My boyfriend has been divorce twice... the second marrige last only for 4 months and separated for 3 yrs now. He ask for divorce himself (both times), but never sign the divorce paper until he met me. We've been dating for almost a year now, six months after we were dating, I found out he wasn't completely divorce... it's just wrapping up with the ex wife and they are still good friend... so he said! He has three children with a wonderful lady (I met her) That was his first wife... they got divorce because he was cheating on her. Will he change to a better person or will he continue with the old habits and cheat around?
2006-08-30 07:08:58 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave him...once a player, always a player....he has not been divorced twice by coincidence.
2006-08-30 07:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Ed 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You want to know a tale-tale sign if he's cheating.....there is none, if he's really good. I used to cheat on all my ex-girlfriends, and was never caught. It was because I was smart, and not stupid.
If he is good at cheating, he would probably do something like I did and list all his contacts on his mobile by last name and first initial. That way, the girlfriend doen't see a girls first name. That's what I used to do.
Also, if you ever threaten him by calling one of the contacts and he dares you to, DO IT. He's testing you, hoping that you won't. Been in that situation numerous times, it's a form of reverse psychology.
But there are no real signs. Just hope for the best.
2006-08-30 07:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by love2wager.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off sweetie there is noe reason for you to be in a realtionship with someone whos experienced more than you. I mean he has kids and that comes with drama and If he has kids he has to see his baby mama every once in a while. Now take it from me I am a man and I use to have a girl until I let her go because I kept doing her wrong and I wanted her to be happy, but what I was doing was sleeping with her and my baby mama. So to sum up the answer start your own family find a man without kids wait on it dont rush to it. Trust me you will find a good on if you wait. But My answer is to leave him
2006-08-30 07:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jermaine T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's lying to you now think about what he's going to be like in a couple of years time!! If he's been married twice, and once for not for very long then he's probably not ver y good husband material. Once a cheat always a cheat i say!! Get rid of him and find yourself some-one decent :)
2006-08-30 07:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by michael.knight32@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here are some signs to keep your eye open for
Your spouse seems bored. Bored with you, with job, with kids, with hobbies, with life in general.
Your spouse seems to want danger or thrills in his/her life.
There is considerably less intimacy in your relationship. Your sex life is practically non-existent.
Your spouse has a low self-esteem.
You notice your spouse has a sense of confusion about self.
You spouse has become lazy, especially around the house.
You can't get your spouse to communicate with you.
Your spouse gets very defensive if you mention infidelity or affairs.
Your spouse is suddenly more attentive than usual.
Your mate is working longer hours at work.
Your spouse is dressing nicer, looking nicer.
You notice charges on credit card statement that don't make sense.
Your spouse is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays.
You find your partner has been lying to you about a variety of things.
Money becomes more of an issue between the two of you.
He/she doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything with you anymore.
You can't even get your mate to fight with you.
You feel as if you are being avoided.
Your partner abandons religious faith.
Your spouse seems more secretive.
2006-08-30 07:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a pimp, not a cheat. Be nice to him, don't snoop. Let the man live his life. Make him breakfast in the morning, and dinner at night. Take care of his kids, cuz pimpin is full time. You'll find that servicing him is more fulfilling if you allow your man to be himself.
2006-08-30 07:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by ADAMOS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see I'm a man myself. is he coming home late. acting strange when in public. getting strange phone calls. is not romantic as he was when you met him. is he being withdrawn when you want to talk to him. if yes to any of these questions. he probably cheating. see i used to cheat in females. but i stopped because i met this one girl. and i loved her but come to find out she had a boyfriend the whole time. so from that day forward. i said i will treat females with the up most respect.
2006-08-30 07:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by down2away 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that's anyone has someone! The important thing here is, "do you both want the smae thing out of your relationship?"
In other word, does he want a single-monogomous relationship w/ you or is he just using you for his nut! Sex is NOT the same as LOVE! It can be if your darn lucky, more times than not though it's just sex & companionship. Fear of being alone for 1 thing. Animalistic needs for another....
2006-08-30 07:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by stevei777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take a whole semester on signs of cheating and it still won't be conclusive. Best solution : test him. Do you have a female friend he doesn't know about ? See if he would give in to her approaches ?
2006-08-30 07:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by GoodGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After all this time do you have a diamond? that should tell you something....people usually only cheat when they are jerks or because they are miserable in the marriage? Was he that miserable? Read astrology compatability books they can help!
2006-08-30 07:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
like they say once a. cheater always a cheater. If your boyfriend cheated on his wife and went with you. he may cheat on you because he cheated on his wife with you. first of all I would not allow him and his ex wife to be friends. if he was my boy friend.because he will be seeing her behind your back. and sleeping with her even tho she knows about you.you will know if you get cheated on . If he stars treating you bad he,s cheating on you. .when he finds some one he likes better then you. he might go it. you never know that how some guys. are.but some guys are not like that.you will know if he is cheating if he makes excuses not take you with him places . and he comes home smelling like sex then he,s cheating. if his attitude changes then he,s cheating on you. if you noticed changes in him not good changes .then his cheat on you.if he seems to regrets being with you then his cheating .If you see expression in his eyes like he regrets being with you then he.s cheating. If their are days he does not talk to you he,s cheating. he,s cheating if. he seem not sure about you any more.
2006-08-30 07:58:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋