let's say, hypotheticaly, there are two guys:
Guy #1: Very hansome, sexy, sex with him is great; He is also very sweet, caring, attentive, good listener. On the other hand, he's a big pushover, doesn't stand up for himself and sometimes he embarasses you due to the lack of social skills and akwardness among people. He has a good job, but probably won't make much of a career due to the lack of assertiveness.
Guy #2: Cute, but not quite hansome, also does not satisfy you sexually quite well. He is, however, nice, caring, has a good sense of humor, and you feel very comfortable with him. He also has superb social skills and all your friends and family like him. He knows what he wants, has a good job and career.
Imagine that both of them proposed to you. Which one would you be more likely to choose?
2006-08-30 04:34:23 · 23 answers · asked by Kaytee 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PS - please indicate in your answer whether you are married or not.
2006-08-30 04:40:37 · update #1
guy #2, he's a keeper. if his only fatal flaw is in the bedroom, be the teacher and have fun. he has more confidence and attributes to make a great partner
2006-08-30 04:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would choose Guy # 2 becuase you can at least work with this one. You know that he has ambition and a drive to want to be someone in his life. Your family and friends like him and he can actually carry on a conversation without boring the entire room. His looks could mean alot or nothing. If you are very particular about guys looks then this guy wont work for you, but if you can see past that and see what he has to offer then he is perfect for you. And the whole sex thing, you have to start somewhere. Maybe he is inexperienced and needs a few lessons on SEX 101. If so, then you can teach just how you like it. How well would that work out for you??Sounds like a match.
2006-08-30 11:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by c_69_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would choose guy #2. The sex will improve over time. Maybe you just have to get him to open up more and let him know what you would like in the bedroom. I had a handsome sexy guy and it turned out bad cuz he turned out to be a cheater. (my experience of course.) And as far as being a pushover, if he cant stand up for himself he probably wont for you and that could cause lots of relationship problems. If they both want to marry you i would slow each relationship down til you completly know which one you will truly be happy with. Good luck!
2006-08-30 12:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by humorme! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact with both of these things is that social skills, or bedroom skills can be learnt and conditioned. So don't think of them as problems!
However, personally I'd rather choose the second guy. I just think teaching someone to satisfy you sexually is a lot easier than teaching someone how to be 'less of a pushover' and more social. (Besides the fact I suck with social skills.)
Interesting question though. :)
2006-08-30 12:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by RSJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, interesting question: Guy #1 has alot of good points however might not be going anywhere in his life, Guy #2 sounds like a really nice guy - maybe like your best friend. The sexual part you could teach him and see if he gets better however if he is too much of your best friend - then I wouldn't choose him either.
So actually probably not any of the guys - I would look for someone who has qualities of both those guys!
2006-08-30 11:41:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They both seems like nice guys from your understanding. If they both have problems that you don't want to deal with then find you someone else. Why go into a relationship and try to change someone when they probably are not willing to change for you. But on the other hand its up to you to make that choice you are the one that is going to have to deal with there akwardness and dissatifications. Were are just here to give our opinions and advices but it is totally up to you. If they want to take a big move of marriage then seems like to me they need to get themselves together first before you make that particular move. You gotta make your own choice but they got some changes that needs to be made first.
2006-08-30 11:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
# 2 sounds the best looks isnt ever thing and as for the sex tell him what u like show him what u wont get books the to of u can read have fun with it .i got one on positions me and by b/f are having a ball, he will get it #2 but u cant have both sweety someone will get hurt most likely u
2006-08-30 11:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy #2 The part about 'He knows what he wants' To me that means that he has a good head on his shoulders. I want someone who has direction in life.
2006-08-30 11:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy #1 b/c all he needs to work on is his assertiveness and once that happens he will have a good career.
2006-08-30 11:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guy #2.
As long as he has a sense if humor.
2006-08-30 11:39:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jillibean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋