Me and my bf have been together for a year i have 2 kids he has 1. About 6 mts before we got together he married a girl(at the court house last minute thing) he regrets it alot. We have not had the money for the divorce. She got in a car wreck when they split up and her grandparents are sayin hey pay for the divorce or the doctor bills. Iam like the hell with both they were only married for a week and she left him. He's a great guy and iam sick of everyone dicking him. We are trying to have a family.oh yes the girl he married is not the mother of his child.
2006-08-30 06:56:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell the old farts to go to bingo and mind their own business.
2006-08-30 07:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by julygirl75038 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dump the boyfriend. He's still MARRIED! If he loves you he'll scrape up the money for the divorce! He'll work three jobs to pay the lawyers and move out of the house to afford an apartment. whatever it takes to divorce his wife. Quit dipping into someone else's honeypot. Forget his family! He ain't that great if he's trying to con you! Find a single guy and forget the married ones. You'll be surprised how fast he gets the divorce once you tell him you're dumping him. And dont just tell him. Make a point of actuallg getting off your duff and doing it. If they were legally married during the car wreck then he DOES need to help pay for the car bills but SHE needs to chip in. you should not be responsible because you are nto part of the household. HE is and SHE is. that is a domestic matter. his parents need to keep their noses out of it. I DOn't think this guy is serious about you. It's probaly not what you want to hear, though. If he was serious, he would have done what he needed to do to get rid of his problems to be with you. Men in love WILL take care of their business to be with the woman of their choice.
2006-08-30 07:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is his fight. If he's old enough to have a kid (and to consider becoming a father to your two children) then he's old enough to fend for himself and GET HIS LIFE IN ORDER.
If they only lived together for a week, he may be able to get an annullment (especially if he can prove that she walked out). Also, if anyone wants him to pay doctor bills, then they should try to take him to small claims court (where they do not allow lawyers). He has no legal responsibility or liability to pay for this woman's medical care.
But I think there's a much bigger issue here:
If I understand you correctly, your boyfriend has been married to this other woman for 1 1/2 years. I find it very hard to believe that, in that time, neither of you could save enough money for a divorce. If you are serious about building a family, then you need to sit down together, look at your budget and make his divorce a priority. Again, if your'e serious, you'll find ways to save: do without cable or movies or a cell phone. He should step up and get a second job or get a loan or whatever it takes to prove that he is an adult who can manage his own problems and that he is responsible enough to have a family WITH YOU. Otherwise you may end up parenting your kids, his kid, and him.
Forget what is "fair." Your responsibility is to your children and to creating a stable home for them. That can't happen until you get this drama out of your lives.
I think it's great that you want to make a family. But you need to acknowledge that you guys have some serious challenges ahead of you. He has two failed marriages (or one failed marriage and a child born out of wedlock). You have one failed marriage (or two children born out of wedlock). This doesn't mean that you're bad people or that you can't succeed together. But it means you have to be really clear on your priorities and you have to be united in those priorities. Get your focus off of this woman and back onto your kids.
2006-08-30 07:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me see, you the whore who is sleeping with a married man thinks you have a right to have a say in his marriage? You say (court house wedding) as if that were a bad thing. Legal is legal. Personally I think he would be coming off easy just paying for the divorce. Since he is legally married to her not you he is responsible for her hospital bills they could stick him with that too. If they were only married a week he could get an annulment. I bet you only hear his side of the story which is only one third of the truth. Trust me he will not be with you long, men rarely stay with their whores. He will leave you when he finds a decent woman.
2006-08-30 07:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not your place to be involved, with him or their problems...he is still married. But, since you asked, tell him your opinion. I feel that divorce, as in marriage, should be a 50/50 thing. It takes work and effort on both sides. If she was in a wreck, she should have had insurance to cover the bills, if she wants a divorce, she should be civil and meet in the middle. I feel you may have made a mistake by messing with a married man b/c if he will run around on his current wife, he will more than likely run around on you...but to answer your question, have them meet in the middle on things.
2006-08-30 07:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Ed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like ur taking up for ur bf... sounds like he's the d ic k here..
this is none of ur business, so what he's ur bf.. he got married to that girl not u, so that is a problem that he is gonna have to deal with.. he made his bed and he should lie in it.. that is his problem.. why r u tryna have a relationship w/him and his major problem isn't even solved yet?? right now ur technically the mistress cause he's still married.. who care's if she left him or not... u keep saying oh he regrets it, so what... he cheated on u during ur relationship obviously and now u want to help him fix it..
he needs to fix this problem on his own.. u need to worry about ur child and urself.. not his marriage or his wife, or his kids cause they r not urs...
u tryna have a family w/a man who cheated on u (but he regrets it) and married someone else (not u), has 2 kids by someone else, and is not all that bright or responsible since ur tryna speak for him..
wow, ur not bright ur da mn self.....
2006-08-30 07:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be the one to be mad...he should be!! If he wants the divorce, then he needs to look bout it, even if it seems unfair (just to get her out of his life). The doctor bills have nothing to do with him.
2006-08-30 07:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by LoneWolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um I hate to say this but what happen to his previous marriage is not your business its a thing that they should solve on their own
2006-08-30 07:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by nena24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yea because how in that hell her grandparents are go in to say he have to pay for the divorce
2006-08-30 06:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by kenisha_ma 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that's sad he shouldn't have to pay for it
2006-08-30 07:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋