How do you know for sure when you have found the one to spend the rest of your life with?

Answer 1

If you're a female, it's SIMPLE. The guy who wants to spend his life with you is the one. You don't get to choose. A man may be the perfect man for you in every way and you may feel like soul mates. But you can be sure he's not the one you'll spend the rest of your life with if he doesn't choose you. The guy who wants you is the one. If you're going after a guy who doesn't fit that, then you're in for tons of pain. If you don't like the guy who wants you, hang around with him for awhile and give him a chance. If it still doesn't work, you'll have to wait until the next guy comes along that is crazy about you.

If you're a guy, it's SIMPLE. Date until you're somewhere between age 30-35. At that time you'll probably have one girl in your life that you really like and care for. She's probably not a girlfriend. Maybe she's an ex-girlfriend. She's probably your best friend, but you don't know if she's the one because you don't have that crazy emotional confusion/lust that you think is the sign of true love. (But you're so wrong!) If she's faithful, kind, honest and you love talking to her and being with her then grab her up NOW. She's probably hoping you will. If you don't make a move you'll lose her and later realize down the road that she was the best thing you ever had. Things only get more complicated as you get older. Forget looking for that 'spark' or complaining you don't have chemistry with her. If you're friends that's the type of chemistry that counts. Don't be fooled by chasing those adrenaline feelings. Those relationships are built on nothing and don't last. Don't blow your chance to be with the real thing. When you reach your 30s, your best friend is your best bet for something that can make you happy long term. Good luck! :)

Answer 2

You don't. People over the course of their lives change your relationship changes, some one dies, some one falls out of love, etc. It isn't like it was 300 years ago, when the average live span was about 40 years, marriages lasted maybe 8 because of death, women dying in childbirth, half of all babies died before they were a year old.

All you can go on are those things that you have in common: and each is even tempered, and nothing is a big deal, and that you each have good communication skills..... Same race, same religion, same politics, same thoughts regarding $$ and how it should be earned and spent, same ideas on how children should be raised, same educational level, same goals in life, and a few of the same hobbies. Relationships are of three things" Respect, Admiration, Passion, and a whole lot of trust. Relationships can survive an one or two of these missing, but trust, being part of admiration, is surly extremely important. Nothing is forever. You go with your best shot, and marriage is at times lots of forgiveness, and lots of giving, and lots of hard work. Add children, and the strain is even bigger. But even if it ends, don't be sorry -- be glad that it happened, and remember those great times together. Omit vengefulness from your life style and thoughts. Helpful???

Answer 3

You will know! I hate to start out on a negative note,but at least 50% of marriages end in divorce. It is hard!! People change over time and it is important to be with someone who you trust, and cherish. Be sure the communication is good and that you both have the same ideas about marriage, children, finances and religion. Sometimes we get caught up in the whirlwind that happens in a new relationship. It isn't until the newness wears off that we realize we may have made a mistake. Don't rush into anything!!

Answer 4

u will know when u want to spend the rest of ur life with that person, because he or she Will be there for u and miss u when ur not there. they will hold u when ur sad an d make u happy when ur mad and if that person really loves u and u really love that person then u will know if u want to spend the rest of ur life with them.

Answer 5

If you miss them and think about them often, if they have qualities that you need your mate to have such as trust, communication, etc. And most of all, if you can have fun in the worst situations.....my now husband was my high school sweetheart and prom date....we broke up for 9 years! But when I was pregnant with my child, and his father left us in the hospital, my now husband drove 1,000 miles to pick us up...his truck broke down recently, and we both walked to the gas station on the hwy laughing and holding hands...if you can go thru hard times with this person and still be happy with each other...this person is the one.

Answer 6

Remember that the rest of your life is hopefully a long time,and there are no guarantees. However, you will know when it is the right one. You will feel it in your soul ! Hopefully you have dated a few to know when that feeling of a soulmate hits you.

Answer 7

Ask yourself these questions:

Does this person make me smile whenever they call or i think about them?

Would I do absolutely anything for this person?

Am I thinking about this person all the time?

If you can answer yes to these questions there is a very high chance they are the one.

Answer 8

from my point of view you will never no because i was sure i found the one to spend my life with and guess what? he was NOT

Answer 9

when the thought of being with another disgust you ,look itno the persons eyes do you see the rest of you life

Answer 10

You'll know once you find the right person because there's this specific chemisty between you and your significant other.