Is it "normal" behavior" for one's husband to kiss the wife of his really good friend on the lips?

Question

We recently spent a week out of state visiting a couple out of state with whom my husband has been friends for over 20 years. They're like "family" to each other. I had never met the wife before. When we arrived and when we left (4 days later) my husband and the other wife kissed on the lips. (When we left, they actually kissed twice - the second one appearing to be very tender) I felt very uncomfortable with this and am having trouble knowing how to deal with it. It just seems like extraordinarly intimate behavior to me. Is it just me or is this unusual and inappropriate? (FYI - we are both in our 50s)

Answer 1

Personally, I don't think it was anything to be worried about. I have several male friends that kiss me all the time and there's not a single thing going on between us. Put the red flag up if he begins making trips to visit her without you.....then you'll have something to worry about.....stay calm for now

Answer 2

Is it just me or is this unusual and inappropriate? neither of these matter if it bothers YOU. This is something that should be discussed - don't fight right away as they may have always done this. True, they may have more than regular feelings for each other, which would stink, but is not impossible for a friendship of that type of long term standing. You need to make yourself comfortable and talk to your husband and let him know that it made you uncomfortable even if it did not mean more than a kiss on the cheek to him.

DON'T ASK IF THEY WERE EVER TOGETHER - YOU MAY WANT TO BUT YOU REALLY DO NOT WANT TO KNOW - BUT MY BET IS YOU WILL ASK ANYWAY BECAUSE HUMAN NATURE MAKES US THAT WAY.

approach this with your mind, not your heart - or at least try.

Answer 3

Normal is actually meaningless. In our society it is normal for priests to have sex with little boys even if people say it is sick and abnormal. I knew an Italian family where the adult brothers and sisters greeted each other by kissing on the lips. I liked it. The law ignores normal and regards your right to happiness without preventng others from being happy.

Is it normal for someone to be more open with strangers than their spouse. TELL your husband that you willl be seeing a psychiatrist who will probably be medicating you. When he asks why, tell him that there is something terrribly wrong with you since you feel uneasy when he kisses another woman on the lips and it would bother you if the 2 of them have sex.

See wat he says. Is it normal to talk to your spouse? The hell with whether it is or not. Why not be abnormal and talk to your spouse when he does something that bothers you. Is it normal for men to cheat on their wives? Yes. So then it should not bother you since it is normal. Right? In Asian societies it is abnormal for a husband and wife to kiss or hug in public. Does that make it good or bad?

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Answer 4

They are boffing each other or just about to. Keep an eye on it.
If you're both 50, then maybe it's not as volatile, but then again some 50 year olds are at it every night.

With Viagra and all today, your marriage could be in deep doodoo.
Count his Viagra pills everyday when he's not looking. If he mysteriously misplaced the bottle, then you know for sure they're getting it on.

Answer 5

I am in my 50's but at no age would I let my husband kiss anyone else on the lips except me and his mother. It is disrespectful and disloyal to his wife. A good answer from one other responder was for you to kiss the other person's husband on the lips real tenderly and see how your husband reacts. Either he will be upset or he will suggest a foursome. If the latter, get rid of him or at least send him for counseling. He is sending out feelers - not good.

Answer 6

Some people are like that, they were like that with their family and he considers you family. If it makes you feel uncomforable just turn your head slightly so he kisses your cheek. If he questions it tell him your husband doesn't mind but you do. Not everyone is into kissing and hugging friends and relations that is their choice to have whatever personal space they want. I know a lot of people that like to hug when meeting but I am not like that I usually stop them by touching their arm or turning slighly to avoid it.

Answer 7

The only lip-to-lip kiss I feel is normal is husband to wife. Perhaps nothing was meant by it, but if you express your feelings on it to your husband he sound be considerate enough to apologize and refrain from such behavior again, if for no other reason than because it makes you uncomfortable.

Answer 8

ok well one thing you haven't mentioned was if he was like that with all of his/your female friends. I will assume that he is not. In which case it is not normal. You should tell him that it made you uncomfortable and if he refuses to stop or gets defensive then you may have bigger problems then him just kissing her on the lips.
And by the way im 24 so it isnt your age that is making you worry.

Answer 9

This really does not strike me as appropriate. I know i wouldn't like it if my husband did it. It would definitely make me look at their relationship closer. The main question you need to ask yourself is = is this normal behaviour for your husband? Have you seen this before with other friends and family? If the answer is no , then you really need to talk to him, and tell him how uncomfortable it made you.

Answer 10

So it happened in front of everyone?
IT was a goodbye thing?
Wouldn't worry about it from the sounds of it,people have done stranger things, don't read too much into it, cause they are probably second thinkin it too. It'll probably never happen again anyhow. However You need to make sure that you be open and tell him how unconfortable it made you.