I really am sad my boyfriend after 4 years broke up with me and I cant seem to move on I cry everyday he was?

Question

my life my best friend and now after all we been thru he wants to be live the single life but what about me how do I get over it sometimes I dont see how I can move forward please help

Answer 1

FIRST I WOULD LIKE TO SAY SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOUR BOYFRIEND OF FOUR YEARS BROKE UP WITH YOU. WHEN I READ YOUR QUESTION I FEEL SAD BECAUSE I HAD A RELATIONSHIP WHICH LAST FOUR YEARS ALSO BUT IT END EARLIER THIS YEAR AND I WAS FEELING LIKE I COULDN'T GO ON LIVING MY LIFE ANYMORE BECAUSE I TRULY LOVED HIM. I WANT TO TELL YOU IT WILL BE HARD FOR NOW BUT IT WILL GET BETTER.( I PROMISE).I HOPE YOU FIND SOMEONE TO LOVE AGAIN , WHO WOULDN'T HURT YOU.

Answer 2

Millions and millions of relationships have ended throughout the world just this year and while you feel alone and devastated and like theres nothing you can do, everybody figures out the same thing. "This too, shall pass". Tomorrow, you might have 2 or 3 minutes where you dont think about the pain. Day after that maybe a whole five minutes. Eventually, enough time will pass where, when you do think about this event in your life, you will only think about the good times and the pain you feel right now will only be a life experience. I promise it will not dominate your life like it feels right now, but there is nothing physically to do. Be sad, cry, hurt, but eventually it will get easier with time.

Answer 3

Well I went through a similar situation. He broke up with me 3 months ago. The first month I was severely depressed. Now I am just regular depressed if there is such a term. The best way to get over him is to not have any contact with him anymore. My case isn't that easy because we have a child together. I hope that isn't the case with you. Lose all contact, and give yourself at least 6 months before finding someone new. If you are still crying every day after 3 months then you should probably go to counseling to help your way through things. Remember that someone else better is out there waiting for you, and you will find that person one day and be happy again. good luck to you, and I am very sorry that you have to go through this.

Answer 4

Please dont be sad. Uare not the only feelng like this. My bf left after 2 years and 8 months. During the 2 years i made many sacrifices only to know that he had advertise to look for a wife of his race.

Life is still along way to go. Move on, shift to another town, find a new job if possible, make new friends. Cry as much as u want cos one day u will stop crying when u realise its not worth the tears.

Its hard but believe me u can do it.

Answer 5

First, if he is and was your friend, don't lose that by being so upset you push him away. Everything you shared and gained by knowing him is still with you and you shouldn't regret any of it or lose it by wasting time crying. On his side, if you love him, you have to want what's best for him and let him go find out who he is and what he wants in life. You never want someone who doesn't want you! I actually found MY best friend and lover and HUSBAND on a freeway in So California-I dated a guy for 10 years before that and others as well- when I stopped worrying and just decided to work on ME and my education and my business I started-life and love came to me....its hard, but remember what you've learned, make sure HE knows you're there if he needs you and then let him "go". If you are ment to be together-he'll be back with a vengence-or you will meet Mr Wonderful instead. Get out there, or he won't be able to find you! Remember-he (whoever he is) is probably looking for you right now too! Good Luck!

Answer 6

It will take time but you will overcome this. I was married 13 1/2 years when my husband announced he was in love with someone else. I felt like my world had fallen out from under me. I was devastated. It took awhile but eventually the pain subsided and the anger set in. After the anger subsided, I was able to accept the fact that it was over and once I did that, I was able to move on.

Eventually, I was able to trust men again and I am now married to a wonderful, kind and loving man. I have never been happier and I love my husband more then I can express. He is my best friend and my next heartbeat. He is my everything.

Answer 7

Just think of it this way...if he really loved you he wouldn't have broke up with you...it just shows how much of a man he is....it's ok to cry...sometimes we have to cry because that's the only way we can release all our pain out...but if you're crying all the time it's not healthy for you....get out of the house either by yourself or with some friends and do something fun like clubbin, shopping, a day at the spa, or even to just get some food and chill at the beach or a park...it will help out a lot when you have friends to be there for you....just don't do something you might regret...

Answer 8

oh darling. I'm sorry to see you are so sad. and I can understand. It is very hard to take! But after all, you still got a life to live! don't forget that. To proceed, just consider some points: Obviously it is him who wants to break up. So why? is it because of your fault, or it is just happened? If it is because of your fault (You can find out if you look deep inside you) just try to make it up to him. You can ask for professional help on that. But if he just broke up, without any reason, or at least without giving you any explanation, maybe he has a problem that you don't know. At last if you could not find any reason for that, be sure that he never deserves you! and he will be punished somehow in his life. You just try to proceed, and keep looking. I'm sure you can find the right person for you soon. I wish you luck.

Answer 9

You'll live. That type of thing happens every day. You have to brush yourself off and move on. No need to wallow in self pity while your ex is out having the time of his life. Everyone has control over their own life and your ex, even though he's an azz for doing it, took control of his life and broke up with you.

Now it's time for your to take control of your life. Co-dependency and feeling like your life doesn't exist without another person in it is dangerous. You have to find your own inner happiness with or without a man beside you.

I've been cheated on, broken up with and now I'm with a wonderful man who respects me and cherishes our relationship. You'll find someone like that, too.

In the meantime, find something distracting that will better you like working out or whatever you like. In time, maybe a couple months or so, you'll get used to being without him and you'll wonder why you were so heartbroken in the first place.

You can't make someone love you. You can only love yourself, for sure.

Answer 10

Hey I know what it feels like but, think how short the life is and if you keep on crying and thinking about him you will loose every minute of your precious life. There are other things to think of YOU CAN'T HAVE JUST LOVE OF YOUR BOYFRIEND IN YOUR LIFE, you have your parents, relatives your carrier try forgetting and make a fresh start remember "When you wake up in the morning make a fresh start every day" I hope this will help you out.

Answer 11

Having a broken heart is the worst feeling in the world. My boyfriend broke up with me, a person I was only with for three months, but whom I still love will all of my heart. When he broke up with me he told me he just needed some space, and space I gave him. After two months of giving him his space, and waiting and crying, and after telling me that he still loved me, I found out that he was dating another girl. Three months isn't as long as four years, but I put my heart in his hand. I loved him with all of my heart and to this day I still love him. He was the first person I ever slept with and experienced many other things. The sadness wont go away just because you want it to. Healing takes time. What helped me he most was beign with my friends and just trying to put my mind on something else. I still cry for him, but I feel much better now. I still love him after all this time, but I just need to find someone who truly values me. Remember, not everyone is wise enough to see what they have in front of them. Love is the most beutiful feeling in the world and it should be fought for, but it has to be both ways. Let go of him when your heart tells you it is time. Only time will help heal your heart. Cry and scream all you need to because it really helps. Talk about it every day until it becomes a custom in your life. Don't hold any of your feelings inside because it will just make it worse. Be patient and you will see that time will heal your broken heart.