my boyfriend is in the army and in Iraq. He went out on patrol yesturday and got shot. He is ok cause it hit his helmet (thank god for kevlar) but im a little shaken about it. he will be home from his year long deployment in 2 months so I'm looking forward to him coming home. I guess my question is how do i calm myself down? i'm not crying or anything but i feel more worried than i usually am. he always tells me is ok and he said not to worry that he is fine.thanks!
2006-08-30 06:40:01 · 52 answers · asked by ♥ missing a soldier in Iraq ♥ 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
It's okay to be worried, because he is in a war zone, but additional worrying won't help you, and it won't help him.
If you have a good relationship with your boyfriend, then you have to trust him when he says that he is okay.
2006-08-30 06:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by Scott K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I don't mean to sound mean or anything but at least he told you,, my hubby has been to iraq twice and he's yet to tell me much of anything that happened. He wasn't ever hurt or anything,, but I have no idea if he was ever shot at or saw anything blow up,, or anything. I know some guys from our unit got killed and hurt but he just won't ever talk about it.
I would say,, writing a journal about your thoughts and feelings, what you are greatful for,, stuff like that will help you get some of those feelings out.
Also you might want to try and reach out to someone else in his unit,, if you know any of them. Getting support from other ppl going through the same thing can help alot.
Talk to your priest or preacher can help sometimes too.
I am sooo glad he's ok,, and that he will be home soon!!!
** you can hate the war and the fighting, but always respect and honor the warrior**
2006-08-30 06:54:30 · answer #2 · answered by B V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The military has banned soldiers from buying "dragon skin" which is better armor. It's made from a strong metal and moves like fish scales. The gear covers major arteries in the head, shoulders and groin areas. It also covers the rib area under the arms and is very lightweight. The military allows the soldiers to buy many things but won't let them buy this for some odd reason. Some soldiers are gerry rigging pieces of approved gear to what they are already wearing so that it covers more of their body. Maybe he could do that? Also, getting involved with groups who can write letters to the military about this will make you feel more empowered. Best of luck!!!
2006-09-06 17:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Reba K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to feel shaken and worried. Don't be overbearing with it, he doesn't need anymore distractions than he already has. He is fortunate that it hit his kevlar, but even more fortunate that he has a woman waiting in the rear for his safe return. Reassure him that you miss him and love him and are waiting for him to come home. Your support and love is the best medicine for him now. Thank you for being so supportive of him, and thank him for being a brave man. In the meantime, spend some time with your family and friends to make the time pass by until he comes home. Have yourself a good cry, it never hurt anyone. I will pray for his safe return.
2006-09-06 01:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by proud mom of 2 girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry, rage, scream, punch something, talk to someone. But whatever you do, DON'T lay it on him while he's over there. When you talk to him, tell him about inconsequentials, the little stuff. If he knows you;re worried, and it shows, it might affect him, and give him something else to worry about. Accept the fact that he got shot, that Kevlar saved his life, and that he's fine. I mean, what are the odds that a guy shot once is going to get shot again? It's more dangerous in inner-city Detroit that it is in Iraq, to our soldiers at least. Relax and press, and this will be a good story to talk about later in life.
2006-08-30 12:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by notoldcrow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it is ok that you are worried. I have been to Iraq. The best way to calm yourself down is one not to watch the news, they pretty much only cover the bad things. Two try and go out and have some fun the more that you are at home the more you think about what could happen. But you have to look at it by what religion you are that if it was his time then he would have been taken. But someone was looking out for him. I wish you the best of luck and he will be ok. They have alot of protective gear for them.
2006-09-06 16:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by firefighter bound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My huband was also in Iraq for a year and I worried about him and prayed and prayed all the time, my husband always insisted he was fine and not to worry and he came home ok. A little messed up mentally, but who would expect him not to be....
Just throw your self into a project. Thats what got me through the year. I got a full time job, started taking classes, bought a new puppy, and saved all the money I could. I was so busy I barely noticed days flying by.
2006-08-30 23:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by I_love_my_soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jenna, a little shaken is not the word for it. We lost 5,000 people at the WTC and he is there doing his job and I am proud of him for that. I have already served my time. I was shot in the leg and everytime I look down and see the scar I smile...I did my job. The ole saying about the million dollar wound...well its true. I get the money:) I know what he is going through, but you need to stay calm. Go to the movies or visit friends. I pray that he comes back to you in one piece. and God Bless.
2006-09-05 09:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get a friend or relative to go on a long walk in a park with you. While you out walking tell them how you feel. When you get home try to watch a real good movie or read a good book that grabs your attention and keeps your mind of it. Drink some warm milk with honey before going to bed. Take some deep breaths all along. You got real scared and that is traumatic. It can induce anxiety.
2006-08-30 06:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by scarlettt_ohara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind the strenght that he counts on from you and use that. My husband is in Iraq he was able to come home for 10 days that's when we were married it hasn't even been a month. And everyday I worry. All i pray for is a normal life with the man I fell in love with. But those are the risk when you fall in love with a soldier. Just continue to have faith. Pray about it and know in your heart he's going to come home safely and he will.. Good luck to you and thanks for reminding me to Love my Military husband just that much more cause it's really serious over there. And please be glad he was able to call you and tell you about it.. And you get to keep looking forward for that phone call that it seems like took him forever since the last time you talked...
Support our Troops.............
2006-09-06 17:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by The'Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count yourself lucky. A lot of lovers and spouses have buried their loves.
It will take time to calm down. You should be upset, someone you loved was shot, in another country, in a war zone, in a place where at least 40 people die everyday.
Stay with friends and family until you feel alright - could be next week sometime before you're really calm.
Good luck and many blessings to you both.
2006-08-30 06:45:49 · answer #11 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋