My boyfriend really likes to watch p**n and look at it. It really upsets me that he like to look at other girls n***d and pleasing themselves. He tells me at least he is only looking at pictures and not going to the girls to get some. Do I have the right to get upset when he does this? Am I suppose to be ok with this or is it just me and my kooky way of thinking?
2006-08-30 05:03:51 · 27 answers · asked by lpswimmer05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately, a lot of guys look at porn. It doesn't mean that they are going to cheat. Some guys need visual when they want to please themselves and have a one man show and that is what does it.
However, there are also couples who watch it together as some sort of foreplay.
If it really bothers you then tell him not to watch that in front of you and you may just have to turn a deaf ear as I don't know a guy who doesn't watch or look at it.
2006-08-30 05:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy who's in a relationship and still looks at porn isn't necessarily upsetting, but it is something to think about. If he was sufficiently satisfied, he would have no desire for it. So there is a problem. For now it's not a big deal, but if it's not addressed, it may become more serious.
You have to become the only person he cares about when it comes to sexual pleasure. And the way to get there is to show him lots of affection, and to have sex often. But it's also important to make him feel that he can have sex with you anytime he likes.
If you aren't at the stage in your relationship where you have sex yet, then you have to tough it out as it is until you get there.
Good luck :)
2006-08-30 12:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre not kooky cuz there is no love in prorn did that on purpose
depends on how much sex you are having. If you were married I would advise you to give him alot of it. But since youre not you cant control what he does Why is he doing that? Is he frustrated or just curious? Talk to him. No love has been mentioned here..
2006-08-30 12:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes- What does he mean at least I am not getting from other girls. At least I am talking to you about it instead of getting upset and getting it from another guy. This thing works 2 ways baby. You want to emotionally cheat on me fine.
2006-08-30 12:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it's not ok. I mean, ok i want to see a naked women i look at my girlfriend. Sure if I see a nice girl in town i give her a subtle look, but watching porn even if i know it upsets my girlfriend it's not ok.
2006-08-30 12:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by kang l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would be upset too. You are feeling like you are not enough for him right? Like you are not satisfing enough so he feels like he needs something from someone else? That is how I would feel. Try and figure out what his fantasy is and try to create it for him yourself. Let him know that you want to be his fantasy and you will do what it takes to keep his interest, that he doesn't have to go to someone else for what he wants, he can get it, and more from you.
2006-08-30 12:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being possessive just that.... but u know every person has the right to enjoy his/her life... if ur bf gets some enjoyment looking the prons then u should let him do what he wants... remember a long term relationship can only be established when u give him his space and take urs from him..... let him do what he wants to do... and do what u wanna do.... just try and change ur thinking a little bit...
2006-08-30 12:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is ok a Little at a time. He should have ask "be glad I'm not looking at guys." I don't like it either....But men are stimulated by vision. Women are stimulated in the mind more.
2006-08-30 12:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not kooky,fantasies are ok to a point...but if they are affecting your relationship, it's too much. you can be upset, but start watching naked men & see how his attitude changes
2006-08-30 12:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most all men watch this stuff. You seem to be a bit insecure in yourself. You need to get over it. You could always offer for you guys to make your own movies together!
2006-08-30 12:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋