I seem to compare alot of guys to my ex? Even though he dogged me beyond reason, how do I forget and just accept new guys for who they are and not how they match up to him?
2006-08-30 06:49:01 · 4 answers · asked by justme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your first will always be your first, however he shouldn't be a guildline on how you measure others that comes to you.
Its not fair to compare people since they all comes from different background, they might think or act different way but that doesn't mean its not worse/better than your first bf.
You just have to accept the fact that your first bf is gone and start fresh, don't chase shadows of your bf in the new guys. Take them as they are, accept them the way they are.
You just have to make up your mind, stop living in the past and start living in the present.
2006-08-30 06:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what it is that you like about him and realize what it is that you're actually holding onto. If he treated you badly, why is it that you think so much of him? You could just be afraid of getting hurt again and feel that by comparing other guys to him, you are preserving your emotions.
You also need to realize that dating someone does not make that person a part of you. Other people can add richness to our lives and help us to become better people through our experiences with them, but this doesn't necessarily last forever. People change constantly (if they allow themselves to grow) and what might have been a fulfilling relationship at one time might not be the right relationship for you at another point in your life.
It seems that this person is only holding you back (maybe not physically, but in your own mind) and letting him go can help you move forward and have other meaningful relationships.
As my fiance says, breaking up is always a good thing. There's no reason to associate yourself with someone who's bringing you down instead of nudging you forward.
2006-08-30 14:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big mistake there girl. You're prejudging guys by how your x did or did not do (fill in blanks). That's why you're failing to find your true love. It wasn't him and well until you get out of this rut you'll never find him. Take the time you need to get over your x then move on.
2006-08-30 13:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first love is always one of the biggest. But there are others. It just looks like you still need some time to get over your ex.
2006-08-30 13:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by CRtwenty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋