At what point after meeting someone who is married, do you decide that having a relationship with this person is worth the hassle and stigma you face for doing so, especially if the spouse is unaware of the cheating?
What stories do you have about how those relationships got started, and why perhaps you prefer them over singles dating?
2006-08-30 04:42:37 · 9 answers · asked by drumrb0y 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Speaking of a one off situation...not dating....eww I'd never DATE a married man, knowingly, if my life depended on it. What crappy deal is that?? Cant see the point and frankly wouldnt want to go there....they made their choice and should leave the missus if they are done.
But of anyone in the world I would have thought I'd have been immune...but I wasnt and it hit me so hard. I knew he was married/me too but bad things were happening, in both our lives.
The feeling that you have known him most your life, and had dreamt about him (someone you'd never ever met) on and off for 15 years, without knowing why and wanted to know what the hell THIS was all about? Having white beams of light encompassing him the first few times you see him...and thinking it was a party trick...being a skeptic and all?
Knowing it wouldnt last BUT having the most intoxicating experience and feeling totally as one with someone for the first time in your entire life, walking on air? I dont know about God or chemistry......just knew an explosion of love, acceptance and knowing that there were no expectations. How is it possible to reject something that at your very core felt right...even when it was so plainly wrong? Had to go with the flow until it ended.......thats all. There was never a question about right or wrong.....just something that was meant to be...for whatever reason.
Saw him again recently, amazingly by chance but I "felt" that meeting coming, 2 weeks beforehand, the signs and my kids knew it too because I told them, not where or when, I didnt know that sort of thing.....and they danced about after it actually happened...saying aww you still love *****, OMG BLUSH but years later, he is still my darling man,....even though he's in his new life and I'm in mine. I dont regret a moment of it and never will. Just happy to have had him in my life, for the brief time I did, and hope he will be happy with his. Life is so good to us sometimes.....you DO get what you need. Takes time thats all.
2006-08-30 06:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by Scully 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You always chose who you want to be based on the person that they are. The hassle and the stigma do not really come into consideration. The only things to consider are these:
1. Will the person be able to give me the time and attention I require in a relationship? and
2. Will this person continue to behave with care and responsibility towards their family?
If the answer to both is yes, and you like the person, then dating them is fine. Even having long term relationships with them is fine. I know some women who had no problems having children of married men and who had affairs for as long as even the best marriages can last.
2006-08-30 04:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not everyone who dates a married person actually knows the person is married, im mates with a fellow who has been married for must be 6 years now, and has only resently started to wear his wedding ring, he has never before because well for he never ever did wear any jewerly and it just wasn't him...if not for the fact he had a near death experence i dare say he still wouldn't be wearing one, (fair enough he has never cheated but well just making a point here) some girls/guys may date the person who is married without knowing that fact. far as im concerned while it does take 2 to tango as the saying goes the married person in question is ALWAYS more responsible than the "other person" as the person who is married is the one who made the commiment to be with someone for the rest of your life and to then cheat and blaim the person u were sleeping around with well thats a losers way out it is always the married persons fault
2006-08-30 04:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by passtheremote2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people join online dating sites that get married people in touch without causing all the hasslte. this way people can talk to other people who have sort of the same problem. talking usually solves the problem and if not then the next step would be to end the marriage indeed. but a lot of issues get worked out over there just because likeminded people are talking about their problems..
2014-03-18 03:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're excellent - shes a homewrecker and trash. once you recognize the different man or woman is already in touch with someone, you want to diminish it out. And if she changed into chuffed being the different woman, meaning she thinks dishonest is okay and in case you stayed mutually with her, what ought to end her from dishonest on you sometime?
2016-11-23 14:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by falacco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question, i am married and i wondered why women like to dates me. espcialy those who chat me on the net.
I can tell yuo my dear friend. the world is going wrong
2006-08-30 04:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looking for married men or women? try adult friend finder
they have it all, married and not, lesbians, bi-sexual and gay. all just looking for sex. married people out and about are more likely just looking for that missing romance in their lives, but be careful a jealous husband or wife is not something to take lightly
2006-08-30 04:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by d_v_us4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been with a married man before.. i liked it.. He was always good to me, i was always the "other" woman so i never had to deal with the bullshit.. only the fun stuff
2006-08-30 04:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by misskaykai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its terrible.
I have seen guys wear FAKE wedding rings to go out looking to get laid. I don't understand these women who are attracted to a m/ man.
2006-08-30 04:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry papi I dont do that
Angie
2006-08-30 04:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋