i have been living with my boyfriend for 2 months and not once has he tried anything, we sleep in the same bed, he says he loves me, but then nothing, what should i do?
2006-08-30 06:49:41 · 33 answers · asked by cindy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is he waiting for marriage? Maybe you should sit down with him and talk about it. The key to relationships is communication. If this is something that is bothering you then you need to talk to him about it. If you can't talk to him, then maybe you should just leave him. I mean, two months, you need to figure this out.
2006-08-30 06:53:04 · answer #1 · answered by heather_d72902 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all have u tried with him. If the answer is yes then you and he need a talk. Make a romantic dinner and ask why he hasn't had sex with you, ask him to be open with you. Because it seems he might be either insecure about himself. Let him know how you feel. And maybe then you will get your answers from him.but be ready for whatever he might say. Because maybe he just wants you 2 be friends. Remember be kind.
2006-08-30 06:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by :..WIzDOM..: 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed this with him? Talk to him. Tell him you are ready and see what he says. If he doesn't want to have sex with you then there is something wrong with him (meaning he could be Gay, seeing another girl, or just doesn't like you that much even though he says he does). If you have never talked about sex with him, then he may be nervous, waiting for you to make the first move. remember to use Birth control pills (see a doctor if you are not on them yet, your parents don't have to know that you got pills, just say you had a regular physical) and use CONDOMS. Also find out what his sexual past is by talking to him. A real relationship starts by communication. I tell my BF everything and he tells me everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, no secrets.
2006-08-30 07:08:07 · answer #3 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes living with someone takes the enjoyment out of sex. The fact that he knows its there if he wants it means he doesnt want it so much.
Try going out on a date on a non working day and flirting again to get some passion back. Don't drink too much so when you get in surprise him with some sexy underwear and a massage. if he doesn't get the hint then talk to him in a non blaming way during the day away from the bedroom.
he might be uninterested due to work pressures, working late, his diet, lack of exercise and respect for you by not wanting to pressure you.
2006-08-30 07:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by edinburgh22001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be a lot of thing let go down the checklist too see if any of these fit
take a shower
dont ***** at him
wear some makeup
do you guys have fun together
get the dog off the bed
does the house stink
maybe he's depress
maybe he's got the case of the crabs
maybe your giving it up to late
what ever the problem is , you've already waited two months
hell i be bitchen in the first week
2006-08-30 07:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by tommytwotone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maby he is afraid that if he tries some thing you might get mad at him. So maby you should make the first move. If he rejects you maby he is gay or dosnt think you are sexually atractive enough. He might have a story about himself maby he has had a bad experience. Sit him down and talk to him. Do this after you have made a move and he rejects you if he dosnt you dont need to ask him any thing. Ask him why he wont sleep with you
2006-08-30 06:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by unkown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking about it with your boyfriend. Bring the subject up and see what his feelings are on the matter. This way you'll stop wondering what he's thinking because you'll know firsthand, and you'll be one step closer to actually getting to do what you want. Being open and honest with your significant other is probably the best thing you can do in a relationship.
2006-08-30 06:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by Joy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl let talk. How long have you been with this guy? You and your boyfriend don't need to play house. He doing you a favor. Sex is for marry people. Society don't belive in that. On the other hand,he made be a repectable guy or this could be his first time and he is shy or he made be in the closet. He made be using you to hide behind. To get people to think he not gay. He made have std/Hiv/aid and don't want to pass it on to you.But you all need to talk to talk to see what the problems.You need to live in separate housing.
2006-08-30 07:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by 40something 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all....if you have only been together for only 2 months and you are already saying that you love each other and sleeping in the same bed together...I would re-evaluate that. Loves comes in time and so should sex...realax and let things happen naturally.
2006-08-30 06:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by radioradioradio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should TALK to him. Maybe he doens't agree with pre-marital sex. Maybe he isn't ready for "the talk" and maybe he wants you both to get tested before he jumps into sex.
Not everyone is ready for sex at the same time. And guys don't get hints. Maybe he is a good man and doens't want to ruin a relationship by having sex too soon. I don't know, you need to talk to HIM.
2006-08-30 06:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋