i messed up and reenlisted in the army and now i just want out any imputs?

Question

ok i first enlisted for three years i loved it then i was 17 when i first came in. since i have been on two deployments and i reenlisted on my first for 6 extra years well now that i have been in for almost 5 years i really hate it i miss my fam. back home and times are just hard all around i just dont have intrest in any of this anymore and i want out! i would like any encouragement with out any negative stuff and maybe some advice

i have tried to change mos's to firefighter but they wont let me only reserves and civ. do that one they say and i have tried going active guard and reserve they say i cant do that one either abought two years ago i was having a really hard time after a deployment and i almost broke i tried to get my camand to relese me to a diff unit but they woulnt so that is why i am a lilttle disgruntle i know the honarable thing to do is stick it out and get over myself but i just cant quit thinking that i am wasting my life doing something that i once loved and now hate

Answer 1

If you raised you hand and took the oath I'd say you have a problem. Talk to the chaplain or your C.O.

Answer 2

You're in a slump, dude. Been there. And you might actually be experiencing clinical depression. Go to sick bay and tell the doc, see if you can get some help that way. If they bow up on you tell 'em point blank that you ain't bullsnittin' - you really want some help. It's hard to maintain the pace you've been through and you've got nothing to be ashamed of. When you get through this, you'll be a better soldier on the other side - or a better civillian, whatever - and you'll be in a position to help others through the same thing.

I can tell you one thing I've found - though you've probably already heard it a hundred times - the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence. Right now where you're at you've got a job you're skilled at, steady income, FULL medical coverage, everybody back home thinks you're a hero, and they're glad to see you when you come home. You've also got a peer group and an employer keeping you on the straight and narrow path off drugs and for the most part alcohol, too. In the civillian world, even if you are back home, no one gives a rat's pattoot about you, no one cares if you get a job or sit home and rot, druggies are just waitin' for another carcass to feed on, medical help is almost too expensive to get, and while mom and dad are (generally) always happy to see you, they WILL expect you to get and keep a job, pay your own way, and find your own place to live. It is a hard row to hoe in the civillian world - and there ain't no contract that's going to expire.
Another part of what you're feeling is your age. You've left your teenage years behind and you can't go back there. Believe it or not you are going to be 38 years old one day. You can turn 38 as a SFC or 1st SGT with a retirement secured and a meaningful career to look back on - or you can turn 38 hanging off the back of a city sanitation truck telling the guys about how IF you had stayed in you'd be able to retire now.
There ain't no sugar coating, I'm afraid. Life is a lot of hard work, then you get sick and die. That's true on either side of the fence. That's the big picture. But mainly right now you're feeling the pangs of lost youth and innocence, you've got high-speed burnout, and you're focusing on a date - the end of your current contract - as the solution to all your problems. I'm telling you the truth, the problems never end. But right now you are in a position to choose what your problems will be. That's actually a pretty good place to be.

Answer 3

You are probably suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder after being on so many deployments. Seek some medical attention so you have someone to talk to. Maybe you could get a medical discharge based on a documented disorder.

If you do have to stay the rest of the time, just know that Americans are proud of you for the job you are doing. My ex husband was in the army for 20 years and I was along with him for 19. I appreciate the job you are doing and fully understand being separated from family. You will find, that having the exposure to other locations in the USA and world, will make you an open minded American Citizen. Right now there is a purpose for you being right where you are at. You might not understand the meaning, but one day you will.

I would suggest to you to find some sort of hobby or sport to keep you occupied while you are off duty. Something that will totally take your mind off of your job. Does the military still have the B.O.S.S. program? You could do some things with them if you have free time. I always remember that on holidays there were local families here in the U.S. and in Germany that would host single soldiers to dinners. You might be interested in something like that.

Just redirect your mind to positive thoughts. Find positive ways to focus on your military career right now so you are not feeling so miserable. You control how you feel. Before your know it your enlistment will be up and you can get out. Until then, make the best of an undesirable situation. God Bless you and Thank you for serving my country.

Answer 4

It's super hard when your hearts not in it anymore. Any job is hard when you don't like it but putting your life on the line and not being able to feel proud about it anymore or feel good about it anymore makes everyday harder and harder.

so you have two or three more years to finish out your enlistment. Thats a long time to just hang in there and suck it up. There are some things you can do to try and get out,, do you have a family are you married? there are some ways to go about doing it that way. Also being overweight or falling your pt tests are another fairly easy way to do it and still get out with a honorable discharge.

I know you said you have talked to your command about changing MOS's or going to another unit but they aren't keen on that,, are you up for orders anytime soon? Changing posts can sometimes really help. You can also go talk to the chaplin they can sometimes work as a lieasion between your command and you and work something out.

I am super proud of you for wanting to do the right thing,, being away from your family and friends can be soo hard. I am so proud you made it through your deployments safe. There's alot to be proud of for that. Don't beat yourself up too hard over these there are so many other people out there who couldn't or wouldn't put their lives on hold or in danger to protect us. It takes a special type of person to be a soldier, salior, marine, or airmen!!! THANK YOU!!!

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Answer 5

In this day and age, it is very hard to get out of the Army compared to maybe five years ago. My husband has injuries that should have prevented him from being redeployed.. As the result of being injured, due to being forced to do PT in rain from the first injury, he soon had a difficult time being able to pass his PT test.. However, he still had to redeploy even though he hadn't passed his PT test in quite awhile.
While I was reading a few of the answers, I was very intrigued by both the idea that you may be suffering from depression and also the second to last person who posted and billydavisii, they were both very inspirational and enlightening and I commend them both for their service.
I wish you luck.. My husband also re enlisted on his first deployment, now he has approximately 4 years left. It's easy to regret it, but more honorable to finish up the contract. I know that speaking to someone regarding these sorts of issues may be hard while deployed but it might be a good idea to try to speak to a higher up you can trust.

Answer 6

See about changing your status. You can go from active to National Guard or Reserves, I'm pretty sure, and you can be close to your family that way. I would take it to the officer or NCO who is in charge of you (remember that you should always go through your chain of command, lowest to highest) and see what your options pertaining to changing your status is. I don't think that this is a bad thing, it's not for everyone, and definately not right for all times during your life. I wouldn't do something like tell them you are gay or something though, because that dishonorable discharge will follow you around for the rest of your life. Just see what your options are, and be honest with who you talk to, you're not the first soldier who has gone through this, and you won't be the last.
Good Luck!

Answer 7

Its easy for people to say suck it up and you made this obligation and yada yada, but in all actuality military life is hard. I should know I have one. You just have to hand in there. Missing your fam and friends is tough especially during deployments that is where you find out who really cares, who is willing to do something as simple as sending you a letter. You have 5 years left and that is it. That is how you have to look at it. I know that you are disgruntle and morale is low. Hopefully this time will fly by for you. Just think you can use this time now that you still have in to put yourself in a position where when you do get out you will be able to support yourself and fam. Try going to school on-line classes trade schools learn something new and do it for free. Hope I was able to help you out.

Answer 8

I spent thirty years in the same Army you hate. I was seventeen when I went in as an Infantryman. When I got bored with the unit I was in and drinking and partying were taking their toll, I applied for Air Assault School and it changed my whole perspective. I found out that I loved to fly and that caused me to start taking College Classes and apply for flight training. I never looked back after that and the Army and Aviation became one with me. I am now retired with a great pension, have used my benefits to get a Post Graduate education, and now am nearing a second retirement. Did I always love the Army, hell no, was I ever disgruntled and wanted to quit, hell yes! However I stuck it out and life has been more than good to me.

Answer 9

This is hard but the only advice I can give you is.. sometimes I think people forget what being a civilian is really like so they miss it and want out. But I have seen to many people get out of the military and end up having nothing or doing nothing and wish they would have stayed in. I think that you are there for a reason. Don't mess it up, just try to ride it out and things will be okay. It must be hard to have started the military so young, I can't imagine but do you know what you want to do when you get out? Just remember to have dignity don't do something stupid to get kicked out or lie, that will just make you look bad. Hang in there!!!

Answer 10

I ralize it is hard for you and I appreciate your service. If I could I would re-enlist, I truly miss the service. That being said, put yourself in the proper frame of mind to do your job, stay alive come home and remember. Service members in WW2 fought until the fight was over. They didn't have rotations home, had worse food, medicine, inferior weapons. The only thing they had was an honorable enemy. You will be in my prayers this evening.

Answer 11

This actually might be a wise move. The U.S. is heading into another ressession and you will still have a job, free health care, a home and the money for college when you get out. I'm sure pan handling gets boring (because of the resession) after awhile too.