I'm not sure what to do because I'm 14 and I never have so I'm so inexperienced and I would love some tips or hints....how do I make him happy?
2006-08-30 05:10:07 · 31 answers · asked by Dr. Kat 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have sex with him! If you don't, you're not being a good girlfriend!
2006-08-30 05:13:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Ask yourself this, why are you going to have sex with this guy? You are 14, not 18. what is the rush? You know as well as I do that you are not going to spend the rest of your life with him. It simply will not happen especially if you have sex with him. He will not stick around for a long term relationship with you, cus he does not need to. I say do not have sex with him. Give him oral pleasure if you absolutly feel the need to be sexually active. I would not have intercourse. That is my advise. Really ask why you are going to do it? To make him happy? Why is he matter so much he is just a guy they come and get it then go eventually as though you never even mattered. It is not a wise choice your too smart to just give into some guy cus he wants you to. You are too smart for that. Tell him no and then wait for two months then if you want to then do it. It will prove to you that this guy loves you if he understands and has no whining after you tell him no then good. He stays and your relationship is good, he stops mentioning it then he cares. If he continues to mention it all the time and "whines"about not being able to with you. then he is only after the sex and that is all. I hope this helps.
2006-08-30 12:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should relax. Sex isn't scary. If he's bad at it, it'll hurt a little, but if you really care about him, the pain should melt away. If he's good at it, it will be wonderful the whole way through.
The best way to make a man happy is to show him you love him. When you're both naked, run your hands and fingers and arms over his body and kiss him. Whisper into his ear how much you love him, and he will be happy. He will probably think he's the happiest man on earth.
Good luck with your first time. Even the gates of paradise look scary when you see them for the first time :)
2006-08-30 12:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say do not have sex with your boyfriend till your much older your not ready for this and if he don't take no for a answer it shows he don't respect you or your feelings then you should not be with him if he did respect you he would wait till your ready.
Just you being his gf should make him happy do more things together like cook him a nice meal or go cinema and see a love film together have lots of hugs and kisses for now you have your whole life ahead of you babe if this guy ain't the one the one for you is out there and he will wait till your ready.
Wish you lots of luck and don't do any think that you don't want to do
2006-08-30 12:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by Foxy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to have sex? Or do you just want to make him happy? If it' the first, well, I would advise a cold shower. If it's the 2nd one, well - odds are it will make him happy in the short term, but it won't make either of you happy in the long-term.
You are very young, and the consequences of having sex to both you and he far outweigh the benefits. I know that you feel pressure to do it, but, I'm sure that you are a great person, and you deserve to be with someone who, even if they want to have sex, realizes that really caring about you means not having sex with you.
Good luck.
2006-08-30 12:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by MT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call off the relationship or suspend it until up to a time you think you would be able to put a real smile on his face. This may sound wierd but you will soon realize that boyfriend may be soon tempted to leave you or start to cheat on you and any of those can be very upsetting.
2006-08-30 12:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by charmmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kat,Definately not. you are not ready for this stuff yet and it may cause you many many problem. Don't let him pressure you either. If so, tell him to get lost, he is NOT your friend, let alone boyfriend. Save the sex stuff for when you are older and meet the person that really deserves to be with you. Trust me, you will know when the time is right and you don't have to have "experience" with the right person that truly loves you. Good luck to ya!!! GaryT
2006-08-30 12:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you are under age and 14 is way to young to be having sex. You need to let your BF know that if he loves you then he will respect your descion and you will decide the right time to have sex. dont let him force you or push you, you have th rest of your life ahead of you to experence all kinds of things in life. BUt 14 is way to young.
2006-08-30 12:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 14 years old ....Right now you should be focusing in school not having boyfriends ,,hight school is going to be the best years of your life ...
Besides if you give yourself to him there goes your reputation
you'll be known as the sLuT...
2006-08-30 12:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by ELEN G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him happy by not having sex with him. he needs to grow up and let you do the same. hang on to 14 as long as you can. do'nt be in a hurry.
2006-08-30 12:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by wedged15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about making him happy. He'll please himself whatever you do. You should be thinking about whether having sex underage would make YOU happy. Most girls first time is a disappointment and they wish they'd waited for the right man.
2006-08-30 12:49:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋