Help pleeeeeeze?

Question

Well my dad died a year ago and my mom was making a fool out of her self trying to get a boyfriend. It makes me so mad. She didnt have one[so I thought]. And one day she told me she is pregnent. With who she didnt tell me.I have asked and she said nothing. She finnaly told me she got drunk at a bar and had sex in the public bathroom with a guy she met for the first time. She really should have kept that to herself. But now all she does is talk about the baby and hang out with that man. She's gon crazy.[she never never drinks around me]. She has sex like with that man all the time. Like I will wake up and walk past her bedroom to go to the bathroom and I can here her having sex and I think its nasty I mean i am 13 and just thinking about my mom having sex. I hate my mom. I just dont no what to do should I be soportive should I tell her how I feel. Should I ask her to let me move in with grams wat.

I also have a lil sis and a ig sis that feel the same way.

Answer 1

if you dont like the situation your in.....get out of it as soon as you can. its not healthy for you.

Answer 2

FIRST off, it's a sad situation al the way around. Your Mom couldn't deal with the death, and now she is paying for her impatience to heal, and probably thinking,"I'll SHOW YOU God!!"
Death is very very difficult to understand when it happens to YOU! I know. It happened to me, at 16.99 years old, and I started doing bad things when my Aunt died.
Sadly, she has put you in a bad situation. You now probably have to go to live with an aunt, or an uncle. If that doesn't work. Then, you have to go to a Human Resources agency, to report abuse. DO NOT RUN AWAY. If your relatives can't help, SOMEONE can. PRAY about EVERYTHING you HAVE to do from the above, before you do it. THEN, DO it!! You HAVE to get out of the house. BY THOSE MEANS!! GO TO A PASTOR of a Baptist, or Church of God Church! Tell THEM what is going on, and THEY can help you. DO NOT say anything to your MOM about this. Let ADULTS talk to her!! She is HURTING, and she MAY think that you are trying to HARM HER!! THIS IS JUST A SUGGESTION! But, you CAN'T continue to be abused the way you are!!

Answer 3

I am sorry for the loss of your dad...

It sounds like your mom is going thru a lot of stuff right now, probably trying to find herself again. That is not to justify what she is doing, just what I think might be an explantion. It doesn't sound like she is dealing w/ your dad's death well at all...but again, I don't know her, so I could be wrong. Am glad she doesn't drink around you and I hope she isn't drinking now since she is pregnant.

What do YOU want to do? Do you think it would be better for you to live with your grandparents? It sounds like you need something stable. If you are home alone alot, if your grades are suffering...I would let her know that you feel you need to go live with them for a while until things "calm down"...I don't think you hate her, I think you hate the situation she put you in.

Best of luck to you. I hope things get better.

Answer 4

Okey. I must say these are one off these situations that are very odd. But for starters you don't hate your Mom. you just feel disrespected. You should definelty let her know whats on you remind & don't think about what your going to tell her. Just say as you feel right away. Tell what you dislike about your situtaion and if there is a possible way you guys can arrange something this way you both get a win-win. Hopefully she acts like a Mom not a women b4 a MOM
Good Luck Kiddo!!! Life is not fare but we have to live in it

Answer 5

I agree with Rale. Talk to your Grandmother first though because if she says no after you already told your mom it will make things even more awkward. Just tell your mom that the way she's going about things after dad died seems disrespectful to you and although she may be ready for a change like this tell her you just aren't. And tell her that's okay (even if it's not) your mom is already pregnant, and she doesn't need you looking down on her. Just tell her that you need more time and you still don't really have closure..... Jsut tell her it's not personal and you still love her yada yada

Answer 6

Yes.. move in with your grandmother. Your mom is having some problems and she may need a little time to get them worked out. It's probably really hard on her and she just needs a break. Try not to stay mad. Hopefully, the break will allow her to sort herself out and then you can go back and start over.

Answer 7

You need to talk to your Grams and explain what is happening to her, even though is might be embarrassing to you. You have been through enough losing your Dad and do not deserve to have to live in that situation. If you can't talk to Grams, write her a letter just like what you wrote here to us. Good luck.

Answer 8

Talk to your mother freely and about hating- in my opinion she make mistake but as you told that she got drunk that why it is not her mistake. Mistake is of that person who had sex with your mother. Do not hate your mother because it will discraze her and she may commit sucide or any thing else like that.

Answer 9

You should very selfish. You mad at your mom because its not your dad. She is mourning but making bad choices.

You both need to snap out of it and stop acting stupid.

Your thirteen..welcome to life. Its not all ice cream and bubble gum.

Answer 10

Alright, your just adding problems by leaving your mom, what happen if she commit suicide? then you blame yourself. anyway you should talk with her, she need her support more than ever now. She is not perfect, we are all not perfect sometimes out of our lazziness we make mistakes. Talk with here always.... she need you..

Answer 11

i think she needs a therapist. she's probably feeling lonely after losing her husband, but that doesnt give her a right for her behavior. Or psycologist.