Please help me understand these confusing signals.??
Ok this girl i like sent me and email, replying to mine on asking her how she felt about me..heres what it said
hey,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now shes 13, and I'm 15. She used to be all over me, but then backed off. Her and her mom are really close, and her mom told me she want me to date her daughter, she said that she is just really scared of ruining the friendship. Now based on this email, do you think she is just scared, or do you think she is letting me down easy? What should i do
2006-08-30 04:31:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she doesnt sound like she really wants to fit in a relationship at the moment and doesnt want to risk the friendship so just stay friends feel her out and if things change then thats great but if not you have to be able to get over it and move on..she might also be into another guy..shes 13 highly doubt she wants to be confined
2006-08-30 04:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by desireddisease15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't at all sense mixed signals from the email. She was defintely responding to a question(s) or comment you posed to her. She was letting you down easy. What he mom wants may not be what she wants. Although you can feel good that her mom think you'd be good for her daugher, you really can't put too much into what her mother says.
Respect that fact that your friend sees you as such a good friend that she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I know some girls who would be absolutely ruthless about it. Your friend is a good person to consider you that way. You guys are both so young though. It's probably best that you just be friends. If you guys are meant to be together a few good years in a solid friendship wouldn't hurt.
2006-08-30 11:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,I think U need to just leave it alone for now and continue the friendship.If there is something really there then it will happen in time but if u push it.It could back fire and u loss the chance and the friendship.So just be cool and just stay her friend for now and see what becomes of it.Its not her moms place to set her up she has a mind of her own and she needs to be able to decide for her self.Cause if she feels u and her mom are ganging up on her she may resent u both.So just chill and continue and let love take its course for u both.And enjoy the friendship no matter what.
2006-08-30 11:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by motherof319662000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me she's letting you down easy! Maybe you should just remain being friends for now and enjoy each others friendship. You will have plenty of time when your a little older to see what can come out of this. Good Luck
2006-08-30 11:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by notoldjustwise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think she is 13 and has NO IDEA what she wants in life! She has alot going on in her life- and you are her friend- and she could very well be afraid of losing you all together! BUT the best relationships begin as friends too! I met my hubby in 10th grade in highschool and we have been married 22 years now! So highschool LOVE can last! Give her breathing room- dont push her into a corner- stay being her friend- and god only knows- it could eventually turn into ALOT MORE! Good luck to u!
2006-08-30 11:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off and maybe if she is scared one day she will have the confidence to do something about it. Or perhaps she is not all over you anymore because she thinks she is giving you the wrong idea and she isn't interested in you. either way really sorry mate.
2006-08-30 11:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is LETTING YOU DOWN easy... If she was interested, she would have said so. I say chill out and back off.
2006-08-30 11:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend and forget about the rest till you both are older.
2006-08-30 11:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i read another question like this a lil bit ago...and i think shes trying to say that she just wants to be friends
2006-08-30 11:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill out and find someone else
don't don't anything if ur really good friends
2006-08-30 11:36:02 · answer #10 · answered by LazyForLife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋