Kid crying at school?

Question

My daughter, 3 year old started preschool on August 1st, 2006. She starts crying as soon as we reach the gates of the school. And according to the teachers she keeps crying all the time. The school timing is from 9 to 12. We have tried talking to her and trying to understand what she is going through. For the last one week, she has even started saying "She will cry if she goes to school". At home she is a friendly, outgoing kid. I am at a loss at what to do. Any suggestion would be very welcome.

Answer 1

Don't give into her. She is scared. You have to tell her that it will be ok. She will have fun. My son was the same. It broke my heart everyday I dropped him off. The teachers were great with him. After a couple of weeks he knew he had to go so he stopped crying and started to look forward to going.

Answer 2

have you tried staying a day with her? If this is a regulated preschool the have an open door policy where parents are allowed to come in at any time during the day. If this is a good preschool, they will encourage this.

Your child my not yet realize that you will come back for her at the end of the day. she may just have some separation anxiety.

the teachers report that she cries all the time has me slightly worried, most children become engrossed at a good daycare, if they are being interacted with by the care givers. Again, spend a day or two there with your child. You don't have to be constantly interacting with her, but just be there, and most importantly observe the day care workers. What is the ratio, how do they interact with the other children, is there child led play time (free play?)

This can tell you if your child is in the right place. I personally am wary of any place that is a "pre-school" as opposed to a day care. Firstly, a child is not ready for school at three years old. If a preschool is set up like a school (desks, blackboard, no toys, and especially tests), get her out!! A child learns by playing, and a good day care knows this and encourages child led learning though play.

Answer 3

Try to remain positive. Dwelling on the fact that she cries won't help her at all. Also if she senses that you are worried or feeling guilty about taking her to school, it will add to her anxiety.
Try asking her what she like about school. Ask her if there are any similarities of what she does at home & what she does at school, such as coloring. Ask her if there is something she likes to do at school that she can't do at home, such as play with different children or a toy. You can then use her answers to get excited about school.
Ask the teacher if there is a "special"job your daughter can do as soon as she walks in. Even a little something can help your daughter feel comfortable in the class and provide her with some good distraction. Ask the teacher if your daughter can bring in a treat or maybe some stickers and pass it out to the class. This will make the other kids happy and hopefully make your daughter happy that she got to share.

Answer 4

i'm in touch while your ADHD question looks with this different tips..did the instructor call your daughter ADHD or by some potential allude to that? if so, then i'm gonna wager the instructor has made a turn in her opinion and now's requiring your daughter to sit down down nonetheless for longer than your daughter is waiting. Ask for a gathering and perchance the school nurse can come too as they see a number of those "ailments" all day long. the instructor shoud no longer be making comments approximately ADHD basically a psychologist, after finding out the pupil and on condition that the confirm has given permission.

Answer 5

My three year-old strated pre-school this year too and it was the same problem. What I did was we read books together about seperation anxiety and bout starting the first day. Also tell her about other sibiling or friends that go to school. Ask her teacher if you can go and stay for a few minutes with her every ohter day and maybe she will let go. If not hten wait until she is reay next year.

Answer 6

Act excited when you drive up to school. Say "Here we are. I wonder if Johnny will be here today? Mrs. Teacher will be so happy to see you." Bring her in, get her interested in something, then leave. Don't tell her you are leaving, when you pick her up, say "See, Mommy told you she'd be back to get you. What did you do that was fun today?" If you are sad and hate to leave her, she is going to pick up on it. My daughter went to preschool last year, and some of the mothers would literall say, "Mommy is leaving now, you have nothing to be afraid of, I will be back, okay." And then they would hang around for fifteen minutes while the kid wails. Well DUH!!If my daughter would start to hang on me, I would tell her to go play and sneak out. She had no problems what so ever. Good luck to you!

Answer 7

It sounds like she is getting a lot of attention for the crying. As long as you are certain nothing is wrong, you have to start ignoring the crying and it will stop. You can't reason very much with a three year old. When she says she will cry, just say, "Ok" and leave it at that. The crying will stop when she stops getting attention for it.

Answer 8

Prior to preschool, was she cared for by you or a close relative? It may be seperation anxiety. My suggestion would be to attend school with her one day, help out with the teachers, make it be a fun day for her, take some snacks for the children, etc. and pray she "sees" preschool from a different perspective, and meets new friends.

Answer 9

well this may sound harsh but it works. tell her it is okay to cry but have the teacher have a chair set aside tell her she needs to stay in the chair until she finishes crying then she can get up and join in the fun. of course the teacher has to agree to this. you might tell she has 2 choices 1 to sit in the chair and cry or join in with the other kids. you will be surprised at how good it works. it has worked for me many a time. i am a pre-school & s.s. teacher. she is playing a game don't let her win.

Answer 10

Maybe you have to talk with her. ask her why is she scare about or why she doesn´t like school. Try to explain that the school is a good think for her, that she is going to make a lot of friends. Maybe you have to invite a kid from her school to your home.