I met this guy a few months back and hes cute- really nice, and we seem to have a lot in common, however he has a really bad lisp! i met him at the bar when i was drunk and i didnt notice it...but we did hang out once and i realized how bad it really is...am i a horrible person for being extremely turned off by this? he wants to go on a date again?? but its just really embaressing and im afraid of what my friends will think?? im 22 and hes like 25?? i dunno..let me know what u think?
2006-08-30 06:20:24 · 9 answers · asked by BLoNdE22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are still a little immature for someone like him. If you had the self-confidence of maturity you would realize that the opinion of others is not important - only whether you and the guy make a good couple.
Why should you be embarrassed if he has a lisp? It isn't contagious and you won't catch it yourself. He is the one who has to deal with it and how shallow people will feel about it.
This poor guy probably thinks he has finally found a nice girl who is able to like him for the inner person and not judge him by his speech. It is a shame that you are really a shallow, immature girl who could never look past what others may think.
2006-08-30 06:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you give the impression that you are shallow and narcissistic (sp.). The lad with the lisp is a human being with feelings. I presume he has gone through his share of b.s. because of his speech. He may be a wonderful human being. Hopefully, I have read you wrong. What would you say to a young woman who queried as you do if the guy was your brother or your son?
2006-08-30 06:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by orfinlimer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is so great why are you embarrassed by him? Should he dump you because you apparently can't spell? I think you should let him go so he can find someone worthy of being with him. You sound shallow, grow up or you will one day be dumped by someone who finds out you are not perfect.
2006-08-30 06:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
u r a shallow person and don't deserve a great guy. and who cares what ur friends think do u define ur life around what ur friends think only u can live ur life for u and no1 else. good luck
2006-08-30 06:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by ndemby05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it embarasses you or turns you off then forget it. Don't lead him on. There's plenty of other guys out there!
Don't be guilted into dating a guy just to not seem "shallow".
2006-08-30 06:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by Jenniphur 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, he is cute and nice and all that
but, if YOU an't get past his lisp, this is gona go nowhere
HE can deal with it so, if you wanna be with him, you need to deal also
and, if the lisp is the reason you don't want to be with him, shame on you--are YOU perfect???
2006-08-30 06:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everybody's different. Everyone wants to be accepted for who they are. If you've landed a great guy, don't sweat the small stuff.
2006-08-30 06:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by LaCosaMasBella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so shallow, or send him my way. Good men are hard to find.
2006-08-30 06:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a red flag. Do you think he might be gay or bisexual?
2006-08-30 06:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋