me and my b/f recently jus split up a few days ago. i agreed to meet him today just so we didnt end things on a bad note. i thought things might have worked themselves out when we did. but it didnt. i felt really awful because he'd bought me a present from his holidays and we had a really great time together. i think that we both wanted to say the same thing. it was me that origionally finished it with him but i love him so much. wat should i do??? i really want to ask him bk. should i???
2006-08-30 05:00:33 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Life is too short for regret if you think what he did is worth forgiving then you should work things out
2006-08-30 05:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by classiclady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to spoil the nice day you've had so far but if you have been with someone and that relationship has got so bad that you've split up, then the odds are that if you get back together it will happen again.
Its quite normal to feel you want to go back to him, you've lost a part of you're life. Think about it for a bit, why have you split up from him, what were the reasons why you didnt want to be with him anymore etc etc and then think to yourself, is all that grief worth going back to because he bought you a present from holiday? I think not.
I'm a big believer in never going back to someone you split up with because of a very wasteful relationship I was in years ago. I split up from someone I was with for 4 years then 8 months later we got back together. Straight away I felt that even though we got on most of the time, it would never last forever. Anyway 3 years on from that and we split up again. Talking about it a year later with her I found out she felt the same way throughout the whole further 3 years, what a waste for us both, we split up the second time for exactly the same reasons as the first time.
Cut your ties and make new opportunities for yourself - have a fresh start and keep busy and everytime you think you miss him remind yourself of why you split.
Honestly my dear, you would not have finished with him if you 'loved him so much'.....when you meet the one you will spend your life with you will realise what love really is. Love, and 'a fondness' for someone are two completely different things but are easily confused when you have not experienced them both.
Good luck chick...you'll meet the right one one day and never dream of being apart from him....
2006-08-30 05:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by BigBoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask him back. It's a new day and if you two are a match, get together for talks but don't bring up the old stuff. You don't say why you broke it up but that is the most important part. If it was because of drugs, booze, or lying or blatant womanizing, you had a right to make the call. Don't backstep because that puts you in a position of weakness and manipulation is next. If you were just being a spoiled brat because you don't get it all your way, he is a fool to amble back into your lair. We don't "finish" it with someone we "love so much" unless we are given to tantrums and other childish behavior. Adults who clearly know they are given to such behavior can say, "Look. I was a spoiled princess growing up. I was out of line the other day and I want to apologize. Can we maybe pick up some pieces and give it another try?" The truth is always the right approach.
2006-08-30 05:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why you finished with him in the first place. If the issue can be resolved then go for it but if it is something that is likely to come up again and again maybe you should take a little time out? At the end of the day though, if you love someone and you're meant to be together I'm a true believer you'll end up together. Good luck.
2006-08-30 05:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't miss the oportunity.
it might never come back. Me and my girlfrien broke up 2 months ago because of me. I was blinded by pride and said some ugly words. When i realized what i did it was too late, and i tried to repair the mistake. I humiliated myself in the worst possible way, i tried everithing but hey not all stories have a happy end (and we had 4 years toghether)
2006-08-30 05:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by kang l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural when you break-up to look at all the good things about the relationship and wonder if you shouldn't give it another go.
But, you should also review the reason(s) that you broke up.
If you've looked at both sides of the coin and you still want to be with him, then just call him up and tell him that straight up.
Good luck !!!
2006-08-30 05:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by pezdispenserwisdom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If you love him so much,why did you break up with him in the first place? First, you need to explain to him why you didn't think things were working between the two of you,and then you need to tell him why you now think things could work. It's true what they say. You never know what you have 'til it's gone.
2006-08-30 05:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be u should,if u feel so sure he wants u back as well...
Sometimes situations become so trying that we fail to follow our heart & take the easiest way out..it's good that even after a breakup u initiated,he still loves u & wants u back,& that u're willing to make the 1st move to work things out!Good luck!!
2006-08-30 05:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if breaking up with each other both made you feel miserable, then you should do something to patch things up. From the point i see it, you are still in love, so why waste the time? Go ahead and make things work for the better!
2006-08-30 05:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to sound harsh but that was your mistake..you really should have thaught about that when u broke up with him. i know ur not likeing what im writeing but thats the truth. You can tell him how you feel but then he'll always think he'll have you on a string and that ur never going to be serious with him. Next time before you break up with anyone..think..can this be resolved? will i love him again?
2006-08-30 05:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you heart tells you to do, if that's what you really wants.
Just make sure the problems that surrounds the both of you are resolved, leaving out problems unresolved will just bring the two of you back to the breaking point again.
Go talk to him and take it easy, so what he says and take it from there.
2006-08-30 05:04:20 · answer #11 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋