Is my boyfriend a stalker?

Question

If he goes to my MySpace page to see what comments guys have left me, also goes to all of my "guy friend's" pages to see if I have commented them. He checks my phone txt messges, and sometimes my e-mail? I do have a lot of guy friends (some attractive ones) but only because it is hard to meet girlfriends.

Answer 1

Is he a stalker...probably not, but is he extremely insecure...Certainly! All relationships should be built on trust, without that, how can you even be friends much less anything else beyond that. Nobody needs to go through their life having someone checking their every move, every call, text messages, etc... Tell him, either trust me or leave me. Unless you have done something to make him question you or your loyalty, i think he is being very unreasonable and/or insecure.

Answer 2

sorry, that is not a stalker, but a mistrusting boyfriend. He just don't trust you, and wants to check to see what you are doing to make sure that you are not cheating on him. Don't give him any reasons to be jealous and he should be okay. But if he starts yelling at you, or becomes violent if he finds a comment about a guy on there, then leave him.

Answer 3

One word for you, sweetheart: RUN.

He may not be a "stalker" but he's obviously possessive, jealous, untrusting, and disrespectful. Are those qualities you find attractive? B/c if that's not enough to send you packing, many controlling men wind up being abusive (whether mentally or physically). Think about that.

People will only treat you how you allow them to.

Answer 4

No, he doesn't trust you. He's not a stalker. See some women either don't care that their man is a little insecure when a GF or wife has many male friends. Its a balancing act that usually breaks couples.

Answer 5

He obviously doesn't trust you, i would finish with him if i were you. If you ever got married he'd think he owns you, who needs someone like that. He should be thankyou he's got you if you are liked by lot's of ppl. It's an invasion of your privacy and it's none of his business what ppl talk to you about unless what is being said is upsetting you in some way. Maybe sit down and tell him that he needs to trust you if the relationship is going to work b/c you can't go through life feeling like he is watching what you do and having to mind what you say to ppl. Good luck!

Answer 6

if u think they are attractive men then maybe u should not be with ur boyfriend anyways. i have been with my man for 6 yrs and no other guy is attractive to me. did he have women that cheated on him think of that maybe he really likes u and dont want to get hurt like he has in the past. i dont think he is a stalker i just think maybe he dont like himself to much. good luck

Answer 7

I don't think you can be a stalker if your in a relationship but from what you said I just think he is just very ensecure. Tell him to trust you or you are not going to stay with him.

Answer 8

I think he's a bit over possessive, but i don't think he's a stalker. After all, he is your boyfriend. If it starts bugging you too much break it off.

Answer 9

would say hes a stalker but more like hes invading ur privacy and it seems he obviously has serious trust issues if he is doing all this. id have a word with him , change passwords and delete texts altho u shouldnt have to.

Answer 10

if you have never cheated on him or given him a reason to think you have then he is pretty insecure about himself. just ask him about it and see what he says. if you dont like the answer then it is something that you need to work out with him.