I am down on love..I believe there isn't anyone for me at all.?

Question

Do you believe some people are just meant to be alone for the rest of their lives? I am starting to believe that. I am very shy by nature and a lot men are not drawn to me. I even lost weight and it doesn't work. I think it is my destiny to be alone..I suppose. I really don't believe that there is someone for everyone concept. I think it is just bogus

Answer 1

You'll find him - don't worry. I felt the exact same way before I met my husband.

It is all for a purpose and it all works out in the end. I know it's kind-of hard to think that or say it sometimes, but trust me. It is.

Answer 2

There really is no way to convince you that there is someone for you. You either have faith or you don't. I can tell you all day that you will find the love of your life someday if you have faith. Once you get your life in order where you don't need someone, that's when someone comes. Once you stop looking. I don't feel that some people are meant to be alone. I think some chose to be alone by making poor choices in their lives. Some people stop caring about there looks so they chose to dress poorly, or let their weight get out of control. Most people aren't attracted to someone who doesn't care enough about themselves to keep up their looks or stay healthy. People can say "I don't care what others think" but it's a reflection that you don't care how you look as well. Hope my long answer helps.

Answer 3

Hey, everybody goes through the lonely period. Thats human. You just need to start doing new things and keep your mind of dating for a while, atleast until you can cultivate a more positive attitude. Right now you don't make for nice company. I was down in the dumps at one time too, wasn't getting any attention from men, no one seemed attracted to me and I was at an all time low in my life. One day things changed just like that. Life has a way of handing you certain things you want when you least expect it. Don't give up hope, get back into the game when you're ready and be more positive. I'm sure you'll find 'him' when you least expect it. Good luck.

Answer 4

I don't think there is someone for everyone either. Look at all of us on here that are getting divorces, or separating or whatever.

However, I do think you can find people in the course of your life that can be lovers or friends.

Have you ever been in a relationship? If not, just keep trying. Be careful if you're shy, because the dating world is like a shark tank.

I've seen very physically unattractive people in relationships, and then I've seen beautiful people (inside and out) with no one. it doesn't seem fair.

keep on trying. my best to you. may I ask your age?

Answer 5

The more people notice you the greater r the chances of getting ur dream lover.
But the problem is shyness so 1st step confidence try to speak your mind and be assertive/
Don't go out with the thought in your mind that 'I'm looking for a mate' it won't work as you'll be searching in all the wrong places.

Answer 6

There is undoubtedly someone out there for you - after all there are 3 billion men (roughly) in the world and, despite what feminists might tell you, they aren't all bastards.

However in order to get yourself one you cannot hide away, you must go to where people are. If shyness is a real problem consider assertiveness classes (any life coach or counsellor should be able to do that for you).

Answer 7

Hun, you sound exactly like me... seriously. I'm shy, I never see any guy drawn to me except as a friend, and I could afford to lose a little weight.

I used to think that I was doomed to be alone forever, but I don't think that's true. There is someone out there for everyone. I know how lonely it feels having no one... I still feel like I don't deserve to be happy that way... but you know what, we do. We deserve to be happy, and we will find that special guy someday who will love us for who we are.

I wish you the best luck finding him... email me anytime if you wanna chat :)

Answer 8

I am very sympathetic of your situation. I can only advise you that I feel you should become more outgoing. Men want to be with the fun girl. If you are sad AND look sad, it will push men away. Attend group outings, and extend your ideas on what you consider fun. You are probably a wonderful person but no one will see it through your cloud.

Answer 9

Attracting men is all about confidence. If you don't find yourself attractive then men won't either. First you have to improve your image of yourself, if you can do that then men will start paying attention to you.

I can guarantee that no matter what you are like, there is a man out there somewhere who will want you. There's just too many men out there for there not to be somebody who finds you desirable. But it's up to you to find them.

Answer 10

No. There is no one for you. Change yourself to be like Pam Anderson and then you will be in demand and you can get hepatitis C, create a sex video and then marry a guy named "kid". Is that what you want?

There are other options. Be yourself. Stop being depressed by accepting that the pros and cons of who you are are what makes you you. Find a hobby that you really enjoy. Don't try to use it to find a mate. Just use it to develop your mind/body/soul and express who you are. Try to get to the point where just being yourself is enough for you to be happy. Then you won't be desperate, depressed and alone (you are always with yourself and your hobbies).

Think about:
Favorite type of exercise
Favorite type of books, games, movies
Meditation/spiritual journey/search for meaning for your life
Figure out what is important to you? Material possessions? Relations?
Are you a leader or a follower? Why do you feel you need a companion?
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