he always smells his hair and tells him it stinks.
Our 12 year old son is the cleanest boy on earth - he takes a 45 minute shower every night and washes his hair 2 times, it smells nice to me. He washes his hands every time he uses the bathroom or touches something.
I told my husband many times that he is making a clean freak out of the kid and it's not too normal to constantly tell they boy he is dirty. What should I do? I don't want the our son to grow up thinking he is dirty.
2006-08-30 06:09:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
that not good for the young man he need to back off
2006-08-30 06:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband's lack of acceptance and hypercritical behavior can be psychologically damaging. It sounds like he has a personal problem that he is projecting on your son. The way people treat others is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. Get him some counseling. Tell him your perception of his belittling behavior and ask him to share his intent. I would give him the benefit of the doubt and assume his intent was not to hurt your son. Tell him that you don't know if he realizes that he is hurting your son. Tell him that you and your son will make a "code" statement to remind him of when he crosses the line. And teach your son to learn to say "it's a good think you are not TOO critical, and I know you love me with all your heart..." and wink at your husband, so he will know that he has gone too far.
2006-08-30 07:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, its not good for your husband to be saying this to your son. Have a talk with your husband and tell him that you do not like him saying this to your son and that it could be very psychologically damaging to him. Also you should have a talk with your son and let him know that he is not dirty and that he does not stink, and praise him for having good hygiene.
2006-08-30 06:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by MsBeav 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband is the one who needs some help. He sounds like he has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. When you had this nothing ever looks clean to you. I would suggest that your husband see a Psychiatrist to see if he has OCD. If you son is as clean as you say he is then he is not the one with the problem you husband is.
2006-08-30 06:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 02:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by treiber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your husband some help, if he won't go then maybe you & your son should go, so you can deal with the situation in the household without lifetime issue developing for your son
good luck
2006-08-30 06:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by leslieguelker0517 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋