Should men have equal rights in child custody matters?

Question

and please explain why you are for or against.

Answer 1

ye they should i dont see why not, they should get social workers to choose who is the most capable parent, it should not be based on mother or father. that is lazy and sexist, and even tho im a woman i think it is completely ridiculous that women would give out yards when theres sexism towards them (however i am against it) and men are stuck with nothing they can do.

Answer 2

As Long As Both Parents Are Ok ( Fit To Look After The Children)They Both Do Have Rights They Don't Have Custody Now Only If There Is A Dispute About Where The Child Or Children Should Reside.

Answer 3

Honestly it depends on the situation and the type of man and father he is and was. If he was a good father and the spouses can't get along fine. Then at least let the man see and visit his kids. Don't take his own flesh and blood from him. If it's the exact opposite where he's abusive to the woman and the kids then keep them as far away as possible from that jerk and get the child support payments from him. If he's kind of in the middle. I'd say suppervised visits with the kid's dad is fine but as long as he doesn't do anything stupid. It all really depends on the situations and what types of men we're dealing with on each case. No I'm not a lawyer, judge, or jurry but I can make some rational decissions on these things. Pray it never happens to me or any one I know. Unfortunately it does happen and too often to good people too. I think the real victims here arent' the wife or the x husband, bf or whatever he was. The real victims are the kids.

Answer 4

Why not?

We were there to create the child,

In most (but I'll admit not all) cases there is an ongoing relationship with the mother, which usually means the same with the child,

and if we are expected to pay for some of the upbringing, then why would we not be entitled to have equal rights in custody?

Equal rights are usually present during an ongoing parental relationship in one form or another...

However,
If no commitment or such like is displayed by EITHER party involved in the ongoing care of another human being, then I believe they waive their own rights.

Mother OR Father.

Answer 5

i think they should, i am woman and i feel it is disgusting the way some women use their kids to get to their partners, ok if there is a reason for them not see them like violence or drugs or drink addiction etc but to just be plain nasty, i think these women that threaten to leave with the kids every time things get tough and don't go their way need to think again about the reasons they Had kids in the first, do they love them or are they just leverage to get what they want, i think that if there is no reason why the father should not have equal custody, then i think it should be done, just cause the women gives birth doesn't mean the ,man does not have as much right or love for those kids.

AAARRRRGGGGHHH there i have had my rant i feel a bit better now. lol!!

Answer 6

Yes. Who ever is best placed to look after the childs needs should get custody and this is not always the mother. The UK courts are very biased on this matter and nearly always favour the mother. It is very wrong. But children need both their parents so whatever happens in court make sure you keep up regular contact with your kids. It is worth all the grief in the end.

Answer 7

Yes they should, if they are the more stable and better parent then I believe a child/children will do just as well if they are with their father. Although personally i think the parents should try and work out a way to share custody, a child is for life not just the party season...
ttfn ;o)

Answer 8

In some circumstances yes they should, I can see this from both angles, my partner has equal rights to his Daughter and has her every weekend plus additional contact as and when, he pays maintainance and is there for his Daughter emotionally and financially, granted, he went to court for this due to a breakdown in communication with his ex. I on the otherhand have the opposite, My Son sees his Father every weekend too, he doesn't take him anywhere, spends on average 20 minutes to an hour with him and pays a minimal amount of maintainance to support his child, he is not there for him emotionally and never has been. I have never stopped him from seeing his Son and nor would I, if he stops seeing him it will be off his own back.

So, yes, under certain circumstances they should have equal rights.

Answer 9

yes and no...did they have to go thru the pain of giving birth? no? well then the mother should have just a little more rights then the dad...but that might b biased cuz i hate my dad and anywayz the mums bond with them better because they have to carry the child around for 9 months but i guess if the child is +8yrs then they should have a say b.cuz itz they're life too
not all dads are bad i guess this is also a lil' biased cuz i'm female (not a parent-way too young for that )
but i guess i wouldnt really no cuz i ain't a pazzy
but mb i'm being harsh it depends on the situation i guess dads can do a good a job as mums i think it shouldnt have to come to custody battles anywayz its stupid

Answer 10

It's not a matter of gender it's a matter of responsibility to the welfare of the child/children. If there is no hope for an amicable agreement between parents/ guardians the courts will step in, though they do not discriminate in favour of the Maternal parent. This is a common misconception.. the children ALWAYS come first in accordance with current legislature.. this system is not perfect, neither is it broken.

Answer 11

Absolutely ! Why should the women automatically get custody ! Who says that the child would be better off with it's mother ! To think that is sexist towards men !