how to make my mom change her mind about my bras?

Question

I'm 13, my mom worries a lot about my breats health and don't want boys staring at them. I'm a C cup, so, she makes me wear bras that give much support and no see-through. But I think she goes overboard, I don't like those bras, they are rather confining and hot, especially in the summer. I complained and complained, but she says it's for my best and doesnt' back off. I don't want to rebel, I know she's sure it's for my best, she's a nice mom, but kinda strict on her bra rules. One of the bras are gotta wear is on the website below, the others are alike. http://www.anita.com/de/en/0,1,104,1478,39236__products-detail.htm They all have 4 rows of hooks in the back. Don't u agree it's not the kind of bra a 13 yo would enjoy? How can I make my mom chage up her mind without rebelling? (I don't rebel, but on this bra thing once I tried. Mom didn't get that mad at me but I got a punishment: for a week, after homework I had to copy by hand a text on the importance of bras . One hour to do it

Answer 1

meet your mom's needs and she will change her mind.
read it again...MEET your mom's needs and she will change her mind.
Tell her you agree with her need and want to find one that both of you can live with.
Hopefully by now she realizes how important it is to you.

Answer 2

I am a mother of a 12 year old and we have made a compromise about bras. I told her that she has to wear something that is supportive and not too reveling, so I went and bought her some Victoria's Secret Signature Cotton bras. They come in many different styles, support and colors. The thing I like about them is the fact that they are all cotton, so if she grows a little bit more, they will expand with her. Most of the time you can get a sale on line or through a catalog which you could get 2/$29.00. Go to www.victoriassectret.com and find some that you like.

Try to go to a couple of websites and put some bras that you like on a wish list and then let her see what you have picked out. Maybe if its still something that she doesn't like then have a back up style. Compromising is one of the best ways to get what both of you want without letting go all together. I do applaud what you are doing and not going behind her back. That shows maturity on your part and maybe if you take it a step farther with different types you like, she might give a little in return.

Answer 3

Yikes. At first when I began to read this question I thought "heres another 13 year old who wants to dress like a slut" Untill I saw that picture!!! I am a D cup and I do not need to wear those kind of bras. You have the right to choose what you want to wear at age 13 as long as it is tasteful. They make a lot of bras that are pretty and fashionable and that also give support. That is one of my takes on it. The other opinoin I have is that your only 13 so should it matter what your bra looks like? Who is going to be seeing it? I hope no one but yourself! Your mom is a little crazy making you do that writing about the importance of bras...thats just wierd. Why don;t you do your own reasearch on the internet....find a website with bras that you like....and that are also obviously supportive bras. Maybe if you show her that fashion and support can coexist she might change her mind.

Answer 4

maybe you could ask her if you could sit down and go through web sites of different bra styles.

That is an incredibly uncomfy bra she has you wearing. But i can understand her not wanting you flapping all over the place, or to be a walking nipple.

there are pleanty of full coverage bras that are padded and provide good support, yet arent like wearing your great grammas bras.

http://maidenform.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=17873&categoryId=13&wtlCategory=Maidenform%20Bras&parentCategoryId=1

heres one that atleast isnt SO bulky, although its still pretty big.

full figure and fully coverage bras are pretty nice and they keep you from bouncing around and everything. She probably is trying to keep you from having too much cleavage too.

I wear a 34 dd naturally. They dont even make bras for that size, let alone bras that dont leave you flapping around like someone from africa. Your mom would go nuts with someone like me.. lol.

Answer 5

I agree with you. Not only are those bras ugly, but they are very uncomfortablt........trust me ,I KNOW! lol, you should try telling her thatthey are ugly and that you dont like them. she should just let you wear normal bras and regular t-shirts, that way you are not exposing your breast. I think you would prefer this than those old lady bras...right? either way, guys are always gonna check you out because thats just what guys do. I really think your mom is overprotecting you.just keep trying to get the message across that you dont like these bras. Have an older sister or someone in your family tell her for you..... this is the best I can do... Hope it helped =)

Answer 6

im sorry to say but those are old lady bras!!! you shouldnt have to be wearing those. im not quite sure what to tell her. i never really listened to my mother on that stuff. i just did it anyways. but that isnt the way to go about it. id say though, at your age by now you should be changing at school into gym clothes, and personally when i was in school (i have a large chest) i couldnt find many "pretty" bras and the girls all giggled at the ones i wore. It was embarassing. try your best to get her to understand your point of view. try this site, some of them still cover a lot, but they arent as bad looking.

Answer 7

maybe you could say that your bras are starting to feel uncomfortable and you think it's because your boobs are growing and you need to be fitted and meaured for a new bra. Then ask if you can go to a store (make sure it's one with a nice sensible reputation!) and have a lingerie assistant measure you properly. The assistant (make sure she is a nice sensible middle-aged one!) might then bring some different bras for you to try and your mum can see that the sensible ones aren't necessarily the most comfortable.

Answer 8

Larger breasts need a lot of support, especially if you're going to be doing anything athletic like cheerleading. If you worry more about how your bra looks rather than how it performs, you can actually end up with back problems from having unsupported ta-tas.

Listen to her on this one - once you're old enough to be on your own, you can screw up your body however you want, but until then she is responsible for your welfare, and this is part of how she's doing that for you.

Answer 9

sweetheart, relax. You are 13! My daughter is 10, and is a very developed B cup. Her bras are nothing short of "plain", and very supportive. She really likes "sports bras", have you tried those? That might give you the comfort you need (ie, they are cotton), but the support your Mom wants....

Answer 10

maybe you should try not to be so against it and understand her point. It seems that she's not about to changer her mind so if a bit more positive about the whole situation it might not seem so bad to wear the bras she chooses.

Answer 11

You say you don't want boys looking at you , but you want to wear a see through bra.
I totally agree with your Mum.
One day you will too when your a little bit more grown up