My best (girl) friend has gotten a new bf, and I feel we are becoming more distant. How can I get closer to her again without her thonking I'm making a move or something. Should I stay away from touching her, since she has a bf?
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2006-08-30 05:22:35 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do anything, she's your friend not your girlfriend. If you push things she will stay away from you. Just be there when she needs you and be the friend you always have been. She has her own life to live just like you have yours.
2006-08-30 05:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah definitely don't touch her, what you need to do is stay friends and hang out. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Don't dance around it, be honest and get right to the point. If you aren't jealous b/c she's seeing someone else, mention that to her, also say that you don't want your friendship to suffer b/c she has a bf. See if you can hang out with her one night (if he bf doesn't mind) and do that every once in a while so you don't seem so distant. If her bf does mind have him come along and you bring a friend...girl of course. Don't make it a double date, just a friendly get together and go from there.
2006-08-30 12:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by dancer1883 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls tend to pull away from their guy friends when they get a new boyfriend, either due to the new bf being jealous, or the girl not wanting there to be any jealousy flying around. You can still give her a hug, just be touchy feely with her like you used to be. Try and respect that she is in a relationship with a guy. You can tell her that you feel since she has a bf that she doesn't want to hang out as much, but that you understand her being in a relationship that her bf is going to come first, that you just miss hanging out with her. Let her know you're happy for her.
2006-08-30 12:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to give her some space, if you start trying to get closer to her she will think you are jealous because she has a new bf and then you'll come off as a stalker. Just do your thing let her come to you. If this was a long friendship she won't stop talking to you and if she does then you should make other friends.
2006-08-30 12:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by vamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you touch her? That's a bit creepy.
In all seriousness, I would say just to let her know you're still there whenever she needs you and that she can still count on you. Chances are, she is just respecting her boyfriend by not being in much contact with you. Would you want your girlfriend to be talking to other guys and touching them?! It's all about respect, don't take it as an insult, but rather it's her way of being a good girlfriend. :) I hope you understand!
2006-08-30 12:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by kisme86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should avoid the lovely affectionate gestures like hugging and kissing unless she initiates them. Basically, you have to keep your cool and your distance. If you make her feel threatened in her relationship with her boyfriend because of the things you do, you may really lose her as a friend. Don't worry, she won't forget you. You may just see her a little less than before, that's all.
Cheers :)
2006-08-30 12:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, flip the script. My best friend (a guy) has a new girlfriend. She is very jealous of me, she knows of me, and knows we were friends, way before they met. That being said, I also know, my friend...well, he likes her a whole lot. So.....I'll back off, just enough to give her the space she needs, but not too far, so I'm there if he needs me....
think about it, might be a good solution for you.
2006-08-30 12:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to get over it and quick.. just cause she has a bf that doesn't mean that u and her arent' friends anymore.. but now there is a another party that requires her time also.. u need to respect the relationship that they got and be happy for her.. still call her, still visit her when her bf aint' there of course and just see how's she's doing...
ur starting to sound jealous... why don't u find urself a gf...
2006-08-30 12:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, tell her how you feel. Make sure she knows that you arent crushing on her,, just that you really like her as a friend. Tell her how distant you guys are getting.. lol..Thats what I would do.
<3Good luck!
2006-08-30 13:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by ANDREA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her her space if she misses you the same way she is going to get close to you if not well she sees you more like a friend so be patience.. Ok
2006-08-30 12:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋