his work out of a game to keep his attention. Or even a reward is good after he finishes all of his work.

Answer 9

Sounds like you expect alot of a 5 year old.Wharever else you do...STOP screaming at him. If you dont have patience, hire someone else.

Answer 10

try making it more fun for him...play music he likes during the activities or find books that catch his interest. Tell him to write about spiderman or his favorite super hero...things like that.