Is this considered checking out a girl????

Question

ok i know this sounds kind of dumb to ask, but my girl friend got really mad at me because i considered other girls looking cute? and when i say cute i dont mean checking out booties or tittys, but just think a girl is cute kindda like your sis or little niece you know? well she broke up with me for this and she says when you love sombody you dont do that? but it just seemed to be a natural instinct something you cant help but im stopping that I just dont look at anybody anymore, and I just wanted to know if I was right or wrong?To do so, I dont know if im wrong or not? please help.

Answer 1

well the thing is that human nature plus you being a guy, you are never going to stop checking out girls, yes what you were doing is sort of checking out girls. I mean the thing is that you need to learn what info to say and not to say to her. Your always going to think other girls are hot, cute, sexy, etc.... you can't just stop that. Yes in a loving relationship, it does seem to go away, you still know that the girls around you are hot, but you don't want anything to do with them. So well there's nothing wrong with realizing other girls are hot. But you need to learn that your girlfriend doesn't need to hear that, because it's like your trying to give her a hint that your mind isn't focused on her or your relationship. So well if you two do get back together, don't ever say a girl is cute around her or your friends. Yes even around your friends, believe me the one thing guys don't know is that girls always have at least one of your friends listening to ever word you say, and watching you. And reporting to her from time to time. I hang around alot of girls, have for my whole life. It's just a habit, so well I know a few secrets here and there. So well it doesn't mean you shouldn't trust your friends, but well girls have alot of ways us guys aren't aware of, to find out what we are doing and saying at every moment of the day. So well if one of your friends says "hey isn't that girl hot?" just say "she's ok, my girlfriend is hot."

So well take care man, learn what to say and what not to say around your girlfriend, I mean you need to communicate your problems to your girlfriend, I'm not telling you to hide anything from her or lie to her. That would totally screw up your relationship again. So well remember to be honest, but also learn the things to hold back. I mean it's just basic common sense.

Well take care man, hope everything works out for the best

Answer 2

She had the problem you didn't and she was just looking for a copout to avoid telling you she was leaving you. It is natural human instinct to find the opposite sex and some times members of the same sex cute or attractive. When you are in love with some one though some times you need to "shut up" and not say what you're thinking about that hottie that just walked by. Why make your gf jealous? I could go on and on but I'll spare you my Dr. Phill inpersonation LOL.

Answer 3

Hi there. Well, I would consider myself a rather jealous individual and I have to say that erks me to no end when your boyfriend or husband or whomever makes comments or stares at a woman while in your presence. I have to be honest, its not WRONG....you are human! Somewhere she, like me, is incomplete about something within ourselves and feels insecure. It stinks that I still get bothered by this same behavior and am working on not getting upset by it all. You have done nothing wrong so dont go blaming yourself for being a human being. If she doesnt like it, well she can choose to leave as she has done. But dont stop looking b/c you thinks its wrong. Dont change who you are for anyone. Just accept you are who you are and she is who she is.Besides, you should be able to be fully self expressed in what you say but have some cooth about how you do it. Maybe dont make it so obvious you are looking either. If she tells you something repeatedly that bothers her and you still dont try to consider her feelings, then thats different. I am currently dating a guy now who constantly makes it a point to tell me how cute everyone is, i.e. the waitresses, the store clerks, etc. It can be very annoying and comes across to me like he doesnt love me. But thats not true. He does love me. I used to think though that maybe hes some kind of pervert but hes not. The way he sees it is that with all the beautiful women in the world, he chooses to be with me so he thinks I should be flattered rather then jealous. I still am not crazy that he does this sort of behavior, but I am trying to understand him more and hopefully be able to be with it. If it really really bothers me down the road I will break up with him. But relationships are all about experimenting. It really comes down to what can you deal with. Perhaps this guy is not the right one for me, like your ex may not be the one for you but dont make each other wrong if thats the case. Just move on.

Answer 4

I think your gf has a low self esteem. No its ok to say her sister or young niece are cute! Its not like your going around in public saying wow that girls hot or look at the bootie on her! I think shes a little over reacting!

Answer 5

That's totally immature. Sorry bro, but she was just looking for some reason to break up with you. My sister is married and even her husband says other girls are cute in front of her...and they are. She even agrees...but like you said, he doesn't check out butts or boobs, but just makes an observation... so you're totally not at fault. I hope you find another, more mature gal. good luck.

Answer 6

Girls do the same thing, but you shouldnt say anything to her about "other girls". How would you react if she said, "that guy is smokin". But she seems very immature by breaking up, move on man - she is immature and you dont need that BS. But on the flip side, need to watch what your saying and thinking.

Answer 7

It would be unrealistic for you never again to notice what girls are nice or pretty. The way you have described it, to me, your girlfriend's expectations were too high. Sorry you lost her, but you did nothing wrong and it's for the best.

Answer 8

i really don't think is wrong, is completely natural, and just because you say somebody is cute it doesn't mean you don't love you girlfriend or boyfriend, is just a comment, an opinion, so i don't see harm in it, yes, is also natural for your girlfriend to get jealous, but she should be aware that it doesn't mean you don't love her...

Answer 9

Sounds like she is insecure with her own looks. And if she actually did dump for this reason, I say you are better off. Have fun being single again.

Answer 10

gone with her. you should be happy. everybody who is dating or married is still checking out others, and I mean checking out. but a relationship needs to be built on trust and the security of those involved. looking is not touching. your girl was just an insecure twit.