since Monday (father out of town working) I dont have a car (Im a sahmom) so places to go to are linited as the bus is just a nightmare and everything is an hour away on it. My husband will not buy me a car, and whenever I mention I need one he says "will see what happens" what the hell does that mean?
He has a fancy newer truck so I dont think its fair that I dont have a car, he makes over a hundred grand yearly as well.
I am with the kid way more than he is too.
I will be stuck at home until the weekend at least.
I dont have any friends (due to husbands jealousy and insecurity) so I cant even get someone over here.
BTW, kid is getting very whiny and bored after 3 days in the house.
2006-08-30 07:04:35 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Whenever I do complain about not having a car, he says "I work and I pay the bills, gas for my truck" So I feel like an idiot because I dont work and then if I were to get a job he would accuse me of cheating or leaving or whatever...Im ready to kill this ******* over frustration.
2006-08-30 07:26:22 · update #1
BTW, I live in Edmonton Alberta Canada.
2006-08-30 07:27:19 · update #2
1. See a divorce lawyer
2. Buy a car out of your substantial settlement that the lawyer will secure for you.
3. Get a job
4. Live your life
Have I made it easy enough for you?
2006-08-30 07:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by Okkieneko 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously unhappy. Please don't get pregnant again, it will only get worse.
I have been in your situation. I married a man with 3 kids and he moved us on a ranch in the middle of Texas. I had no phone or car and was left there to raise his kids while he traveled all week every week for work.
I left after 6 weeks. That was 8 years ago. I can say that if you want to leave you can. If he won't change then you already know what to expect.
Take your baby for a nature walk or just get some sun. You definately need a car.
2006-08-30 07:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by Thetruthbetold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you need a car, I think you need marriage counseling and your husband needs psychological help.
What makes him so jealous? Even if he has a reason, he has no right to hold you imprisoned at home. If he's reasonable, try telling him that you need a car for the kid's sake- in case it gets sick, or in case you need to pick up groceries and take it to play with friends. Kids need socializing too, even when they're that young. Try talking to your husband, and if it doesn't work, it's time for life-revision.
as for how to survive this week- invite parents or relatives over, if they live near by. If not, try visiting your neighbors, if they're not too far, or if you go to church (or any religious-related stuff), call somebody from the church to pick you up and take you there on Sunday- you'll get some much needed socialization.
2006-08-30 08:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh ! thats not right , your husband really sounds like hes controlling you financially, and thats probably not a healthy environment for a child to grow up in, you should not want your son to grow up thinking that its ok for a woman to be opressed by her husband.
you need to be assertive with your hubby, just tell him that you really need to get out of the house more ,and what if you had an emergency and needed to rush your son to the hospital and that if hes not going to purchase a car for you , he WILL see what happens, tell him you might have to concider getting a job of your own and put your son in daycare in order to buy a car and feel like a normal person.
until then , try to find some fun activities to do with the little guy, kids that age love playdough you can make it by taking a cup of boiling water, a half cup of salt, tsp of cream of tarter , and a cup of flour , mix it all up and add coloring.
I have spent alot of time home alone with a small child so i can sympathize with you.
maybe you could contact a family resource center if you live in canada. they offer free playgroups for small children , or many churches also have playgroups , and they shouldnt be too pushy about thier beliefs , since your family has lots of money you should get the little guy into gymboree or something like that
good luck , try to find the peace within and if youre still unhappy with your husband concider moving on and starting over, get a lawyer.
2006-08-30 07:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got bigger problems than being stuck in the house for 3 days. Your husband is obviously insecure and controlling. You need to address that issue first. It is not his call as to whether or not you drive, work etc. Marriaige does not mean giving up yourself and your needs. To be blunt, you need to put your foot down and if he is not supportive of your need to have a life outside the house, you need to seek counseling (maybe) or make the decision on how you want to spend the rest of your life and act on it.
2006-08-30 07:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by elaine_writes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
major control issue. how do you do your shopping and dr appointments etc?? sometimes two people just can not be together and if your willing to stick it out, come up with some solid reasons on why you need to have a vehicle, because he obviously doesnt understand. make it fun for the baby and dont ever show the kid the stress you go through, that puts a lot on them too. i pray for you and good luck. im sure the people in yahoo will keep you busy for now
2006-08-30 07:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play in the back yard.
Get out the stroller and take a walk around the neighborhood.
Get in touch with other moms in your neighborhood and start a baby-sitting co-op.
After school ask a responsible teen-ager to come watch your child while you do something just for yourself, even if you are still at home.
2006-08-30 07:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Puzzler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.... I live in Eastern Michigan and if u dont have car there u cant move... Honestly ! Taxis and buses arent common here at all! U barely even see them....And here whenever someone turns 16 their parents get them a car....I never seen some one who dosent have a car....
2006-08-30 07:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by XXX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Do love your husband? Enough to endure this?
If it wouldn't be for his jealousy, I would suggest that you build your own business(for 39$). You know Arbonne offers as a bonus a white Mercedes! You could have your own money, your car and more overrides and incentives, etc...
Check it out anyways....you never know
2006-08-30 10:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by ziabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation isn't too good.
Do you have a stroller, take him for walks to a park or somewhere to get outside?
It sounds as though your husband is controlling. I would strongly suggest seeking counseling or possibly separation. No one, you, deserves to be treated unfairly and disrespectfully.
I'm sorry, I wish I could help you, take you to the mall or something.
Good luck.
2006-08-30 07:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋