I'm really starting to get interested in this guy, and from what I see (lol) he is too... We get along super well, and we love talking to each other.
We're talking everyday and we will meet for the first time this weekend. Anyways if all goes well this could possibily become a relationship. Now he's been into a few relationships before (serious ones) and he's done it all basically. I'm scared because I've never had a serious relationship and I don't know what to expect and everything. He has a lot of experience and im not there yet.
Is it normal for me to be a bit scared...? And would anybody have some advice for me? nothing specific, just about ''my situation'' I guess
Thanks :-)
2006-08-30 04:40:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way, one of my friends knows him and ive seen him on webcam :p
so I know hes not a 40 year old! haha
2006-08-30 05:00:48 · update #1
My advice would be: take it slow and don't worry about his past relationships. You should just enjoy the relationship step by step and not rush anything until you are ready and he is ready. Good luck!
2006-08-30 04:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have your act together. Being nervous is completely normal, only time will ease that. So, that should be no big worry.
The only thing I would say is that as a young person you always want to keep your options open. I have no idea what your plans for the future may be, but in any relationship, you don't want to sacrifice any major goals that you may have. (There is always some give and take on the small stuff, but the big stuff - your values - should be non-negotiable).
Last, I would say to try and relax as best you can and just ENJOY. You're at a wonderful stage of your life - trust yourself, be yourself and strut your stuff.
Good luck !!!
2006-08-30 04:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by pezdispenserwisdom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you and he can talk and are so comfortable really speaks well of the possibilities here. Don't dwell on his past experience or your lack of experience, each relationship is different and new. The fact that you haven't had a lot simply means you don't have a lot of "baggage" from bad experiences.
Enjoy your time with him. Keep talking about everything, including your feelings and your fears so he is aware of them. Time will lessen your fears and make this your relationship as a couple and less about either of your individual pasts. No matter what has gone on in the past, the future is what matters. Just focus on each other.
Good Luck and Have fun!!
2006-08-30 04:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your experiences of having relationship, it shouldn't concern you at this time.
You should however think about where to meet and what to do just in the case things go south. He seems like a nice guy from you had describe, but you should always prepare in the event you need to leave the scene.
Just be youself and enjoy your time, having less experience with relationship shouldn't make you feel unrest. Just have fun when you go out and see where it takes you.
2006-08-30 05:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by thsiung 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal for you to be a bit scared. Be yoursefl - don't pretend to be someone you're not. Every experience in a relationship is unique and it's just okey if you do not have much experience in it. What matters most is how you communicate with each other.
Good luck!
2006-08-30 04:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by smiling face 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax, go with the flow, and understand that you will have a great many relationships in your life. This is only one of many and by the time you end up marrying one day, you will be an old pro at this stuff.
2006-08-30 04:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have u never seen this guy before, girl id be scared to. do u no him at all. firts of all meant in a public place. dont go any where with him for the first few dates just meant up in public somewhere till u get to no him if he cares for u he will understand just be save and not sorry later.
2006-08-30 04:48:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and enjoy your new friendship. Focus on that and everything else will fall into place. Yes its normal to feel scared, just be yourself, cause thats what attracted him in the first place. Good Luck.
2006-08-30 04:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its al lgood to be scared and feeling a litle out of your league.Remember ot be yourself and show him who you are/Do not allow him ot force you into any issue you do not feel comfortable speaking about or dealing with/Watch where you go and who is around you also.This can be fun BUT remember to stay in a neutral place just for safety reasons.
keep others near you JUST in case something goes wrong.Donot be afriad ot run like hell if you feel your gut saying GET OUT.Let them know you are not comfortable doing something or wish not to speak of the topic.Remain clam and always present yourself that way you want him to treat you ok .Rational thought would prevail if you keep your wits.
2006-08-30 04:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just take it one day at a time... u just cant have a serious relationship from day 1... the relationship gradually becomes serious when u know everything bout each other.. so just relax
2006-08-30 04:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by UK GUY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋